Sending my sister off to Andover or Exeter

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Andover has a lower school
https://www.andover.edu/learning/academic-curriculum

I believe Andover's lower school is 9th and 10th grade.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:As an alum, I am a little distraught that Princeton has lowered its admissions standards (particularly its writing expectations).

I'm concerned too. the lack of common sense here is disturbing. She has the rest of her life to try "living in NYC." Heck, between age 18-30 I had lived in 3 countries and 4 major US cities. What a futile thing to worry about.

Yes, indeed. However, going to college and experiencing NYC as a students is much more different IMO

[Anonymous]

OP, you're in college and your sister is in elementary school. You're trying to control things happening way off in the future that you have no control over, such as your sister's academic interests. Stop trying to be the "rescuer" of your family. In 12-step circles, we would call that co-dependency.

And FFS, could you let your sister have a childhood?!!! If you're concerned about her future, how about figuring out what her interests are and supporting her in what she wants to do, rather than what you think she should do?

Sorry to be so harsh because I know you're coming out of a place of caring about your younger sister - but I think you're deeply misguided in this and perhaps responding to your own anxieties and probably not helping your sister.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Andover has a lower school
https://www.andover.edu/learning/academic-curriculum

I believe Andover's lower school is 9th and 10th grade.

Wait, I messed up. Sorry. Guess this is irrelevant now

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, you're in college and your sister is in elementary school. You're trying to control things happening way off in the future that you have no control over, such as your sister's academic interests. Stop trying to be the "rescuer" of your family. In 12-step circles, we would call that co-dependency.

And FFS, could you let your sister have a childhood?!!! If you're concerned about her future, how about figuring out what her interests are and supporting her in what she wants to do, rather than what you think she should do?

Sorry to be so harsh because I know you're coming out of a place of caring about your younger sister - but I think you're deeply misguided in this and perhaps responding to your own anxieties and probably not helping your sister.

Yes, I should now thinking about it. I honestly told someone told my parents back then. Maybe I would've been at Columbia then...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

sparky wrote:My parents prefer public school at this point however, as they saw me get into Ivies from them. However, they also saw me get stressed out due to the environment there, and might send my sister to a private school when she reaches middle school soon. Since I'm going off to college, my parents are seriously talking about it.

I hate to say this but tbh, with parents like these, I think there's no way your sister doesn't end up stressed out. I wager that it's the parents, not the school.

agree. the parents and sister need to get better informed. Boarding schools don't give full rides to ESOL "highly capable" students. It is merit and money based so if sis isn't grinding right now, she won't get in. If she is hard working, goal oriented, go for a URM ESOL spot at a local day school that gives lots of fin aid to such students.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, you're in college and your sister is in elementary school. You're trying to control things happening way off in the future that you have no control over, such as your sister's academic interests. Stop trying to be the "rescuer" of your family. In 12-step circles, we would call that co-dependency.

And FFS, could you let your sister have a childhood?!!! If you're concerned about her future, how about figuring out what her interests are and supporting her in what she wants to do, rather than what you think she should do?

Sorry to be so harsh because I know you're coming out of a place of caring about your younger sister - but I think you're deeply misguided in this and perhaps responding to your own anxieties and probably not helping your sister.

Yes, I should now thinking about it. I honestly told someone told my parents back then. Maybe I would've been at Columbia then...

Okay then, I feel sorry for your sister. Does anyone in your family care about what she wants? And OP, there are lots of people who have fantastic lives and careers who didn't go to Princeton or Columbia. Just so you know.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:As an alum, I am a little distraught that Princeton has lowered its admissions standards (particularly its writing expectations).

I'm concerned too. the lack of common sense here is disturbing. She has the rest of her life to try "living in NYC." Heck, between age 18-30 I had lived in 3 countries and 4 major US cities. What a futile thing to worry about.

Yes, indeed. However, going to college and experiencing NYC as a students is much more different IMO

much worse. unless you're loaded and not in STEM.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, you're in college and your sister is in elementary school. You're trying to control things happening way off in the future that you have no control over, such as your sister's academic interests. Stop trying to be the "rescuer" of your family. In 12-step circles, we would call that co-dependency.

And FFS, could you let your sister have a childhood?!!! If you're concerned about her future, how about figuring out what her interests are and supporting her in what she wants to do, rather than what you think she should do?

Sorry to be so harsh because I know you're coming out of a place of caring about your younger sister - but I think you're deeply misguided in this and perhaps responding to your own anxieties and probably not helping your sister.

Yes, I should now thinking about it. I honestly told someone told my parents back then. Maybe I would've been at Columbia then...

This is more evidence that your anxiety is about *you* and instead of dealing with that, your response is to try to control your sister's life and pretend it's about her.

[Anonymous]

This sounds like every 1st gen SE Asian family in our community. Except they come up with some really creative ways to tell a story.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I meant, Play hockey very well.

That's how DS did it.

But he's also smart. They still don't take bricks--they leave those for Kent and Gunnery.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This sounds like every 1st gen SE Asian family in our community. Except they come up with some really creative ways to tell a story.

I admit Asian culture is pretty problematic. Sometimes I wish I wasn't Asian in all honesty. I might have lacked the drive, but I would have been much happier and my life would have been much more independent.

Speaking of which, I should really let this go and let my sister just enjoy her childhood. I can't spoil her's like my parents did my life for 18 years with constant influence.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This sounds like every 1st gen SE Asian family in our community. Except they come up with some really creative ways to tell a story.

I admit Asian culture is pretty problematic. Sometimes I wish I wasn't Asian in all honesty. I might have lacked the drive, but I would have been much happier and my life would have been much more independent.

Speaking of which, I should really let this go and let my sister just enjoy her childhood. I can't spoil her's like my parents did my life for 18 years with constant influence.

Good for you, OP. I know you care about your sister and just want to do the right thing. Good luck sorting out what that is!

[Anonymous]

sparky wrote:I'm wondering how I can prepare my elementary school sister to Andover or Exeter. I was always stressed out due to the competition in a magnet high school, and I hope my sister has a better secondary school experience. I did get into Princeton, however, but I don't think fighting for the spot in a public school isn't worth it vs going to a private school where 20% of the population go to an Ivy. I want help send her off to the Lower School and then the Upper school if possible. I talked to my parents and they seem to be positive about the idea, as the district they are moving to next year isn't the best. How should I help my sister go about this?

I call this a bad troll job.

1. Neither Andover nor Exeter have a lower school. They are high schools.

2. No older sister has this much influence over a younger sister's academic experience.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

sparky wrote:I'm wondering how I can prepare my elementary school sister to Andover or Exeter. I was always stressed out due to the competition in a magnet high school, and I hope my sister has a better secondary school experience. I did get into Princeton, however, but I don't think fighting for the spot in a public school isn't worth it vs going to a private school where 20% of the population go to an Ivy. I want help send her off to the Lower School and then the Upper school if possible. I talked to my parents and they seem to be positive about the idea, as the district they are moving to next year isn't the best. How should I help my sister go about this?

I call this a bad troll job.

1. Neither Andover nor Exeter have a lower school. They are high schools.

2. No older sister has this much influence over a younger sister's academic experience.

Sorry, but this isn't a troll job. I can verify I am a Princetonian if you would like. I mistook Andover's lower school for a middle school. I got mixed up with the terminology from my local day school, where a lot of my friends attended. I didn't look into Andover/Exeter that deeply as well (didn't have too much time, should have done more)