Expose details of the affair to the other woman’s (AP) husband?

[Anonymous]

You confronting them already in the manner that you did was extremely low brow. If I were you I'd save face and avoid their orbit while preparing to seperate from DH.

[Anonymous]

Seek therapy.

[BigD]

"long hugs" - is your husband and AP 12 years old?

I'd bet my dog on the fact that they made out at least. No way were they walking back to her car and having "long hugs" in public. Did you really buy that? Come on you can't be this naive?

[Anonymous]

OP, you come across as psycho. Get into therapy asap.

[Anonymous]

BigD wrote:"long hugs" - is your husband and AP 12 years old?

I'd bet my dog on the fact that they made out at least. No way were they walking back to her car and having "long hugs" in public. Did you really buy that? Come on you can't be this naive?

Thank you! Hell even a 12 year old would probably try to cop a feel. I might be more angry about the long hug story than the affair, because that's a severe insult to your intelligence OP. There may not have been intercourse, but there was damn sure more than a few long hugs and a thwarted kiss.

[Anonymous]

OP I think you made a mistake not including all the details that you knew at the time in the first email. If there is a lot more, I may be honest with the husband of AP and tell him that you need to hear it from him what his wife confided in him. I bet there is a lot more that you don’t know. I never cheated, but before my DH and got serious I went out with another guy. I slept with him, but my dah still thinks I only made out with him. Like someone suggested before, you only know the tip of the iceberg... just enough to make him feel more honest, but not enough to make you break up with him.

If I were in your place I would call the husband and ask to meet for lunch. Then you can Compare notes. He will
Likely refuse to see you, but if he doesn’t....

Of course he will not think you are crazy. Your husband cheated on you... any woman would still be upset after a few months. Say that you need closure and you want to hear what he knows. That if you forgive your husband, you need to make sure he was honest with you.
You are a normal person... not crazy... just please don’t believe in these long hugs... long hugs happened in the first week they were seeing each other.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
You've already made him aware, he's made it clear he doesn't want to know more so if you continue contacting him it would amount to harassment at this point.

I don't know your situation obviously, but please don't believe that the ow "tried" to kiss your husband unsuccessfully. They kissed and it's like long hugs were not the extent of their contact. Just don't want you fooling yourself about what happened here.



All of this!

+1 especially about the 'long hugs'. Come on!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP I think you made a mistake not including all the details that you knew at the time in the first email. If there is a lot more, I may be honest with the husband of AP and tell him that you need to hear it from him what his wife confided in him. I bet there is a lot more that you don’t know. I never cheated, but before my DH and got serious I went out with another guy. I slept with him, but my dah still thinks I only made out with him. Like someone suggested before, you only know the tip of the iceberg... just enough to make him feel more honest, but not enough to make you break up with him.

If I were in your place I would call the husband and ask to meet for lunch. Then you can Compare notes. He will
Likely refuse to see you, but if he doesn’t....

Of course he will not think you are crazy. Your husband cheated on you... any woman would still be upset after a few months. Say that you need closure and you want to hear what he knows. That if you forgive your husband, you need to make sure he was honest with you.
You are a normal person... not crazy... just please don’t believe in these long hugs... long hugs happened in the first week they were seeing each other.

She went to his home to confront his wife and then after that incident she emailed him. She's walking that line and if she reaches out to him again she'll likely have crossed it. Especially if she calls to tell him a story about long hugs.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You do know that this forum is full of cheaters, right? Like a lot of them. Of course they are going to tell you not to. That's like 2/3rds of this forums worst nightmare.

Just call. I, for one, would appreciate it if my wife was cheating.

I'm not a cheater and I suggested that OP not contact him AGAIN. She has already contacted him once. He knows what happened. He doesn't want to know more.

Why not? The OP has additional details. Fill him in.

But he never asked for ANY details when she told him the first time. If someone told me my husband had cheated with their wife, I'd ask them a million questions. AP's husband just said, ok, thanks. So he obviously doesn't want to know more.

[Anonymous]

No. You’ve done enough.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You do know that this forum is full of cheaters, right? Like a lot of them. Of course they are going to tell you not to. That's like 2/3rds of this forums worst nightmare.

Just call. I, for one, would appreciate it if my wife was cheating.

I'm not a cheater and I suggested that OP not contact him AGAIN. She has already contacted him once. He knows what happened. He doesn't want to know more.

Why not? The OP has additional details. Fill him in.

But he never asked for ANY details when she told him the first time. If someone told me my husband had cheated with their wife, I'd ask them a million questions. AP's husband just said, ok, thanks. So he obviously doesn't want to know more.

For all OP knows, they have an open marriage and are laughing at her. Leave him alone. You cannot make someone act the way you think they should act.

[Anonymous]

2 adults had an affair for a year and all they did were long hugs and kissing - the woman chased OP’s husband around for kisses like fifth graders?. LOL!