Why can’t DH last anymore?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Man here. Have him work one out earlier in the day, or go 2 rounds. How often are you doing it per week?

Not OP.. my DH said something like this. The less frequently he does it, the quicker it happens. I guess it makes sense.

+1. My S/O and I only see each other infrequently ... way too fast off the mark when we first hook up again after a separation!

Same but rounds 2, 3, and 4 all within less than 5 hrs are just fine

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why? He's 40, that's why.

If you don't like it, you'll have to do some manual labor, get some meds, or trade-in for a new model.

I am 61 and my wife has no complaints...she's 42...

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:When a man and a woman love each other very much, there is this thing they do.

No the other thing. It’s called speaking to each other.

Sure, but I’m afraid of hurting or insulting him.

Kerrrist.

Eh, my husband had a related problem, and when I tried to bring it up, he said it wasn't "fair" to talk about that because "it made him feel bad." So...okay, we'll just have substandard relations and you'll wonder why I'm not interested anymore. That's a lot of fun.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:When a man and a woman love each other very much, there is this thing they do.

No the other thing. It’s called speaking to each other.

Sure, but I’m afraid of hurting or insulting him.

Kerrrist.

Eh, my husband had a related problem, and when I tried to bring it up, he said it wasn't "fair" to talk about that because "it made him feel bad." So...okay, we'll just have substandard relations and you'll wonder why I'm not interested anymore. That's a lot of fun.

If my wife wanted something from me, she said so. We conversed. One time we didn’t have sex for a few weeks straight, and she raised that issue. She liked this, didn’t like that. She said so.

[Anonymous]

A few practical remedies:

Condom
PE Cream
C-Ring
Frequent masturbation could be contributing factor but no hard evidence

Best and most enduring approach is learning to control the urge. Little "trick" - if you manage to pass the initial urge (which is like a mini E) you will last a lot longer after that.

Hope this wasn't too explicit

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Man here. Have him work one out earlier in the day, or go 2 rounds. How often are you doing it per week?

Not OP.. my DH said something like this. The less frequently he does it, the quicker it happens. I guess it makes sense.

+1. My S/O and I only see each other infrequently ... way too fast off the mark when we first hook up again after a separation!

Same but rounds 2, 3, and 4 all within less than 5 hrs are just fine

Who has time for 5 hours of that with kids around? Guessing you have no kids?

[Anonymous]

Could it be stress? My SO (age 56) usually lasts for a very long time. The only exception has been when he's so stressed out that the stressors are affecting him even during the most joyful time for us. Then he was done in a few minutes.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Man here. Have him work one out earlier in the day, or go 2 rounds. How often are you doing it per week?

Not OP.. my DH said something like this. The less frequently he does it, the quicker it happens. I guess it makes sense.

+1. My S/O and I only see each other infrequently ... way too fast off the mark when we first hook up again after a separation!

Same but rounds 2, 3, and 4 all within less than 5 hrs are just fine

Who has time for 5 hours of that with kids around? Guessing you have no kids?

Kids are with grandma and/or away at sleepovers.

[Anonymous]

Do things that give you orgasms before getting to the PIV part, OP. That's how it should be, anyway, but especially now.

I have no ideas about what's caused the shift. My husband is in his fifties, and for the 20+ years I've been with him, he's had no staying power. We make sure we do things that satisfy me, before, during, and after. There's no one right way.

[Anonymous]

Wish I had this problem. 45 yo DH takes way too long for my taste—around 25 minutes. I’m good to have him off of me (or me to stop riding him) after about seven minutes.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Why? He's 40, that's why.

If you don't like it, you'll have to do some manual labor, get some meds, or trade-in for a new model.

I am 61 and my wife has no complaints...she's 42...

Yeah, man. Right, yeah, ok, sure.

[Anonymous]

Maybe you're just too damn sexy.

[Anonymous]

Try just a 1/4 tab of Viagra or 25 mgs. One of the effects of V is, like it or not, it makes you last longer. I'm not sure why but it seems to have kind of a numbing effect. Also, you mentioned he isn't usually ready for round 2 that same day. With V, he may well be ready for another round in very little time and the second time should last even longer.

[Anonymous]

My DH is 64 and I'm 61 and I'm glad he's lost some of his staying power because PIV for a long period is uncomfortable for me. I've never timed it....way too busy....but I'd guess he orgasms after about 5 minutes. Years ago we'd go 5 minutes in three different positions and now it's one position at a time. I'm fine with that because our foreplay is much more extensive and that's what I need to orgasm. Quite possibly DH's staying power may be less than it use to be because the foreplay is more intense and varied. Regardless, while things have changed we both seem to be very happy.

[Anonymous]

OP - have you tried different positions? If I'm on top it takes my DH a lot longer than if I'm on my stomach or doggy style. I'm usually the one who suggests the position based on my mood.