Mom Feeds Child Junk Food.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This doesn’t work, and I’m the grandmother who taught the littles the joy of frappes. 95%of the time, the kids get real food. The rest, well...their parents are fine with it, and encourage me to spoil them rotten. Rotten is a new toy, a vanilla frappe with whipped cream, and helping make nuggets from scratch for dinner. I don’t do Twinkies or McDonald’s

Why would you give caffeine to little kids??? Why not weed and booze while you're at it. It's true that you can't fix stupid...

[Anonymous]

My MIL is his main caregiver

This is all that matters. YOU made the choice

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Put your foot down and sternly tell her, she needs to feed him the healthy food he is used to, or you can't let her babysit any more.

I have 4 kids, all very picky eaters, and twins with severe allergies. I can tell you once they get the taste for sugar and junk food, it is almost impossible to get them back to a healthy diet. Sugar is like cocaine for little kids. The highs and lows affect their moods terribly.
I would get rid of all sugar and sweets in my house entirely, but my DH is like your mom and keeps bringing it in. Constant battle

I completely agree. Some might call me crazy, but we eat zero junk food in our house. That doesn't mean DC doesn't get snacks -- she gets yogurt melts, Annie's bunny grahams, things like that. but I always make sure her meals are balanced, with foods she enjoys from every food group.

I would have a serious problem if my daughter was eating mcdonald's and other junk food on a regular basis.

we're lucky to have the financial ability to afford to healthy food. to me, choosing to give our kids junk is neglecting basic parental responsibility.

NP. We don't have any junk in our house either. And Annie's bunny grahams would be included in that. Snacks here are fruit, nuts, seaweed snacks, things like that. We cook our meals from scratch, every day, with no gluten and limited legumes and grains. In our case, we aren't rich but sacrifice a lot in order to have the money and time to do this. It's a huge time and money suck, but we feel that the benefits so far to the kids' health and wellness, concentration, energy, behavior, etc, is worth it.

OP, someone like your mom would not be minding any child of mine, unless there was a serious emergency. It's not even about the junk food anymore - it's a blatant FU, and that wouldn't fly with me. How do you expect to raise kids who respect you (and other people, for that matter) when that's the type of example they see and the type of thing they know you tolerate?

Legumes are extremely healthy. Having them limited in your household is nothing to brag about.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This doesn’t work, and I’m the grandmother who taught the littles the joy of frappes. 95%of the time, the kids get real food. The rest, well...their parents are fine with it, and encourage me to spoil them rotten. Rotten is a new toy, a vanilla frappe with whipped cream, and helping make nuggets from scratch for dinner. I don’t do Twinkies or McDonald’s

Why would you give caffeine to little kids??? Why not weed and booze while you're at it. It's true that you can't fix stupid...

There is no caffeine in vanilla bean frappes.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don't think you're being overbearing. If I were in your shoes I would "fire" your mother and not give her opportunities to feed him at all anymore. My oldest daughter is 12 and she literally is allowed soda once a year, at her birthday party.

I’m sure she never ever ever has soda if it’s offered on other occasions.

[Anonymous]

OP, when my sister was young my grandmother used to watch her (I was older and was in preschool) and my grandmother would take her to McDonald’s every day for lunch. My sister subsequently was a smidge chubby when she was a little kid and she felt very resentful of my grandmother.

Not sure that it was actually my grandmothers fault BUT what is the upside to feeding a child this way????

[Anonymous]

If it was an occasional snack, I wouldn't have a problem with it, but every day is a problem, especially the soft drinks. I did not allow my children to drink them until they were at least 5, and? then only if we were at a party or occasionally at a restaurant. I still had a no caffeine rule, and mountain dew has always been completely off limits. I give them snacks enough that they don't feel like it's taboo, but not enough so that it's all they want. There's a happy medium there.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don't think you're being overbearing. If I were in your shoes I would "fire" your mother and not give her opportunities to feed him at all anymore. My oldest daughter is 12 and she literally is allowed soda once a year, at her birthday party.

I’m sure she never ever ever has soda if it’s offered on other occasions.

DP. So what if she does still better than having it every day.

[Anonymous]

I'm sure everything that could be said has been, but I'll chip in my two cents. If she's caring for your kid occasionally and it's a special "Grandma Day," let her go ahead and feed junk food. But if she's a regular caregiver who takes care of the kid once or more a week, then no. Then it's not a "special Grandma Day" -- it's just a normal day that's part of the week. She shouldn't be just giving the kid whatever he wants because she's the caregiver at those times and needs to be able to set healthy limits. She's not just someone who drops by occasionally and is the fun grandma who brings treats and presents. She's a regular caregiver and needs to act like one -- just like parents and nannies do.

[Anonymous]

If you think a baked good or ice cream 1-2X a week is excessive, perhaps you have food issues? If you don't like what your mom is doing, fire her.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This sounds like my diet and I grew up to be slim, perfectly healthy (just had complete blood work done!) and a Division 1 athlete. I’m actually getting McNuggets for lunch. Live a little.

I love you common sense. I really do.

Just want to add, Grandma does what Grandma wants. We have no rules. Don't like it, find another crunchy to sit for you. Kids need pampering. You all sound like mean mothers denying your kids of life's greatest moments.

Maybe mean, but here is my story. I didn't need or want babysitting. Grandma liked to be with grandson, so we let her. But then she would feed him things that violated his medical needs and thereby made his day harder, if not ruined.

Slowly over time she got less access due to our inability to trust her care. Her life, not mine, got smaller. We were close before I had a kid, but are not now.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Put your foot down and sternly tell her, she needs to feed him the healthy food he is used to, or you can't let her babysit any more.

I have 4 kids, all very picky eaters, and twins with severe allergies. I can tell you once they get the taste for sugar and junk food, it is almost impossible to get them back to a healthy diet. Sugar is like cocaine for little kids. The highs and lows affect their moods terribly.
I would get rid of all sugar and sweets in my house entirely, but my DH is like your mom and keeps bringing it in. Constant battle

I completely agree. Some might call me crazy, but we eat zero junk food in our house. That doesn't mean DC doesn't get snacks -- she gets yogurt melts, Annie's bunny grahams, things like that. but I always make sure her meals are balanced, with foods she enjoys from every food group.

I would have a serious problem if my daughter was eating mcdonald's and other junk food on a regular basis.

we're lucky to have the financial ability to afford to healthy food. to me, choosing to give our kids junk is neglecting basic parental responsibility.

NP. We don't have any junk in our house either. And Annie's bunny grahams would be included in that. Snacks here are fruit, nuts, seaweed snacks, things like that. We cook our meals from scratch, every day, with no gluten and limited legumes and grains. In our case, we aren't rich but sacrifice a lot in order to have the money and time to do this. It's a huge time and money suck, but we feel that the benefits so far to the kids' health and wellness, concentration, energy, behavior, etc, is worth it.

OP, someone like your mom would not be minding any child of mine, unless there was a serious emergency. It's not even about the junk food anymore - it's a blatant FU, and that wouldn't fly with me. How do you expect to raise kids who respect you (and other people, for that matter) when that's the type of example they see and the type of thing they know you tolerate?

Legumes are extremely healthy. Having them limited in your household is nothing to brag about.

Seaweed snacks. Oh joy.

[Anonymous]

^^^ LOL. Living in that house sounds like an absolute nightmare.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This sounds like my diet and I grew up to be slim, perfectly healthy (just had complete blood work done!) and a Division 1 athlete. I’m actually getting McNuggets for lunch. Live a little.

I love you common sense. I really do.

Just want to add, Grandma does what Grandma wants. We have no rules. Don't like it, find another crunchy to sit for you. Kids need pampering. You all sound like mean mothers denying your kids of life's greatest moments.

Eating at McDonald's - life's greatest moments, seriously?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Put your foot down and sternly tell her, she needs to feed him the healthy food he is used to, or you can't let her babysit any more.

I have 4 kids, all very picky eaters, and twins with severe allergies. I can tell you once they get the taste for sugar and junk food, it is almost impossible to get them back to a healthy diet. Sugar is like cocaine for little kids. The highs and lows affect their moods terribly.
I would get rid of all sugar and sweets in my house entirely, but my DH is like your mom and keeps bringing it in. Constant battle

I completely agree. Some might call me crazy, but we eat zero junk food in our house. That doesn't mean DC doesn't get snacks -- she gets yogurt melts, Annie's bunny grahams, things like that. but I always make sure her meals are balanced, with foods she enjoys from every food group.

I would have a serious problem if my daughter was eating mcdonald's and other junk food on a regular basis.

we're lucky to have the financial ability to afford to healthy food. to me, choosing to give our kids junk is neglecting basic parental responsibility.

NP. We don't have any junk in our house either. And Annie's bunny grahams would be included in that. Snacks here are fruit, nuts, seaweed snacks, things like that. We cook our meals from scratch, every day, with no gluten and limited legumes and grains. In our case, we aren't rich but sacrifice a lot in order to have the money and time to do this. It's a huge time and money suck, but we feel that the benefits so far to the kids' health and wellness, concentration, energy, behavior, etc, is worth it.

OP, someone like your mom would not be minding any child of mine, unless there was a serious emergency. It's not even about the junk food anymore - it's a blatant FU, and that wouldn't fly with me. How do you expect to raise kids who respect you (and other people, for that matter) when that's the type of example they see and the type of thing they know you tolerate?

Legumes are extremely healthy. Having them limited in your household is nothing to brag about.

They cure cancer too?