"You look great for your age." and "I would have never guessed you were x years old!"

[Anonymous]

Ah, yes. DC. Where everyone looks years younger than they are, and has the stories to prove it.
So funny and delusional.

[Anonymous]

I'm 47 and have a DS in college. When this fact comes up, I get surprised reactions and can see people doing the math in their heads...

Compliment! I have always had a baby face and am petite; I think shorter, smaller stature somehow "reads" as youthful. I work with high schoolers and I swear they keep me young!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm 47 and have a DS in college. When this fact comes up, I get surprised reactions and can see people doing the math in their heads...

Compliment! I have always had a baby face and am petite; I think shorter, smaller stature somehow "reads" as youthful. I work with high schoolers and I swear they keep me young!

Definitely. Having oily skin prevents wrinkles too. A small stature and a full face helps too.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Ah, yes. DC. Where everyone looks years younger than they are, and has the stories to prove it.
So funny and delusional.

Sorry you are bitter other women look youthful for their age and you don't.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Ah, yes. DC. Where everyone looks years younger than they are, and has the stories to prove it.
So funny and delusional.

Sorry you are bitter other women look youthful for their age and you don't.

Come on. Where do all these young looking people live? Not in my circles in NW DC. I probably know 300 people
Well and we all look our age. The moms at school look their age. My friends at work look their age. Where do these mythical creatures live?

[Anonymous]

I regularly shock people with my age (when I do not have a beard). I am M, a bit overweight so no wrinkles, and a full head of hair with no grey.

On the outside, I probably look 35-40. I am 55.

Here is the last time I surprised someone. I injured my self (slept funny several weeks earlier, and it is not getting better). I commented as I age, sleeping funny goes from stretching it out to PT to needing surgery to replace the damage. The other person says...I have not experienced that, and I respond, you are still young.

She thought I was her age (mid 30's). Nope.

And it is not like I have no health issues (besides owies): 4 stents, a pacemaker, cancer survivor and insulin dependent diabetic.

Another time I was out with my teen DD and a woman thought we were siblings, said I am not old enough to be her father....Well, yeah, I am old enough, and I had her late (nearly 40). Maybe she was flirting with me?

Now, when I have my beard, I look my age. It comes in grey.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m 50 and a new mom at the school just said this to me. She had wondered why id married such an old guy (I had casually mentioned my husband is 59). She said she had thought I was 35. I don’t think I look that young but I must have looked young enough that she was surprised by my age difference with my husband.

I took that one as a compliment.


My husband was recently very ill and in the hospital for weeks. He lost a lot of weight. The orderly there, at the time of discharge, said to my husband, “your daughter will bring the car around and I will wheel you out.”

That one made me very sad...

You sound sweet, PP. Remember, people look older when they are sick. I'm 52 and my mom is 92 and totally "with it." But she got sepsis, almost died, and was recovering. She lives in Montecito, which recently had the mudslides, so we were at our friend's funeral, and someone commented on my "grandmother." I thought...yes, of course, she looks like my grandmother; she's almost died, has been displaced by the mudslides, and is at her friend's funeral.

She's back to looking like my mom these days.

Here is a hug to you and your husband.

[Anonymous]

I think it is intended to be a compliment but I don't necessarily agree with the premise behind it, which is that looking the age that you are is a bad thing. I'm 40 and I think most people would guess I'm around 40. But I'm not ashamed of the age that I am, and in fact, think I look nice. I try to stay in shape, do my hair and makeup well, and wear clothing that fits well. However, that doesn't mean I look younger, it means I'm a reasonably attractive 40 year old.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Ah, yes. DC. Where everyone looks years younger than they are, and has the stories to prove it.
So funny and delusional.

You are right....everyone is equally attractive.

[Anonymous]

If you use Retin-A (better to have Obagi so you can bleach out imperfections), work out, and have thickish hair, and have bleached teeth, you can look pretty young. If you don't use sunscreen, you're screwed (no matter what race you are...)

You can almost "detect" how sedentary someone is by their energy or whatever. If you don't move a lot, it shows and makes you seem old.

I'm thinking Ryan Phillipe and Sandra Bullock as people who say "Wow, you don't look your age." In DC, I would say Kirsten Gillibrand looks really young.

The DC area is very bad for aging - sitting all day, loading up on caffeine, stressful/bad marriages, lack of quality sleep, being at the beck and call of inept managers.

I knew a guy who was pretty cute but starting to look old. He started his own business and de-aged about 10 years...he's totally drop-dead gorgeous now. Stress is horrible for you.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Ah, yes. DC. Where everyone looks years younger than they are, and has the stories to prove it.
So funny and delusional.

Sorry you are bitter other women look youthful for their age and you don't.

Come on. Where do all these young looking people live? Not in my circles in NW DC. I probably know 300 people
Well and we all look our age. The moms at school look their age. My friends at work look their age. Where do these mythical creatures live?

They live all over. Give it five years and check back with this cohort. There will be a percent who has gained a significant amount of weight and they will look older compared to ones who have not. The ones that drink a bottle of wine a night will look older than the ones who don’t. And so on.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Ah, yes. DC. Where everyone looks years younger than they are, and has the stories to prove it.
So funny and delusional.

Sorry you are bitter other women look youthful for their age and you don't.

Come on. Where do all these young looking people live? Not in my circles in NW DC. I probably know 300 people
Well and we all look our age. The moms at school look their age. My friends at work look their age. Where do these mythical creatures live?

They live all over. Give it five years and check back with this cohort. There will be a percent who has gained a significant amount of weight and they will look older compared to ones who have not. The ones that drink a bottle of wine a night will look older than the ones who don’t. And so on.

No, most of it is genetics and melanin. Research has shown melanin slows down aging. I have relatives who are in their 50s and have been thin all their life and have almost no wrinkles despite partying and drinking every weekend and living in an area with hot sun abroad.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I get a lot of double-takes from bartenders and bouncers, but it might just be that they're more used to checking the ID's of 22-year-olds than 45-year-olds.

do women really tell themselves this? I can see mistaking 35 for 29, but no way in hell is a 45yo mom going to pass for 22.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:It is a lie. You look your age. It is just something that people are programmed to say.

Who gets "programmed" to lie? That's ridiculous.

+1.

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Anonymous wrote:Ah, yes. DC. Where everyone looks years younger than they are, and has the stories to prove it.
So funny and delusional.

Sorry you are bitter other women look youthful for their age and you don't.

Come on. Where do all these young looking people live? Not in my circles in NW DC. I probably know 300 people
Well and we all look our age. The moms at school look their age. My friends at work look their age. Where do these mythical creatures live?

They live all over. Give it five years and check back with this cohort. There will be a percent who has gained a significant amount of weight and they will look older compared to ones who have not. The ones that drink a bottle of wine a night will look older than the ones who don’t. And so on.

No, most of it is genetics and melanin. Research has shown melanin slows down aging. I have relatives who are in their 50s and have been thin all their life and have almost no wrinkles despite partying and drinking every weekend and living in an area with hot sun abroad.

A lot of it is lifestyle too though. Genes help but you gotta take care of yourself. If you don’t it totally shows.