Would you let your public school kid wear a very expensive item of clothing to school?

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02/20/2018 13:50

Subject: Would you let your public school kid wear a very expensive item of clothing to school?

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Anonymous wrote:Ds is spending the weekend with grandparents who apparently bought him an expensive piece of clothing he’s been covering. He sent me a pic of him wearing the item last night and said he can’t wait to wear it Tuesday. I told him it looked nice on him but we’d have to discuss wearing it Tuesday when he got home.

Ds is a sneaker head, as are most of his friends, but this item is more expensive than some $300 shoes. Dh (whose parents bought it and who grew up rich) doesn’t see the problem. We live in Loudoun Co and 80% of the student cars at his school are brand new or BMWs and Mercedes is basically Dh’s argument. Besides, he says most kids won’t even know the item Ds is wearing is $$$ unless Ds tells them.

I feel like ds could get away with wearing it at a private school easier than public. I sent the pic to my friend whose boys go to a private and she said several boys there have this item that they wear with their uniforms. I guess I basically don’t want him to go to school looking like a rich douche is what it boils down to.

Ugh. I like it when the kids spend time with my poor (compared to Dh’s parents) better. They never come home with outrageous gifts like this.

That's his decision. You can say, "Kid, if you go to school wearing this, you will look like a rich douche." And then Kid makes Kid's decision.

He's not a rich douche in less he has a job and is making a huge amount of money. You are the rich douche and one whose buying all the crap.

I didn’t buy it. His grandparents did. He’s been asking for this for months now and I told him that was something he’d have to buy on his own through saving up. I knew he’d never do that and thought I was in the clear. He apparently wants it because one of those Lil rappers has it and he thinks it looks “fresh af.”

And now we're at the real issue .
Your kid went behind your back to get him something you essentially told him no on.
You likely have issues with you in laws so you're blaming this on them.
Sweatshirt or not your kid sounds like a douche with his Lil rppers and fresh af.

Yeah, sorry, OP, it's already too late.

NP. I had to look up pictures of the sweater and my first thought was "who the f would seriously what to wear that hideous creation that looks like someone's half blind great-grandmother knitted it" and then I saw the price tag...

OP, if your kid has seriously asked for this, he's for sure already a douche. I agree with the PPs that it's unfortunately too late.

My kids wouldn't laugh, because they're nicer than that, but they'd think your kid is pathetic. He's obviously trying to make up for something. My kids are smart and good at sports and interesting and all round nice kids and they just wouldn't be interested in wearing something like that, let alone coveting it.

However, at least you have a good excuse to take it away. He knew you didn't allow him to have it until he'd met certain conditions. He didn't meet those conditions. He should have declined the gift from grandparents, and asked them to hold onto it until he'd discussed it with you and made an agreement (e.g. to save up to pay for half of it, or whatever you decided was reasonable given the new circumstances). If you're interested in trying to right this ship and raise your kid right, then that's what you would still do. If you choose to not do anything then don't come back complaining to us when he just gets worse and worse.