Would you let your public school kid wear a very expensive item of clothing to school?

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Anonymous wrote:No, I send the cheap clothing to school and teh good stuff stays at home.

He'll grow out of it or lose interest in it quickly. What's the point in preserving it.

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Anonymous wrote:Ds is spending the weekend with grandparents who apparently bought him an expensive piece of clothing he’s been covering. He sent me a pic of him wearing the item last night and said he can’t wait to wear it Tuesday. I told him it looked nice on him but we’d have to discuss wearing it Tuesday when he got home.

Ds is a sneaker head, as are most of his friends, but this item is more expensive than some $300 shoes. Dh (whose parents bought it and who grew up rich) doesn’t see the problem. We live in Loudoun Co and 80% of the student cars at his school are brand new or BMWs and Mercedes is basically Dh’s argument. Besides, he says most kids won’t even know the item Ds is wearing is $$$ unless Ds tells them.

I feel like ds could get away with wearing it at a private school easier than public. I sent the pic to my friend whose boys go to a private and she said several boys there have this item that they wear with their uniforms. I guess I basically don’t want him to go to school looking like a rich douche is what it boils down to.

Ugh. I like it when the kids spend time with my poor (compared to Dh’s parents) better. They never come home with outrageous gifts like this.

That's his decision. You can say, "Kid, if you go to school wearing this, you will look like a rich douche." And then Kid makes Kid's decision.

He's not a rich douche in less he has a job and is making a huge amount of money. You are the rich douche and one whose buying all the crap.

I didn’t buy it. His grandparents did. He’s been asking for this for months now and I told him that was something he’d have to buy on his own through saving up. I knew he’d never do that and thought I was in the clear. He apparently wants it because one of those Lil rappers has it and he thinks it looks “fresh af.”

And now we're at the real issue .
Your kid went behind your back to get him something you essentially told him no on.
You likely have issues with you in laws so you're blaming this on them.
Sweatshirt or not your kid sounds like a douche with his Lil rppers and fresh af.

Yeah, sorry, OP, it's already too late.

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Oh, my. Those tiger sweaters are for spirit week (like for "would you still be my friend day"). That's the only time I saw them. Public school.

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Anonymous wrote:Ds is spending the weekend with grandparents who apparently bought him an expensive piece of clothing he’s been covering. He sent me a pic of him wearing the item last night and said he can’t wait to wear it Tuesday. I told him it looked nice on him but we’d have to discuss wearing it Tuesday when he got home.

Ds is a sneaker head, as are most of his friends, but this item is more expensive than some $300 shoes. Dh (whose parents bought it and who grew up rich) doesn’t see the problem. We live in Loudoun Co and 80% of the student cars at his school are brand new or BMWs and Mercedes is basically Dh’s argument. Besides, he says most kids won’t even know the item Ds is wearing is $$$ unless Ds tells them.

I feel like ds could get away with wearing it at a private school easier than public. I sent the pic to my friend whose boys go to a private and she said several boys there have this item that they wear with their uniforms. I guess I basically don’t want him to go to school looking like a rich douche is what it boils down to.

Ugh. I like it when the kids spend time with my poor (compared to Dh’s parents) better. They never come home with outrageous gifts like this.

That's his decision. You can say, "Kid, if you go to school wearing this, you will look like a rich douche." And then Kid makes Kid's decision.

He's not a rich douche in less he has a job and is making a huge amount of money. You are the rich douche and one whose buying all the crap.

I didn’t buy it. His grandparents did. He’s been asking for this for months now and I told him that was something he’d have to buy on his own through saving up. I knew he’d never do that and thought I was in the clear. He apparently wants it because one of those Lil rappers has it and he thinks it looks “fresh af.”

Makes sense now. He needs more than one for his street cred.

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It isn’t this ugly pos is it?! https://www.bergdorfgoodman.com/Gucci-Wool-Blend-Metallic-Tiger-Sweater/prod132790249/p.prod?ecid=BGCS__GooglePLA&utm_medium=CSE&utm_source=BGCS__GooglePLA&utm_campaign=Gucci

Money can’t buy taste.

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Anonymous wrote:It isn’t this ugly pos is it?! https://www.bergdorfgoodman.com/Gucci-Wool-Blend-Metallic-Tiger-Sweater/prod132790249/p.prod?ecid=BGCS__GooglePLA&utm_medium=CSE&utm_source=BGCS__GooglePLA&utm_campaign=Gucci

Money can’t buy taste.

No it’s the button up cardigan one.

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My son would laugh at your son.

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^^^ and he wouldn't know that it was expensive. He would just think it was laughably ugly.

I would wonder about why your kid even cares enough about conspicuous consumption at this young age.... he clearly wants people to think he is rich enuf to have such an expensive item.

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My child wore a North Face coat to an eastern Loudoun elementary, took it off, left it in the recess coat pile and never saw it again. DC even had kind teachers and staff looking all over school for it. That doesn't sound like a big deal but it is to me. Our kids are not allowed to wear expensive items to school anymore.

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Anonymous wrote:An iPhone X is $1,000. Kids have them in public schools.

They do. And I denied my kid one telling him that is be embarrassed to have my kid walking around with one. Displays of copious consumption are just so vulgar.

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Anonymous wrote:Ds is spending the weekend with grandparents who apparently bought him an expensive piece of clothing he’s been covering. He sent me a pic of him wearing the item last night and said he can’t wait to wear it Tuesday. I told him it looked nice on him but we’d have to discuss wearing it Tuesday when he got home.

Ds is a sneaker head, as are most of his friends, but this item is more expensive than some $300 shoes. Dh (whose parents bought it and who grew up rich) doesn’t see the problem. We live in Loudoun Co and 80% of the student cars at his school are brand new or BMWs and Mercedes is basically Dh’s argument. Besides, he says most kids won’t even know the item Ds is wearing is $$$ unless Ds tells them.

I feel like ds could get away with wearing it at a private school easier than public. I sent the pic to my friend whose boys go to a private and she said several boys there have this item that they wear with their uniforms. I guess I basically don’t want him to go to school looking like a rich douche is what it boils down to.

Ugh. I like it when the kids spend time with my poor (compared to Dh’s parents) better. They never come home with outrageous gifts like this.

Warning: Sorry, but your DH might be the douche example that your DS is following. Of course they won't know it's expensive unless he tells them (or unless they are rich and shallow enough to admire him for his ability to afford such a sweater) b/c it literally looks like a ridiculous adult-equivalent of a character sweater from Gymboree! But the whole point of a sweater like that is to draw attention...first for the sheer stupidity of it and next for the eye-popping explanation that it's GUCCI and REALLY EXPENSIVE (and it's this piece that makes your DS giddy with the idea of being able to flip the switch of being mocked to feeling superior)

I guarantee you that if he saw that EXACT SAME sweater at Target for $18 there is NO WAY he would wear it! No way.

And that's kind of the douchey point, isn't it?

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Anonymous wrote:No, I send the cheap clothing to school and teh good stuff stays at home.

He'll grow out of it or lose interest in it quickly. What's the point in preserving it.

+100

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From my experience, on the lower end of the socio-economic scale at DD's HS, most people will not care.

The kids that know how much it cost will not care, because they can afford it, and those that do not will have no idea it is so nice.

Let me put it another way, DD has three musical instruments she brings to school: one is a beater sax for marching season, one is a professional sax, and one is a bassoon. The latter two cost 4K and 9K.

No one cares. (DD does not wear expensive clothing; mostly second hand clothes; all excess money goes into reeds).

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Let him wear it. No kids are going to care about it.

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Rich douche-bags have multiple rich tell-tales (jewelry, expensive clothes, car, best phone, extra electronics, etc). One douche-bag item like a sweater will look like what it was...he spent the week/weekend with his grandparents who got him an expensive item. Especially if he doesn't normally have any other rich tell-tales. A one-off is not going to label him a rich douche-bag.