What are you getting your wife for Valentines Day? (Or wives, what do you want from DH?)

[Anonymous]

Flowers (doesn't have to be roses). I don't need the chocolate but a night out (dinner or movie), or lunch, just some time spent together. Otherwise a massage, mani-pedi, something to treat me would be great. Good luck.

[Anonymous]

I want flowers, because I never get them otherwise and I like them. We're getting takeout from a place he wants to try for dinner and maybe a redbox, so I think grabbing a bouquet at Safeway isn't too much to ask. No jewelry, no chocolate, no fancy date night. Just some pretty flowers that smell nice (no lilies).

[Anonymous]

I had started another thread asking for advice, but I got her a Lelo. It came on Saturday so we used it early. Great purchase, look forward to having fun with it many times.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:get her something from bath and body works

Is the couple in high school?

[Anonymous]

V-day is also my DH birthday. I’ll get flowers and he’ll get Wizards tickets.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm easy to please. A nice box of chocolates or flowers and a heartfelt letter do it for me.

Less traditional things depend on your wife. What are her hobbies? I'd like sheet music (I'm learning how to play the piano), or a nice cookbook (I love to bake). I'd also appreciate practical things for the home, like new bedsheets. You can get a nice set of Tahari sheets from Homegoods for $50 or less. But I know some ladies don't like presents for the house or kitchen.

It really depends on her taste. Tell us about her!

We like 'sheet music' of a different kind.

[Anonymous]

OP, what did you end up getting?

[Anonymous]

DW here. I don't want him to get me anything for VDay. Yup, no jewelry, no chocolates, no flowers, no household goods, no perfume, no tickets to a show and no Lelo. I would not mind if he gets home early today but nothing more than that. He is an amazing husband and lover to me and that is what I want him to be for the rest of our lives. On the other hand, he can be totally chill and disregard my birthday, our anniversary and Valentine's Day without any consequence. Daily home cooked dinner and frequent sex is part and parcel of our married life so that is a no-brainer for today.

[Anonymous]

Usually a nice dinner, not on the actual day, but the closest weekend to it.

This year my husband is in the dog house, so if I go out to dinner it won't be with him.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:DW here. I don't want him to get me anything for VDay. Yup, no jewelry, no chocolates, no flowers, no household goods, no perfume, no tickets to a show and no Lelo. I would not mind if he gets home early today but nothing more than that. He is an amazing husband and lover to me and that is what I want him to be for the rest of our lives. On the other hand, he can be totally chill and disregard my birthday, our anniversary and Valentine's Day without any consequence. Daily home cooked dinner and frequent sex is part and parcel of our married life so that is a no-brainer for today.

I feel this way too. And there is nothing he can get that will make me happier, other than the fact that I appreciate the effort of course. I can't think of anything I need right now(I love flowers but can admire them in flower beds, they do not have to be in a vase in the house).

I am not into gifts on special occasions. I will be honest that it is just a waste of time. My husband likes the idea of gifts but he never uses anything anyone gives him. He just stores them somewhere because he is very simple. He might use ties or sweaters but he has a million of them(and many were gifts from family and from me) so a few more would not make a difference. I strongly dislike shopping, and we generally buy what we need when we need it so this special occasion gifting is just not a good idea for me.

I will still give him a card because he loves reading those nad he puts those on his desk or a table in the house for weeks. He will get me one too because he assumes that I feel the same way about cards as he does(he should know better by now, lol). But I appreciate the effort, and I am grateful for him.