McLean / Langley / TJ kids failure to launch? Did your kids move back in with you after college?

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Anonymous wrote:I hope my kid comes home and lives in the basement and saves rent for a couple of years. What's the point of blowing $1500 a month on an apartment and eating out?

Exactly. I agree. I feel really sorry for the kids whose parents refuse to let them come back home. Seems completely self-defeating and stupid.

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Anonymous wrote:Here in North Arlington it is kind of funny to see how much money parents waste on kids who turn out to be community college material slackers. Growing up it is all about the best of everything yet the kids end up in retail and never end up going anywhere. This is true in McLean and the W schools in Maryland. Lots of the girls are just looking to marry into $$$ to be a SAHM - that would be a good prep course to take in HS.

Yeah, it couldn't *possibly* be that they actually want to stay home with their kids. You sound like a moron.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:ugh plenty....ive had so many babysitters who went to mclean/langley and couldnt find a job after college and now living in their parents home while babysit for a living

It's too bad your babysitters don't know how you really feel about them. I'm sure they could do far better than working for a person like you.

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I grew up in Mclean and went to top school. After grad school. I was sexually harassed at my first job post grad school. I filed a complaint which made things worse. I moved home, got therapy and got a job I enjoyed. Lived at home for over a year saving money and my parents tried to convince me not to move out. I helped around the house and tried to stay out of their way. It was especially nice for them when they went on trips because I was the house-sitter-no worries about mail, break-ins, pipes bursting, etc. I was right there. I did move out and launched successfully, but if my parents had not been so understanding I might have spiraled downward.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I hope my kid comes home and lives in the basement and saves rent for a couple of years. What's the point of blowing $1500 a month on an apartment and eating out?

Exactly. I agree. I feel really sorry for the kids whose parents refuse to let them come back home. Seems completely self-defeating and stupid.

+1. As long as my kid remains respectful, this is what I hope too.

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Precious few kids of privilege that I know have done anything special with their lives. All of the motivated people I know were the more middle class, lower middle class types.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I hope my kid comes home and lives in the basement and saves rent for a couple of years. What's the point of blowing $1500 a month on an apartment and eating out?

I agree. This area blows for starting out.

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I call it helicopter parenting. My kids are now in high school and they are really well. They were made fun of in elementary school because they are nerdy. Since I don’t kiss up to the principal and didn’t understand how the gifted program works, my older was basically an outcast. The gifted kids didn’t include her, and the popular ones rejected her. Slowly, she found her way. Now, most of the gifted kids from elementary years are no longer gifted. So I think it is important not to be an helicopter parent and paving the way for your child. They need to find their way, and doing it for the first time in college or post college is way too late.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I hope my kid comes home and lives in the basement and saves rent for a couple of years. What's the point of blowing $1500 a month on an apartment and eating out?

Exactly. I agree. I feel really sorry for the kids whose parents refuse to let them come back home. Seems completely self-defeating and stupid.

It’s just hard for the helicopter set to wean.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:ugh plenty....ive had so many babysitters who went to mclean/langley and couldnt find a job after college and now living in their parents home while babysit for a living

It's too bad your babysitters don't know how you really feel about them. I'm sure they could do far better than working for a person like you.

All evidence to the contrary.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Umm not sure if you’ve heard but the job market isn’t exactly stellar. This situation is common to thebentire millennial generation.

The job market is literally better than it has been in decades.

Next excuse?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I hope my kid comes home and lives in the basement and saves rent for a couple of years. What's the point of blowing $1500 a month on an apartment and eating out?

Learning how to be an adult?

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I hope my kid comes home and lives in the basement and saves rent for a couple of years. What's the point of blowing $1500 a month on an apartment and eating out?

I agree. This area blows for starting out.

It’s a big, big world.

[Anonymous]

OP needs to clarify. Are we talking about kids coming home and living at home while they have their first professional job or attend grad school?

Is this about kids coming home unemployed and not being willing to take menial jobs until they find a good one?

Is this about kids with mental health issues living at home while they get help?

Is this about kids living at home, not working and just partying and playing with their screens?

Those are vastly different situations. I would much rather my kid live at home for a first job, save money and be in a safe environment and have a short commute than live in an unsafe area and have a longer commute. This is incredibly common in Europe. In fact with the economy situation in some countries you have jobless young adults living with parents.

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Anonymous wrote:OP needs to clarify. Are we talking about kids coming home and living at home while they have their first professional job or attend grad school?

Is this about kids coming home unemployed and not being willing to take menial jobs until they find a good one?

Is this about kids with mental health issues living at home while they get help?

Is this about kids living at home, not working and just partying and playing with their screens?

Those are vastly different situations. I would much rather my kid live at home for a first job, save money and be in a safe environment and have a short commute than live in an unsafe area and have a longer commute. This is incredibly common in Europe. In fact with the economy situation in some countries you have jobless young adults living with parents.

OP here...I was just posting what I notice. Now I better understand how the NOVA UMC welfare system works. Give your kids the best of everything, pay for college and let them move in until they are 30 to save up for a down payment on a house. You then proceed to degrade everyone and every school that is not McLean, Langley or TJ. No wonder most kids don't have a chance in your world. I can't believe how pathetic everyone here is.