No one eats in this house

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Post over here
http://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/posts/list/691037.page

Yeah, is this you OP? WE've already discussed this to death

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My inlaws are weird about food too. Jewish. My mother in law has a mild eating disorder. They are very contrillung (ivee themselves).

My inlaws are also weird about foods. Black. And come to think of it, my sister's inlaws are weird about it too. Muslim. Even my neighbors are strange about it. Hindu.

[Anonymous]

Sincere question- you are all adults. What happens when you tell these in laws that you can’t do without lunch/dinner and get in the car and go get food? They are not going to put a gun to your head. If they tell you to not to come back, I think that is even better in these cases. I think it is perfectly alright not to go in the first place.

[Anonymous]

It's the opposite at my IL's house. Holy shit, three GIANT meals a day. Eggs, bacon, biscuits, etc for breakfast, some unnecessary lunch mere hours later, then something heavy like cubed steak and mashed potatoes for dinner. I feel like all we do there is eat and then wash dishes and get ready to eat again.

[Anonymous]

The Italian mother in me is horrified to hear that people are hungry.

Are all these people not feeding you nordic Europeans? Irish?

I can't imagine having guests in your house, and not offering them a staggering amount of food.

If you don't have a ton of leftovers after Christmas that means you didn't do it right.

[Anonymous]

My inlaws don't eat lunch. My kids are starving and I have to run out and get food for them. Cooking at my inlaws house is weird but I also can't go to restaurants with my toddlers easily. Kids want normal meals at 8, 12 and 5.

[Anonymous]

This reminds me of a story my aunt told me. She was visiting some friends she had not seen in years and got to theirs at 4pm. She gets showered and changed and sits around chatting. At 6pm she starts getting hungry but doesn’t say anything. They bring out the microwaved popcorn and start watching a movie. At this point my aunt is starving. She asks if they need help for dinner prep and they respond they only eat eat popcorn for dinner! Ack!!!!!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The Italian mother in me is horrified to hear that people are hungry.

Are all these people not feeding you nordic Europeans? Irish?

I can't imagine having guests in your house, and not offering them a staggering amount of food.

If you don't have a ton of leftovers after Christmas that means you didn't do it right.

Italians are the best hosts! Out of all the European cultures here in America Italians are the only ones who actually feed people and are hospitable to guests. It is definitely a quality that other white folks lack. There have been numerous threads on DCUM about white people in the northeast not feeding guests. Why do people invite people over their homes and refuse to feed them? In my culture its considered rude to not provide meals for house guests. It will hurt me to know that a person is starving at my house.

[Anonymous]

Oh my god, this is my parents. They eat one meal around 8pm and look at everyone like they’re crazy if they want lunch.

My favorite was when I was two weeks post partum after a c-section and I asked my mom to get me lunch while I was nursing the baby. She brought me a quarter of a left over club sandwich and couldn’t understand why I was still hungry.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I would hit up a fast food drive-thru as well.

Just don’t wait too long since their hours may be different since tonight is Christmas Eve.

I'd be in my car getting myself something and screw them if they have anything to say.

[Anonymous]

We're Black and we have the opposite problem, - way too much food. My husband and SIL are always getting on MIL about the massive amounts of food she prepares for our get togethers. And we can't come for a simple visit without her wanting to fry some fish for my kids or order them pizza. I'm not complaining, just noting how very different it is from you guys.

[Anonymous]

^^ I'm the pp poster. And I should mention, I'm biracial and once visited my White Aunt who did not feed us at all. We were all so shocked. My husband is not the type to keep his mouth shut, in the morning he asked her if she had pancake mix and her response was "I don't know". When her kids woke up they made themselves frozen waffles so I just told my kids to do the same. My husband went to dunken donuts and bought coffee and breakfast sandwich's for us. Nope, she didn't even have coffee not did she offer. My husband made a DD run every morning. Lunch, we were on our own. Her kids just picked off food in the fridge. After waiting for dinner to be brought up we finally asked if there was takeout Chinese in the area and everyone ended up ordering. It was all so strange. I guess the difference is my Aunt was not opposed to us eating, she just wasn't going to be the one to feed us.

[Anonymous]

In a lot of these situations I think the host is trying to force the visitors to pony up and pay for some meals.

[Anonymous]

My ILs too. They travel a lot and everything in the fridge is expired. Condiments from 2013. Six months old yogurt.

[Anonymous]

A lot of this is also older women wit a lifetime of food and diet anxiety restrictions everyone's food because they're terrified of carbs/fat/etc. "in the house."