Easier for single dads than single moms to date?

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Anonymous wrote:I had custody but had no problem finding someone. If you're friendly, make eye contact, know how to talk to men, and know how to pique their interest, I do not see why it would be a problem. My husband and I have been married almost 8 years. He had no children, but had no problem with the fact that I did.

How often were you able to go out with him and "date"...how did you find the time with custody?

Five hours on a Friday by hiring a babysitter, I'm assuming. Don't be so dense.

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Anonymous wrote:No. A decent looking woman can easily find several men

Find for NSA sex? 100% agreed.
Find for dating? Nope, the men have it much easier.

A lie. Oh, is it easy to find a man who meets your standards? Christ no. But a man to date? Sure. (If you're not fat.)

By date you mean pay for everything? Sure there are a few suckers out there. Now if a guy has options, it’s a big fat no.

"Has options" is code for "is a supermodel", like a rich doctor. You're complaining you can't get a supermodel without standing in line. Who promised you one, your girlfriends? Make them obtain one for you.

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If the parents have equal amounts of custody - 50/50 - it is easier for the woman to date.

If either parent has more custody it is harder for him or her.

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It's easier for the non-custodial parent to date.

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Have you posted about wanting out of marriage with the guy who makes 2mm a year but doesn't give you enough attention? Is this your way of finding out if you'll have easy time dating as a single mom? If yes, get a grip. You are pathetic.

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Anonymous wrote:Makes sense. There are more single moms than single dads, so single dads are in more demand.

The reason there's not an even number of each is that too many dads are deadbeats or take off totally.

For every single mom isn't there a single dad??

Not really. In spite of what some people want to say on DCUM, my Ex fully left me and the kids for his mistress. He sees them for 2-3 hours a week. We did not go to court. No judge forced this on us. He agreed to it from day one.

So yeah. He has kids. He "loves" them. But he is not a single parent.

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I really depends. Custody schedule and if you have local support, ethnicity, what age range you are willing to date and if you are willing to have more kids. All of my female friends that divorced with one or two kids when their kids were in elementary school are in long term relationships now. All of them. Some remarried. The ones that remarried tended to end up with guys that had no children, willing to be step dads, and didn’t want more children. I do see some blended married families but that seems to be uncommon among the people I know unless the woman is planning to have more kids with the new spouse.

Single dads aren’t hurting for dates either and I think it is easier for them to date younger, especially if they are willing to have more children.

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Anonymous wrote:Makes sense. There are more single moms than single dads, so single dads are in more demand.

The reason there's not an even number of each is that too many dads are deadbeats or take off totally.

For every single mom isn't there a single dad??

Not really. In spite of what some people want to say on DCUM, my Ex fully left me and the kids for his mistress. He sees them for 2-3 hours a week. We did not go to court. No judge forced this on us. He agreed to it from day one.

So yeah. He has kids. He "loves" them. But he is not a single parent.

There is a special place in hell for homewreckers who violate one of the 10 Commandments so blatantly.
I wish you and your kinds a happy and prosperous new year.

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Anonymous wrote:Of course it is.

Why?

Because men generally abandon their kids and only play Disney dad every other weekend.

Bingo! The flip side is that once the women my ex dates find out what a deadbeat dad he really is after he finishes his dog and pony show with my kid, they run for the hills, stat. Gives me inner glee every single time!

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Anonymous wrote:Whoever has less custody has more time. Whoever has family/friends nearby willing to watch the kids on a regular basis.

If you're a parent with every other weekend and a Wednesday dinner, you've got it made as far as dating.

I have my kids 100% of the time, because my ex-husband no longer lives here. So he sends child support and visits when he can. I have no family around here at all. And my circle of friends can't watch my kids because they have lives of their own/don't live close/schedule doesn't allow, etc.

So, I literally cannot date anyone, and don't see the ability to do so for another 5-6 years. Meanwhile, ex-husband has had a few relationships and traveled internationally on vacations with them...it is what it is.

Don't you feel resentful towards your ex?

I used to. But, it's not going to change anything, so holding on to it will do no one any good. I'm thankful he fulfills his financial responsibilities, because some men don't do that, and I don't have to worry each month about affording life. And we get along fabulously now, so I don't need to cause friction in our parental relationship about something that I cannot change.

I would love to have a social life beyond the few times a year my kids are with my parents. I think it would greatly benefit my life and bring more happiness because I am able to do something other than work and go home and take care of my kids. It makes it worse that where I live is nearly all intact families. So they participate in couple activities that I am left out of. And by extension, my kids.

This is me too, PP. <<hugs>>

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Anonymous wrote:I had custody but had no problem finding someone. If you're friendly, make eye contact, know how to talk to men, and know how to pique their interest, I do not see why it would be a problem. My husband and I have been married almost 8 years. He had no children, but had no problem with the fact that I did.

People who say this usually live in smaller towns where dating is easier because of the slim pickings.

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Anonymous wrote:Of course it is.

Why?

Because men generally abandon their kids and only play Disney dad every other weekend.

This was true in the past but 50/50 custody is now the default in many states.

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I'm early forties and childless. Single. Mostly date divorced dads given my age. I have yet to meet an every other weekend dad. They all have joint custody except for one that had full

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Anonymous wrote:Not if he has custody or is a primary care-giver.

+1; his priority is his kid....the best type of single dad you can date and marry. I did !

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Anonymous wrote:Makes sense. There are more single moms than single dads, so single dads are in more demand.

The reason there's not an even number of each is that too many dads are deadbeats or take off totally.

For every single mom isn't there a single dad??

Not really. In spite of what some people want to say on DCUM, my Ex fully left me and the kids for his mistress. He sees them for 2-3 hours a week. We did not go to court. No judge forced this on us. He agreed to it from day one.

So yeah. He has kids. He "loves" them. But he is not a single parent.

There is a special place in hell for homewreckers who violate one of the 10 Commandments so blatantly.
I wish you and your kinds a happy and prosperous new year.

That is so nice! Thank you so much for your warm wishes. Same to you!