Do you feel sorry for less affluent family when you're around them today? Especially their kids

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Anonymous wrote:It's quite obvious that a lot of these tweens and teens have absolutely NO experience at sitting down to a family meal or being guests in homes where meals are served. It IS sad. They don't know what to do with a napkin.

Table manners can be googled whenever the kid gets around to caring. Not-being-stuck-up-biotch is harder to fix later. I’d say OP’s kids are at the disadvantage.

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Anonymous wrote:Not that they're not happy and nice, but if I'm being frank, honestly, their kids are so dull. We can tell our children run academic & soft skill circles around their solidly middle class cousins. I really don't think it's IQ, it's just environment and better schools and higher-caliber peers. Makes me so sad. I wonder if their parents are as cognizant as we are while we watch them interact?

I feel sorry for anyone who has to spend today or any other day with you.

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OP is the reason so many people hate holidays with family.

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No. Those with the most blessings have family and friends regardless of financial status. I know many affluent families struggling for many reasons and they would give anything to have the genuine laughter I heard tonight. I feel sorry for shut-ins and those who have lost all their family and find Thanksgiving and Christmas difficult to get through. I worked with an affluent Washington woman who one year said to me "one down, one to go" after Thanksgiving. At work I say to many people "enjoy your day off" because you really don't know if their day will be lonely.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Not that they're not happy and nice, but if I'm being frank, honestly, their kids are so dull. We can tell our children run academic & soft skill circles around their solidly middle class cousins. I really don't think it's IQ, it's just environment and better schools and higher-caliber peers. Makes me so sad. I wonder if their parents are as cognizant as we are while we watch them interact?

Wow. You are truly a bitch. Or a troll. Probably both. But mostly a bitch

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Pre-teens and teens drinking energy drinks and sugary Sprite all days. Not a book in site. iPhones and iPads and TV every minute we've been here. All they do is mumble 1-3 word responses when you try to engage. Sad to see.

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Anonymous wrote:Ugh maybe use some of that money you have to buy yourself some humility and get some arrogance detox.

I feel bad for people who are extremely poor and struggle to make ends meet and put food on the table. That's a difficult environment to grow up in. I don't sit back and smugly think to myself "those malnutritioned children are so dull compared to my well fed child". I donate money, food and time to charities that help the less fortunate.

Money isn't everything, once basic needs of food, shelter and basic comforts are met if there isn't stress about basic provisions people can have lovely lives. Parents that devote time, love and attention nurturing their children is what matters. Teaching them valuable skills, morals and kindness. Your kids may be "running circles around the other dull poor cousins" but hopefully they aren't picking up on your snobby "better than thou" attitude because then They will be the ones lacking

They're not poor. And we're the antithesis of snobs. Have a happy thanksgiving.

I don't think that word means what you think it means.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It's quite obvious that a lot of these tweens and teens have absolutely NO experience at sitting down to a family meal or being guests in homes where meals are served. It IS sad. They don't know what to do with a napkin.

You sound like my ILs. We invited them to join us on a family vacation at a 4 (not 5) star resort. The day they arrived they couldn't get into their room early and when they asked, in a huff, where they could change to use the pool the hotel staff gave the directions to the changing room rather than personally escorting them. Beer was served without a glass. There was a children's menu at the restaurant. The horrors didn't stop!

They could not get over it. They think their "high standards" make them very special, but it is just plain snobbery actually makes them pathetically fragile. They can't just relax and enjoy a vacation with their grandkids because they spend all their time calculating the missteps of others and the "slights" against them. THAT is sad.

I feel sorry for you OP. Your world sounds very small and insignificant, yet somehow you've convinced yourself it is not.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It's quite obvious that a lot of these tweens and teens have absolutely NO experience at sitting down to a family meal or being guests in homes where meals are served. It IS sad. They don't know what to do with a napkin.

You sound like my ILs. We invited them to join us on a family vacation at a 4 (not 5) star resort. The day they arrived they couldn't get into their room early and when they asked, in a huff, where they could change to use the pool the hotel staff gave the directions to the changing room rather than personally escorting them. Beer was served without a glass. There was a children's menu at the restaurant. The horrors didn't stop!

They could not get over it. They think their "high standards" make them very special, but it is just plain snobbery actually makes them pathetically fragile. They can't just relax and enjoy a vacation with their grandkids because they spend all their time calculating the missteps of others and the "slights" against them. THAT is sad.

I feel sorry for you OP. Your world sounds very small and insignificant, yet somehow you've convinced yourself it is not.

Well put.

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Other people have commented on the shallowness etc of this post. It's such a crass sentiment that it is hard to take seriously. Still, if one was in a situation where they felt a relative or friends child did not get opportunities that matched their potential, wouldn't it be more useful to build a connection to them, mentor them, spend an afternoon with them, rather than gape at them during thanksgiving and hang them out to dry here?

[Anonymous]

Deeply unchristian and uncharitable (OP).

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Anonymous wrote:Da fuck are soft skills you keep yappering about?

Lol, this is what I want to know as well!!

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Da fuck are soft skills you keep yappering about?

Lol, this is what I want to know as well!!

[Anonymous]

OP is a Fink.

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Op I get what you're saying. I'm a nanny to very well behaved respectful children. I take great pride in their manners and social skills. When I am around my cousins children I'm appalled at their behavior. They yell , scream, demean and undermine their parents infront of people. My cousins 13 year old daughter talks about getting high and drunk on social media . She brags about failing her classes and skipping school. The children I take care of would never act this way. The biggest difference in these children is hhi.