Do you feel sorry for less affluent family when you're around them today? Especially their kids

[Anonymous]

I feel sorry for your Family having to deal with an insuffarable snob. Honey you are not the opposite of snob.

[Anonymous]

OP, you really really suck. I have a spent A LOT of time around people like you -- I went to Ivy League schools but I'm from the middle class background you look down on. You think you're cultured and mannered and whatever but you are an insufferable snob and no better than anyone else. Middle class kids do great interpersonally in the real world when all is said and done because people actually enjoy hanging out with them, unlike judgmental people like you. And, yes, people can tell when you're looking down on them.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, you really really suck. I have a spent A LOT of time around people like you -- I went to Ivy League schools but I'm from the middle class background you look down on. You think you're cultured and mannered and whatever but you are an insufferable snob and no better than anyone else. Middle class kids do great interpersonally in the real world when all is said and done because people actually enjoy hanging out with them, unlike judgmental people like you. And, yes, people can tell when you're looking down on them.

How can people tell?

[Anonymous]

It's so cute how you think you have so much control over your children's achievements.

One day you will be in for a big surprise. Your child might bring home a girlfriend or boyfriend from a "less affluent" background who is very well-spoken and has a wide-reaching culture.

One day your children might miss expectations and fall short in comparisons with others, who may or may not be affluent.

Be very humble, OP, and don't think it's all thanks to YOU and YOUR MONEY.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, you really really suck. I have a spent A LOT of time around people like you -- I went to Ivy League schools but I'm from the middle class background you look down on. You think you're cultured and mannered and whatever but you are an insufferable snob and no better than anyone else. Middle class kids do great interpersonally in the real world when all is said and done because people actually enjoy hanging out with them, unlike judgmental people like you. And, yes, people can tell when you're looking down on them.

How can people tell?

That's so easy. It's written all over the person. Fake is the easiest to spot.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It's so cute how you think you have so much control over your children's achievements.

One day you will be in for a big surprise. Your child might bring home a girlfriend or boyfriend from a "less affluent" background who is very well-spoken and has a wide-reaching culture.

One day your children might miss expectations and fall short in comparisons with others, who may or may not be affluent.

Be very humble, OP, and don't think it's all thanks to YOU and YOUR MONEY.

Nothing wrong with what OP said. You think Arabella Kushner would be so fluent in Mandarin if it weren't for her ultra-wealthy parents? Let's not pretend that having certain parents from certain classes give kids a leg up.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It's so cute how you think you have so much control over your children's achievements.

One day you will be in for a big surprise. Your child might bring home a girlfriend or boyfriend from a "less affluent" background who is very well-spoken and has a wide-reaching culture.

One day your children might miss expectations and fall short in comparisons with others, who may or may not be affluent.

Be very humble, OP, and don't think it's all thanks to YOU and YOUR MONEY.

Nothing wrong with what OP said. You think Arabella Kushner would be so fluent in Mandarin if it weren't for her ultra-wealthy parents? Let's not pretend that having certain parents from certain classes give kids a leg up.

That's even funnier! No, dear little Arabella is not fluent in Mandarin. I can't stop laughing that you think this!
And I hope she has inherited some smarts to go along with all the desirable cultural exposure her parents pay for, otherwise it's not much use.
Finally, people with really powerful connections have a lower bar to financial and social success, as you can imagine.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It's so cute how you think you have so much control over your children's achievements.

One day you will be in for a big surprise. Your child might bring home a girlfriend or boyfriend from a "less affluent" background who is very well-spoken and has a wide-reaching culture.

One day your children might miss expectations and fall short in comparisons with others, who may or may not be affluent.

Be very humble, OP, and don't think it's all thanks to YOU and YOUR MONEY.

Nothing wrong with what OP said. You think Arabella Kushner would be so fluent in Mandarin if it weren't for her ultra-wealthy parents? Let's not pretend that having certain parents from certain classes give kids a leg up.

Arabella Kushner is going to have big problems in life given her effed-up family, Mandarin fluency or not. I don’t envy her.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP hit on a important observation of inequality here. The kids she's talking about aren't dirt poor but they are not given the opportunities that her own kids are given. That's the real problem in this country. Shouldn't all kids be able to reach their full potential? It's a systemic issue and not one that a lot of people give a lot of thought to.

Thank you. I'm not talking about family in some Appalachia trailer park. Solidly middle class kids and I'm not exaggerating the diff in knowledge, polish and soft skills between our children and same age cousins. They can't articulate anything going on in their life. They are obsessed with football all day, fantasy football scores, and their iPhones. And sure, if you want me to go there, I can: their table manners are awful. Excusable, maybe for pre-teens; not excusable for middle and high school kids (in front of company, no less).

It's Thanksgiving, which means football. Maybe you forgot about the tradition. The kids are not fake, they don't want to articulate anything for the purpose of articulating it. I had a friend as a teenager who created special stories for their snobbish relatives. They were so happy to hear many 10 dollar words.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It's so cute how you think you have so much control over your children's achievements.

One day you will be in for a big surprise. Your child might bring home a girlfriend or boyfriend from a "less affluent" background who is very well-spoken and has a wide-reaching culture.

One day your children might miss expectations and fall short in comparisons with others, who may or may not be affluent.

Be very humble, OP, and don't think it's all thanks to YOU and YOUR MONEY.

Nothing wrong with what OP said. You think Arabella Kushner would be so fluent in Mandarin if it weren't for her ultra-wealthy parents? Let's not pretend that having certain parents from certain classes give kids a leg up.

That's even funnier! No, dear little Arabella is not fluent in Mandarin. I can't stop laughing that you think this!
And I hope she has inherited some smarts to go along with all the desirable cultural exposure her parents pay for, otherwise it's not much use.
Finally, people with really powerful connections have a lower bar to financial and social success, as you can imagine.

Yes, she's fluent. Fluent for a child her age.

[Anonymous]

PP, unless you’re yourself fluent in Mandarin, you have no basis to say that.

[Anonymous]

Da fuck are soft skills you keep yappering about?

[Anonymous]

The real issue is that op thinks thanksgiving is the day we have a special horse race between all the cousins to see who comes in first and wins. I'm not sure what the prize is.

She is angry because no one elsewants to play 'let's race the grandkids against each other' everybody else just wants to eat turkey and watch football. No, aunt ginnie isn't mortified because you think her kids are stupid because she isn't playing. I don't play either when my brother starts the race.

[Anonymous]

It's quite obvious that a lot of these tweens and teens have absolutely NO experience at sitting down to a family meal or being guests in homes where meals are served. It IS sad. They don't know what to do with a napkin.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Not that they're not happy and nice, but if I'm being frank, honestly, their kids are so dull. We can tell our children run academic & soft skill circles around their solidly middle class cousins. I really don't think it's IQ, it's just environment and better schools and higher-caliber peers. Makes me so sad. I wonder if their parents are as cognizant as we are while we watch them interact?

Offer to pay private school tuition for their kids if you're so concerned.