Your child isn’t the only kid in the classroom

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Our class has their Halloween party today. I specially asked that children bring their costumes in a bag and we would change them after nap. 1 parent came in and told me her child did not want to bring it in a bag said sorry and ran out the door. Most of you will tell me this is no big deal. However after the mom left I had 4 kids cry at drop off because they were not in costume like ___. 2 others who constantly complained it wasn’t fair he got to wear his costume all day. He could not do the art project or manipulatives because the costume had gloves that he didn’t want to take them off. Then had to deal with a meltdown because part of his costume was unsafe for the playground and had to have him take that part off. Parents we don’t ask these things because we are lazy, or don’t want to do our job. (Do you really think it’s easy for me to put on 17 Halloween costumes?) It’s because we’ve been doing this a long time and we’ve made mistakes and know what works best and what doesn’t.

And this would be the last year for this bs. Yes, one dumbazz parent has ruined it for everyone

[Anonymous]

Hilarious on a board where parents ROUTINELY freak out about their 'flake EVER missing one single nap (or even getting to it late/early) are like, "it's one day out of the year, teach, just deal with it."

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Assh*le parent. Their kid is too special to follow the rules. When I was a teacher, I would not have allowed the parent to leave without taking her child home.

It's preschool, for goodness sake!

Wrong attitude.

Have respect and show kindness to your kids' teachers at any age/stage. If they set some rules, follow them. It's not hard. Don't be the jerk.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Assh*le parent. Their kid is too special to follow the rules. When I was a teacher, I would not have allowed the parent to leave without taking her child home.

It's preschool, for goodness sake!

Wrong attitude.

Have respect and show kindness to your kids' teachers at any age/stage. If they set some rules, follow them. It's not hard. Don't be the jerk.

Sending a preschool child home, because she did/did not wear a costume on Halloween or any other day, is not respect or kindness.

I'm so glad that we are in Virginia, where we can send our children to small, loving preschools with kind teachers, instead of overlarge classes and rigid teachers.

[Anonymous]

Does this child have special needs? It doesn't sound normal that every adult in this situation is cowing to his whims or if not he has a meltdown. His parent should have made him bring it in a bag, yes, but since they are clearly phoning it in the teacher should have either told the parent to do it before they left, had the director or an admin call the parent and tell them to come back and do it, make the kid take it off right away, or left him with another caregiver at the center if he was really being violent or something, until he calmed down and changed out of it. Another option would have been to just let the other kids put their costumes on then if it was really causing that much mayhem. The kid certainly should not have been allowed to go about and enjoy his day/ruin the other kids' days with his demands.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Assh*le parent. Their kid is too special to follow the rules. When I was a teacher, I would not have allowed the parent to leave without taking her child home.

It's preschool, for goodness sake!

Wrong attitude.

Have respect and show kindness to your kids' teachers at any age/stage. If they set some rules, follow them. It's not hard. Don't be the jerk.

Sending a preschool child home, because she did/did not wear a costume on Halloween or any other day, is not respect or kindness.

I'm so glad that we are in Virginia, where we can send our children to small, loving preschools with kind teachers, instead of overlarge classes and rigid teachers.

I agree that the child shouldn't be sent home, but I would have no problem with the teacher asking the parent to remove the costume before they left.

BTW, there are loving preschools all over the place. Don't be such a troll.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, you should have pulled out the kid's extra clothes and changed him before the costume became such a big issue.
--former director

Current director - WHY does the TEACHER need to be the bad guy instead of the parent? I want our teachers to be understsanding, and I want them to be accommodating, but I am also so tired of parents handing teachers sneakers while their child is wearing too-small sparkly ballerina shoes and saying "sorry, couldn't get her/him out of those and into sneakers. You can change her/him before the playground." then leaving. And 1 hour later, the teacher has to deal with a tantrum, very upset child, other children don't get to go outside (ratios, which are important) while one teacher deals with the changing of the shoes. Or the teachers ask that the child be in my office while they take the rest of the kids out. Or something else.

So, please, that's what is behind our request to send your child in X ..... your not doing it, also impacts all the other children. And, honestly, you really do need to set limits - we do it all day long, I KNOW it's hard to in the morning when you just want a calm day before you go to work (so hide the stupid too small and the too-big shoes, or get rid of them, seriously). But why don't the teachers also deserve a calm day when they have multiple children in their classroom? Oh, because they are preschool teachers? Being a preschool teacher doesn't guarantee chaos, in fact, far from it. If YOUR client showed up without bringing their tax documents, what would you do? Sit there and reconstruct them for hours while other clients waited? What if your patients don't show up on time.... they just wander in 1 hour early or 2 hours late, demanding to be seen anyway? If your boss just walked into your office, right this second and demanded that you create a spreadsheet right this second that would take 3 hours to do, what happens? Chaos. Oh, well, you're an employee, just deal with it? Of course, you'll deal with it in the minute, but then you'll either put systems and rules in place (if you are late, you lose your appt and have to wait), or you'll look for another job or....

[Anonymous]

Parents can be selfish, lazy, clueless, or all of the above, and you need to anticipate that. You should have clarified in your instructions that the children cannot wear their costumes all day due to safety reasons.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Parents can be selfish, lazy, clueless, or all of the above, and you need to anticipate that. You should have clarified in your instructions that the children cannot wear their costumes all day due to safety reasons.

She specifically asked for costumes to be brought in a bag. This is not nebulous or difficult to understand. This is all on the parent. Period.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Any decent preschool teacher would have been more understanding. Sounds like it is time to retire.

Any decent parent would have followed the teacher's request. Obviously, you do not qualify. Next year there would be no Halloween costumes because of asshole parents like you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Parents can be selfish, lazy, clueless, or all of the above, and you need to anticipate that. You should have clarified in your instructions that the children cannot wear their costumes all day due to safety reasons.

All children of selfish, lazy clueless parents should be expelled from school.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Assh*le parent. Their kid is too special to follow the rules. When I was a teacher, I would not have allowed the parent to leave without taking her child home.

It's preschool, for goodness sake!

Wrong attitude.

Have respect and show kindness to your kids' teachers at any age/stage. If they set some rules, follow them. It's not hard. Don't be the jerk.

Sending a preschool child home, because she did/did not wear a costume on Halloween or any other day, is not respect or kindness.

I'm so glad that we are in Virginia, where we can send our children to small, loving preschools with kind teachers, instead of overlarge classes and rigid teachers.

I am a teacher in the private preschool everyone is trying to get their child into and we would send the parents and child home to get the appropriate attire. All the children want to wear their costumes all day and we're told no. Why would any good teacher ever reward the child who didn't follow the rules?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Parents can be selfish, lazy, clueless, or all of the above, and you need to anticipate that. You should have clarified in your instructions that the children cannot wear their costumes all day due to safety reasons.

She specifically asked for costumes to be brought in a bag. This is not nebulous or difficult to understand. This is all on the parent. Period.

You can have that attitude. Or you can have parents that actually listen to you.

It may be “all on the parent. Period.” But that is utterly beside the point. Teacher was complaining about an inconvenience to her. She would get better results with better communication.

I am not going to speculate, as some are, whether this parent is truly selfish, or clueless, or perhaps just has a difficult child, was behind on 100 assignments at work, has a parent with cancer all while going through a divorce, or whatever, and was just not going to fight this battle with her preschooler today. Without more context, a teacher’s instructions can sound arbitrary and, when weighed against other demands, not essential. Teachers need to communicate when and why things are essential.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, you should have pulled out the kid's extra clothes and changed him before the costume became such a big issue.
--former director

Current director - WHY does the TEACHER need to be the bad guy instead of the parent? I want our teachers to be understsanding, and I want them to be accommodating, but I am also so tired of parents handing teachers sneakers while their child is wearing too-small sparkly ballerina shoes and saying "sorry, couldn't get her/him out of those and into sneakers. You can change her/him before the playground." then leaving. And 1 hour later, the teacher has to deal with a tantrum, very upset child, other children don't get to go outside (ratios, which are important) while one teacher deals with the changing of the shoes. Or the teachers ask that the child be in my office while they take the rest of the kids out. Or something else.

So, please, that's what is behind our request to send your child in X ..... your not doing it, also impacts all the other children. And, honestly, you really do need to set limits - we do it all day long, I KNOW it's hard to in the morning when you just want a calm day before you go to work (so hide the stupid too small and the too-big shoes, or get rid of them, seriously). But why don't the teachers also deserve a calm day when they have multiple children in their classroom? Oh, because they are preschool teachers? Being a preschool teacher doesn't guarantee chaos, in fact, far from it. If YOUR client showed up without bringing their tax documents, what would you do? Sit there and reconstruct them for hours while other clients waited? What if your patients don't show up on time.... they just wander in 1 hour early or 2 hours late, demanding to be seen anyway? If your boss just walked into your office, right this second and demanded that you create a spreadsheet right this second that would take 3 hours to do, what happens? Chaos. Oh, well, you're an employee, just deal with it? Of course, you'll deal with it in the minute, but then you'll either put systems and rules in place (if you are late, you lose your appt and have to wait), or you'll look for another job or....

You can't control the parents. So you can do what the former director suggested, send the kid home, or deal with him being a disruption all day like OP chose. OP seems to have made the worst decision.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, you should have pulled out the kid's extra clothes and changed him before the costume became such a big issue.
--former director

Current director - WHY does the TEACHER need to be the bad guy instead of the parent? I want our teachers to be understsanding, and I want them to be accommodating, but I am also so tired of parents handing teachers sneakers while their child is wearing too-small sparkly ballerina shoes and saying "sorry, couldn't get her/him out of those and into sneakers. You can change her/him before the playground." then leaving. And 1 hour later, the teacher has to deal with a tantrum, very upset child, other children don't get to go outside (ratios, which are important) while one teacher deals with the changing of the shoes. Or the teachers ask that the child be in my office while they take the rest of the kids out. Or something else.

So, please, that's what is behind our request to send your child in X ..... your not doing it, also impacts all the other children. And, honestly, you really do need to set limits - we do it all day long, I KNOW it's hard to in the morning when you just want a calm day before you go to work (so hide the stupid too small and the too-big shoes, or get rid of them, seriously). But why don't the teachers also deserve a calm day when they have multiple children in their classroom? Oh, because they are preschool teachers? Being a preschool teacher doesn't guarantee chaos, in fact, far from it. If YOUR client showed up without bringing their tax documents, what would you do? Sit there and reconstruct them for hours while other clients waited? What if your patients don't show up on time.... they just wander in 1 hour early or 2 hours late, demanding to be seen anyway? If your boss just walked into your office, right this second and demanded that you create a spreadsheet right this second that would take 3 hours to do, what happens? Chaos. Oh, well, you're an employee, just deal with it? Of course, you'll deal with it in the minute, but then you'll either put systems and rules in place (if you are late, you lose your appt and have to wait), or you'll look for another job or....

Do you terminate disruptive parents like this? I assume we keep a waiting list so it wouldn't be a problem to fill the spot. I can't imagine dealing with inconsiderate parents like they were doing a poster .