For those who recently dropped off their kids at college...

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Are you kidding? I bolted so quickly from Williamsburg the second I dropped off my kid (also -- single mom).

I scheduled a girls trip that first week in Vegas with friends. Had a freaking blast. I'm still working and there's plenty of life left in me. I'm 38 and ready for this next chapter! I have a trip to Paris planned and I've already sold my Arlington house and bought a low maintenance row home in the city. It's fantastic!

I don't really know how to feel about your post and your overwhelming joy at sending your kid to college. It just rubs me wrong. Was your DD like a nightmare teen? There is nothing wrong with doing things for yourself, just the opposite, but something just seems off about this.

She's super young, and had the kid at 19 or 20. So now she's ready to do some of the things that many of us did in college or in our 20s. I guess it's delayed gratification.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Are you kidding? I bolted so quickly from Williamsburg the second I dropped off my kid (also -- single mom).

I scheduled a girls trip that first week in Vegas with friends. Had a freaking blast. I'm still working and there's plenty of life left in me. I'm 38 and ready for this next chapter! I have a trip to Paris planned and I've already sold my Arlington house and bought a low maintenance row home in the city. It's fantastic!

Can your DC still get in state tuition if you no longer live in Virginia?

She got a full ride!

I am saving her college fund for grad school since she's interested in medicine (I'm a nurse and she's been around enough hospitals and seen me over the years to build an interest).

My good friend just had a baby a few months ago. I look at her and am like...whooyah. Finished over here, sister. Cute baby, but it's my time now! (Admittedly my good friend spent her 20's and 30's traveling and living an adventurous life that just wasn't in the cards for me at the time (Little money, plus mortgage, plus kid who did activities, plus single mom tax of having to handle this alone = struggling).

Does is still stay "full ride" if she loses in state privileges? The Virginia schools are particularly vigilant about in state verses out of state designations.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Are you kidding? I bolted so quickly from Williamsburg the second I dropped off my kid (also -- single mom).

I scheduled a girls trip that first week in Vegas with friends. Had a freaking blast. I'm still working and there's plenty of life left in me. I'm 38 and ready for this next chapter! I have a trip to Paris planned and I've already sold my Arlington house and bought a low maintenance row home in the city. It's fantastic!

Can your DC still get in state tuition if you no longer live in Virginia?

She got a full ride!

I am saving her college fund for grad school since she's interested in medicine (I'm a nurse and she's been around enough hospitals and seen me over the years to build an interest).

My good friend just had a baby a few months ago. I look at her and am like...whooyah. Finished over here, sister. Cute baby, but it's my time now! (Admittedly my good friend spent her 20's and 30's traveling and living an adventurous life that just wasn't in the cards for me at the time (Little money, plus mortgage, plus kid who did activities, plus single mom tax of having to handle this alone = struggling).

Does is still stay "full ride" if she loses in state privileges? The Virginia schools are particularly vigilant about in state verses out of state designations.

PP here. Yup. Not an issue for us, thankfully.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Are you kidding? I bolted so quickly from Williamsburg the second I dropped off my kid (also -- single mom).

I scheduled a girls trip that first week in Vegas with friends. Had a freaking blast. I'm still working and there's plenty of life left in me. I'm 38 and ready for this next chapter! I have a trip to Paris planned and I've already sold my Arlington house and bought a low maintenance row home in the city. It's fantastic!

Can your DC still get in state tuition if you no longer live in Virginia?

She got a full ride!

I am saving her college fund for grad school since she's interested in medicine (I'm a nurse and she's been around enough hospitals and seen me over the years to build an interest).

My good friend just had a baby a few months ago. I look at her and am like...whooyah. Finished over here, sister. Cute baby, but it's my time now! (Admittedly my good friend spent her 20's and 30's traveling and living an adventurous life that just wasn't in the cards for me at the time (Little money, plus mortgage, plus kid who did activities, plus single mom tax of having to handle this alone = struggling).

Does is still stay "full ride" if she loses in state privileges? The Virginia schools are particularly vigilant about in state verses out of state designations.

PP here. Yup. Not an issue for us, thankfully.

Tell me more about this scholarship. How does one get it!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Are you kidding? I bolted so quickly from Williamsburg the second I dropped off my kid (also -- single mom).

I scheduled a girls trip that first week in Vegas with friends. Had a freaking blast. I'm still working and there's plenty of life left in me. I'm 38 and ready for this next chapter! I have a trip to Paris planned and I've already sold my Arlington house and bought a low maintenance row home in the city. It's fantastic!

I don't really know how to feel about your post and your overwhelming joy at sending your kid to college. It just rubs me wrong. Was your DD like a nightmare teen? There is nothing wrong with doing things for yourself, just the opposite, but something just seems off about this.

She's super young, and had the kid at 19 or 20. So now she's ready to do some of the things that many of us did in college or in our 20s. I guess it's delayed gratification.

I just dropped my first off (who was born when I was 38, so big difference there). Anyway, I've been crying on and off for several days. I'm not much of a crier by nature, so was a bit surprised. His younger brother is taking it harder, insisted on sleeping in his bed and his been very ill tempered.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Are you kidding? I bolted so quickly from Williamsburg the second I dropped off my kid (also -- single mom).

I scheduled a girls trip that first week in Vegas with friends. Had a freaking blast. I'm still working and there's plenty of life left in me. I'm 38 and ready for this next chapter! I have a trip to Paris planned and I've already sold my Arlington house and bought a low maintenance row home in the city. It's fantastic!

Can your DC still get in state tuition if you no longer live in Virginia?

She got a full ride!

I am saving her college fund for grad school since she's interested in medicine (I'm a nurse and she's been around enough hospitals and seen me over the years to build an interest).

My good friend just had a baby a few months ago. I look at her and am like...whooyah. Finished over here, sister. Cute baby, but it's my time now! (Admittedly my good friend spent her 20's and 30's traveling and living an adventurous life that just wasn't in the cards for me at the time (Little money, plus mortgage, plus kid who did activities, plus single mom tax of having to handle this alone = struggling).

Does is still stay "full ride" if she loses in state privileges? The Virginia schools are particularly vigilant about in state verses out of state designations.

PP here. Yup. Not an issue for us, thankfully.

Tell me more about this scholarship. How does one get it!

It's William & Mary Scholars Award. The award amounts vary, but we were lucky and they came through. We also got a "match" scholarship since DD had a full tuition offer from Chicago since I make under 125K annually. It's public information.

[Anonymous]

It was hard to drop our only DC off at university. There were tears on the way home. Everyday I seriously consider moving to that town. But there are times that I notice how much cleaner my house is and how much less I have to cook and feel like I'll be OK with this in time.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Are you kidding? I bolted so quickly from Williamsburg the second I dropped off my kid (also -- single mom).

I scheduled a girls trip that first week in Vegas with friends. Had a freaking blast. I'm still working and there's plenty of life left in me. I'm 38 and ready for this next chapter! I have a trip to Paris planned and I've already sold my Arlington house and bought a low maintenance row home in the city. It's fantastic!

Can your DC still get in state tuition if you no longer live in Virginia?

She got a full ride!

I am saving her college fund for grad school since she's interested in medicine (I'm a nurse and she's been around enough hospitals and seen me over the years to build an interest).

My good friend just had a baby a few months ago. I look at her and am like...whooyah. Finished over here, sister. Cute baby, but it's my time now! (Admittedly my good friend spent her 20's and 30's traveling and living an adventurous life that just wasn't in the cards for me at the time (Little money, plus mortgage, plus kid who did activities, plus single mom tax of having to handle this alone = struggling).

Does is still stay "full ride" if she loses in state privileges? The Virginia schools are particularly vigilant about in state verses out of state designations.

PP here. Yup. Not an issue for us, thankfully.

Tell me more about this scholarship. How does one get it!

It's William & Mary Scholars Award. The award amounts vary, but we were lucky and they came through. We also got a "match" scholarship since DD had a full tuition offer from Chicago since I make under 125K annually. It's public information.

I think you should double check. By moving out of state you may have inadvertently increased the cost of your DC's tuition.

"The William & Mary Scholars Award is presented each year to a small group of academically exceptional students who will add to the diversity of W&M’s campus. The broad goal of this award is to provide access for students who have been historically underrepresented on our campus by providing financial support equivalent to in-state tuition and fees." http://www.wm.edu/admission/undergraduateadmission/costs-aid/wmscholars_award.php
(Emphasis mine).

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Are you kidding? I bolted so quickly from Williamsburg the second I dropped off my kid (also -- single mom).

I scheduled a girls trip that first week in Vegas with friends. Had a freaking blast. I'm still working and there's plenty of life left in me. I'm 38 and ready for this next chapter! I have a trip to Paris planned and I've already sold my Arlington house and bought a low maintenance row home in the city. It's fantastic!

Can your DC still get in state tuition if you no longer live in Virginia?

She got a full ride!

I am saving her college fund for grad school since she's interested in medicine (I'm a nurse and she's been around enough hospitals and seen me over the years to build an interest).

My good friend just had a baby a few months ago. I look at her and am like...whooyah. Finished over here, sister. Cute baby, but it's my time now! (Admittedly my good friend spent her 20's and 30's traveling and living an adventurous life that just wasn't in the cards for me at the time (Little money, plus mortgage, plus kid who did activities, plus single mom tax of having to handle this alone = struggling).

Does is still stay "full ride" if she loses in state privileges? The Virginia schools are particularly vigilant about in state verses out of state designations.

PP here. Yup. Not an issue for us, thankfully.

Tell me more about this scholarship. How does one get it!

It's William & Mary Scholars Award. The award amounts vary, but we were lucky and they came through. We also got a "match" scholarship since DD had a full tuition offer from Chicago since I make under 125K annually. It's public information.

I think you should double check. By moving out of state you may have inadvertently increased the cost of your DC's tuition.

"The William & Mary Scholars Award is presented each year to a small group of academically exceptional students who will add to the diversity of W&M’s campus. The broad goal of this award is to provide access for students who have been historically underrepresented on our campus by providing financial support equivalent to in-state tuition and fees." http://www.wm.edu/admission/undergraduateadmission/costs-aid/wmscholars_award.php
(Emphasis mine).

You are hella nosey! I imagine PP either has the DC tuition grant to help out or has something else that handles this.

PP, girl, you do you! I hope you have a great time in Paris, sister.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Are you kidding? I bolted so quickly from Williamsburg the second I dropped off my kid (also -- single mom).

I scheduled a girls trip that first week in Vegas with friends. Had a freaking blast. I'm still working and there's plenty of life left in me. I'm 38 and ready for this next chapter! I have a trip to Paris planned and I've already sold my Arlington house and bought a low maintenance row home in the city. It's fantastic!

Can your DC still get in state tuition if you no longer live in Virginia?

She got a full ride!

I am saving her college fund for grad school since she's interested in medicine (I'm a nurse and she's been around enough hospitals and seen me over the years to build an interest).

My good friend just had a baby a few months ago. I look at her and am like...whooyah. Finished over here, sister. Cute baby, but it's my time now! (Admittedly my good friend spent her 20's and 30's traveling and living an adventurous life that just wasn't in the cards for me at the time (Little money, plus mortgage, plus kid who did activities, plus single mom tax of having to handle this alone = struggling).

Does is still stay "full ride" if she loses in state privileges? The Virginia schools are particularly vigilant about in state verses out of state designations.

PP here. Yup. Not an issue for us, thankfully.

Tell me more about this scholarship. How does one get it!

It's William & Mary Scholars Award. The award amounts vary, but we were lucky and they came through. We also got a "match" scholarship since DD had a full tuition offer from Chicago since I make under 125K annually. It's public information.

I think you should double check. By moving out of state you may have inadvertently increased the cost of your DC's tuition.

"The William & Mary Scholars Award is presented each year to a small group of academically exceptional students who will add to the diversity of W&M’s campus. The broad goal of this award is to provide access for students who have been historically underrepresented on our campus by providing financial support equivalent to in-state tuition and fees." http://www.wm.edu/admission/undergraduateadmission/costs-aid/wmscholars_award.php
(Emphasis mine).

You are hella nosey! I imagine PP either has the DC tuition grant to help out or has something else that handles this.

PP, girl, you do you! I hope you have a great time in Paris, sister.

Not nosy, just trying to save her a headache once she realizes her DC cannot have a fullride and will have to pony up the difference between in state and out of state tuition after freshman year (which is significant for W&M). That is a big hit, especially if unanticipated and preventable.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Are you kidding? I bolted so quickly from Williamsburg the second I dropped off my kid (also -- single mom).

I scheduled a girls trip that first week in Vegas with friends. Had a freaking blast. I'm still working and there's plenty of life left in me. I'm 38 and ready for this next chapter! I have a trip to Paris planned and I've already sold my Arlington house and bought a low maintenance row home in the city. It's fantastic!

Can your DC still get in state tuition if you no longer live in Virginia?

She got a full ride!

I am saving her college fund for grad school since she's interested in medicine (I'm a nurse and she's been around enough hospitals and seen me over the years to build an interest).

My good friend just had a baby a few months ago. I look at her and am like...whooyah. Finished over here, sister. Cute baby, but it's my time now! (Admittedly my good friend spent her 20's and 30's traveling and living an adventurous life that just wasn't in the cards for me at the time (Little money, plus mortgage, plus kid who did activities, plus single mom tax of having to handle this alone = struggling).

Does is still stay "full ride" if she loses in state privileges? The Virginia schools are particularly vigilant about in state verses out of state designations.

PP here. Yup. Not an issue for us, thankfully.

Tell me more about this scholarship. How does one get it!

It's William & Mary Scholars Award. The award amounts vary, but we were lucky and they came through. We also got a "match" scholarship since DD had a full tuition offer from Chicago since I make under 125K annually. It's public information.

I think you should double check. By moving out of state you may have inadvertently increased the cost of your DC's tuition.

"The William & Mary Scholars Award is presented each year to a small group of academically exceptional students who will add to the diversity of W&M’s campus. The broad goal of this award is to provide access for students who have been historically underrepresented on our campus by providing financial support equivalent to in-state tuition and fees." http://www.wm.edu/admission/undergraduateadmission/costs-aid/wmscholars_award.php
(Emphasis mine).

You are hella nosey! I imagine PP either has the DC tuition grant to help out or has something else that handles this.

PP, girl, you do you! I hope you have a great time in Paris, sister.

Not nosy, just trying to save her a headache once she realizes her DC cannot have a fullride and will have to pony up the difference between in state and out of state tuition after freshman year (which is significant for W&M). That is a big hit, especially if unanticipated and preventable.

I am another PP and I am also wondering why you are so vested in this. But you do have interesting take on it. Or oldest DC got a similar scholarship at another school. We moved to another state midway through her freshman year. However, that did not matter for her. Because she had been and continued to be a resident of the state (she used her school address as her new official address and listed it on her voter registrations and all her tax info (she filed independently)), it did not matter where we moved to. SHE was a resident of the state and thus was in line with the requirements of the scholarship. When we asked to make sure before we moved, they told us it was the residency of the student that mattered - not the parents' subsequent residency. Maybe this works the same way.