The bride, the groom and the elephant in the room

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Anonymous wrote:You know I read the article expecting to scoff but in reading it, she may be an "old soul" and appreciates gallantry, good manners, and maybe has Daddy issues? Whose to say, but in reading it, it sounded like maybe just maybe there's more to it than $$

Yes, I had the same reaction. I would think it's very difficult these days for a polite young woman looking to date rather than hookup. I think there's more to their relationship than it would appear based on ages alone.

I agree. It also sounded like neither one of them is particularly socially mature. He sounds very uncertain, and she sounds very reserved. I think they were probably relieved to find each other.

Oh please! It's not hard at all to find a guy roughly 25 to 35 with those qualities if that's what you truly want. There is usually other reasons a woman can't find that if that's what she's looking for. The biggest thing is not wanting to have to wait for a partner to be established. The 35 and under guys might have all those qualities but they are still in early stages of career, likely still paying off loans, not at senior level yet. She wanted someone established with the money NOW, not in 10 years time, nothing wrong with that, but let's not pretend that the only way to find a a polite gentleman is to date a senior citizen.

This. Somehow my family and friends and I all managed, several of us on dating sites. This in the past 5 to 10 years. None of us were ever into hooking up.

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I think they seem like a fine couple now and genuinely love each other. But in another ten years, she will be 37 and he will be 82, and he may start having health problems, and she will be perhaps wishing she had children...
Or not. Maybe he has great genes and will live to be 100. And maybe she doesn't want kids and will be happy not to have them.
I certainly have been sexually attracted to much, much older men (think like 40 years older) but I would not have thought of marrying them.

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She's obviously calculated, and invested in an old man with status and some money, and she'll use that to lubricate her career arc and connections. I couldn't do it, but to each his/her own. He'll get his pound of flesh.

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Anonymous wrote:She's obviously calculated, and invested in an old man with status and some money, and she'll use that to lubricate her career arc and connections. I couldn't do it, but to each his/her own. He'll get his pound of flesh.

He might be using her. This isn't his first rodeo. His second ex is significantly younger. He might have kicked her to the curb.

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Anonymous wrote:She's obviously calculated, and invested in an old man with status and some money, and she'll use that to lubricate her career arc and connections. I couldn't do it, but to each his/her own. He'll get his pound of flesh.

He might be using her. This isn't his first rodeo. His second ex is significantly younger. He might have kicked her to the curb.

Yup. As I said, he'll get his pound of flesh. He sounds like he's got a demanding ego.

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He is a surgeon. The ego of a surgeon is legion.

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Anonymous wrote:You know I read the article expecting to scoff but in reading it, she may be an "old soul" and appreciates gallantry, good manners, and maybe has Daddy issues? Whose to say, but in reading it, it sounded like maybe just maybe there's more to it than $$

Me too. If she actually has professional ambitions, it's not a crazy match for her, since he will be wealthy enough to help pay for good childcare. He seems to respect her intellectually. Weird but who's to judge, ultimately!

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Anonymous wrote:That guy looks damn good for 72

ginger gene!

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Anonymous wrote:You know I read the article expecting to scoff but in reading it, she may be an "old soul" and appreciates gallantry, good manners, and maybe has Daddy issues? Whose to say, but in reading it, it sounded like maybe just maybe there's more to it than $$

Yes, I had the same reaction. I would think it's very difficult these days for a polite young woman looking to date rather than hookup. I think there's more to their relationship than it would appear based on ages alone.

I agree. It also sounded like neither one of them is particularly socially mature. He sounds very uncertain, and she sounds very reserved. I think they were probably relieved to find each other.

Oh please! It's not hard at all to find a guy roughly 25 to 35 with those qualities if that's what you truly want. There is usually other reasons a woman can't find that if that's what she's looking for. The biggest thing is not wanting to have to wait for a partner to be established. The 35 and under guys might have all those qualities but they are still in early stages of career, likely still paying off loans, not at senior level yet. She wanted someone established with the money NOW, not in 10 years time, nothing wrong with that, but let's not pretend that the only way to find a a polite gentleman is to date a senior citizen.

This. Somehow my family and friends and I all managed, several of us on dating sites. This in the past 5 to 10 years. None of us were ever into hooking up.

NP. Disagree. I'm 36 and have a relative 26, the difference in how men approach dating is astounding. The social web has made the sea of plenty of fish even bigger than before and unfortunately, a bit shallow.

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I am not surprised. The 26 year old "men" I know are man-bunned and bearded children and have no interest in growing up. We have derided men so long that they have no idea what to do.

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Anonymous wrote:He is a surgeon. The ego of a surgeon is legion.

Exactly. Who else wears velvet on the beach in the summer time? The article even states how she thought they were exclusive way before he did. It wasn't her intelligence or Dartmouth degree that he appreciated - it took her little vacation tea ceremony for him to see her seriously as a potential mate. Oh and she didn't talk his ear off about the art in Italy. Yuck.

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So basically this girl is sleeping with her grandfather? Yuck. I am in my early 30s and I've been approached by guys in their early 40s and later. I just can't do it. Good luck to her, I suppose

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Anonymous wrote:You know I read the article expecting to scoff but in reading it, she may be an "old soul" and appreciates gallantry, good manners, and maybe has Daddy issues? Whose to say, but in reading it, it sounded like maybe just maybe there's more to it than $$

Yes, I had the same reaction. I would think it's very difficult these days for a polite young woman looking to date rather than hookup. I think there's more to their relationship than it would appear based on ages alone.

I agree. It also sounded like neither one of them is particularly socially mature. He sounds very uncertain, and she sounds very reserved. I think they were probably relieved to find each other.

Oh please! It's not hard at all to find a guy roughly 25 to 35 with those qualities if that's what you truly want. There is usually other reasons a woman can't find that if that's what she's looking for. The biggest thing is not wanting to have to wait for a partner to be established. The 35 and under guys might have all those qualities but they are still in early stages of career, likely still paying off loans, not at senior level yet. She wanted someone established with the money NOW, not in 10 years time, nothing wrong with that, but let's not pretend that the only way to find a a polite gentleman is to date a senior citizen.

This. Somehow my family and friends and I all managed, several of us on dating sites. This in the past 5 to 10 years. None of us were ever into hooking up.

NP. Disagree. I'm 36 and have a relative 26, the difference in how men approach dating is astounding. The social web has made the sea of plenty of fish even bigger than before and unfortunately, a bit shallow.

Well I'm 26 and I'm able to find lots of guys who are gentlemen as do my friends in the same age bracket, perhaps it's how and where your cousin is looking.

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There is some absolute comedy gold in this article.

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That pleasantness spilled into what turned out to be an almost, but not quite, perfect evening at Il Cantinori. Just after he ordered dinner, Dr. Wallack was called to the hospital on an emergency.

“That was a curveball,” he said. “Because I was really having a wonderful time. But it’s my job to take care of sick people, and at the time I had a patient who was close to passing away.” He smoothed it over with Ms. Zhou with reassurances. “I told her, ‘I’ll be calling you very soon, and I mean that.’ That night, after I had tucked everybody away in the hospital, I called her again.”

Ms. Zhou remembers that follow-up differently. A few days passed before he called for a second date, she said. But the wait fueled her anticipation. “I was really attracted to him on that first date, and I wanted to see where it would take me,” she said.

It took her to some spectacular places: They saw a series of Broadway shows including “Jersey Boys”; went to top-tier restaurants in the city; and, toward the end of 2014, to Puerto Rico for a five-day vacation.

“That was when I realized I could spend a lot of time with Marc,” Ms. Zhou said.

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Anonymous wrote:Um, anyone else cringe that he fell in love with her after she basically performed a tea ceremony for him?

"By then, Ms. Zhou considered their relationship exclusive. Dr. Wallack did not. But that was changing. “One of the mornings I woke up in San Juan, she had made tea in the hotel room,” Dr. Wallack said. “And that made me feel so wonderful. I thought it was so elegant. After that trip I fell in love with her.”