The bride, the groom and the elephant in the room

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Anonymous wrote:You know I read the article expecting to scoff but in reading it, she may be an "old soul" and appreciates gallantry, good manners, and maybe has Daddy issues? Whose to say, but in reading it, it sounded like maybe just maybe there's more to it than $$

Yes, I had the same reaction. I would think it's very difficult these days for a polite young woman looking to date rather than hookup. I think there's more to their relationship than it would appear based on ages alone.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You know I read the article expecting to scoff but in reading it, she may be an "old soul" and appreciates gallantry, good manners, and maybe has Daddy issues? Whose to say, but in reading it, it sounded like maybe just maybe there's more to it than $$

Yes, I had the same reaction. I would think it's very difficult these days for a polite young woman looking to date rather than hookup. I think there's more to their relationship than it would appear based on ages alone.

I agree

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Merge with the trophy wife thread please.

Other than her youth, she doesn't qualify as a trophy. She's attractive, but not gorgeous or sexy. She has a real career so she won't always be accessible for his whims.

[Anonymous]

That guy looks damn good for 72

[Anonymous]

My father was 25 yrs older than my mother, who was his third wife. They were married for over 30 yrs, until he passed at age 85. She still talks about him daily, even though she's been with someone else for 10 yrs now.

It's not always about the age difference.

[Anonymous]

I have a friend my age (mid-50s) who is pretty well-off. He married a much younger Chinese (born and raised in China) woman. She's nice and they seem very happy together.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Merge with the trophy wife thread please.

Other than her youth, she doesn't qualify as a trophy. She's attractive, but not gorgeous or sexy. She has a real career so she won't always be accessible for his whims.

Who appointed you the authority on trophy wives?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You know I read the article expecting to scoff but in reading it, she may be an "old soul" and appreciates gallantry, good manners, and maybe has Daddy issues? Whose to say, but in reading it, it sounded like maybe just maybe there's more to it than $$

Yes, I had the same reaction. I would think it's very difficult these days for a polite young woman looking to date rather than hookup. I think there's more to their relationship than it would appear based on ages alone.

I agree. It also sounded like neither one of them is particularly socially mature. He sounds very uncertain, and she sounds very reserved. I think they were probably relieved to find each other.

[Anonymous]

The age gap is pretty outrageous for so many reasons. But this is an intelligent, accomplished woman. Still creepy however.

[Anonymous]

To each his own, but they put it out there in the NY Times. So, comments will come.

45 year age gap? He would be considered an "older dad" if he had a child at 45.

They may well be a match made in heaven, but he won't get any younger and she will be young for a long time. He is healthy now, working, intellectually sharp, physically fit, but 80/85 is not far off and she will still only be 35. I guess she will have a second act to her life too.

Very interesting.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm 72; DH is same age, married many years. I was admiring his still-decent body the other day, but my fantasies ran to the wonders of his, um, prowess at age 30 or so.

God, I miss that. But I guess she'll have a boyfriend, or a pool boy, or something.

Some guys that age can still bring it on. When I was in my early 30's I briefly dated the widowed father of a friend of mine (she never knew!) who was in his mid-60's. He was as good in bed as anyone I'd ever been with including my now DH. If he had been 25 years younger.........but we knew it wasn't right for either of us. He's now 75 and married to a woman in her early 60's. I'm willing to bet he can still perform as he's in great shape. I see him once or twice a year and we both share a smile.

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Know someone who married a woman 19 years his senior. 10 years and 3 kids later (1st kid at 40) they are still together. He's the much better looking and more accomplished one earning big bucks. No one thought the union would last, let alone have 3 kids. So strange things do happen.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You know I read the article expecting to scoff but in reading it, she may be an "old soul" and appreciates gallantry, good manners, and maybe has Daddy issues? Whose to say, but in reading it, it sounded like maybe just maybe there's more to it than $$

Yes, I had the same reaction. I would think it's very difficult these days for a polite young woman looking to date rather than hookup. I think there's more to their relationship than it would appear based on ages alone.

I agree. It also sounded like neither one of them is particularly socially mature. He sounds very uncertain, and she sounds very reserved. I think they were probably relieved to find each other.

Oh please! It's not hard at all to find a guy roughly 25 to 35 with those qualities if that's what you truly want. There is usually other reasons a woman can't find that if that's what she's looking for. The biggest thing is not wanting to have to wait for a partner to be established. The 35 and under guys might have all those qualities but they are still in early stages of career, likely still paying off loans, not at senior level yet. She wanted someone established with the money NOW, not in 10 years time, nothing wrong with that, but let's not pretend that the only way to find a a polite gentleman is to date a senior citizen.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:She wants chivalry. I get it.

This. When she started mentioning the way her peers date and "hook up" I totally got why she liked this guy

Agree. They actually sound like a good match.

[Anonymous]

Gross!