My husband is clueless

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don't understand why any DW would "hang" DH in public like this. Poor guy...

N/A.

Anyways. I don't know why anyone would marry such a liability.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm a ftm, our dd is 6 months old now. From her birth I feel like I have had to teach my husband everything. He's never been around babies before so I expected him to need help learning how to change a diaper or make a bottle, etc and I was happy to show him all of that. It was cute to see him learn how to hold her and care for her. But now I have to remind him of basic safety precautions regularly (don't leave a baby that can roll on the couch unattended etc). I try to tell myself that I need to let go and trust him to figure it out, but sometimes I am genuinely fearful for my daughter's well being.

Today he asked me if I thought it would be okay if he left to run a quick errand while DD was napping. Alone. No other adults present. I nearly died. And then I had to try and remain calm while I told him absolutely not and list all the reasons why that would be so dangerous. I love my husband, I really do. And he is normally a really smart guy. But I need him to get with the program and I don't know how to make that happen. I hate feeling like a nag and I hate what this is doing to our relationship. I've tried to have a normal conversation with him but it doesn't seem to sink in. Am I just being crazy? Anyone else have these problems? Suggestions?

Makes lists of daily and drily things that need to be done.
Make him practice to increase his competency.
Go to counseling so he hears how to be a responsible adult from a third party.

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Anonymous wrote:I dunno - I have a friend who would walk her dog around the block while her baby was sleeping in the crib.

That never struck me as horrible.

It's an entirely cultural. Here in America for the most part we don't do this . Should add this is a fairly recent development within the last 25 years. In Europe where leaving the baby in it's crib without mom or dad is not unheard of and nobody flips over it.

SO in europe ppl leave their sleeping babies alone in their houses while they head out for "short" errands?

I have done this right here in the good old US of A. I could always see the house from where I took the dog.

As have I. With a nest cam monitor on my phone, I've gone as far away as 200 meters from the baby during her nap.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I dunno - I have a friend who would walk her dog around the block while her baby was sleeping in the crib.

That never struck me as horrible.

It's an entirely cultural. Here in America for the most part we don't do this . Should add this is a fairly recent development within the last 25 years. In Europe where leaving the baby in it's crib without mom or dad is not unheard of and nobody flips over it.

SO in europe ppl leave their sleeping babies alone in their houses while they head out for "short" errands?

I hate this 'in Europe' thing. Europe is a massive place with lots of different parenting approaches. Where I am from, people most certainly don't leave their babies in the crib while they run errands….