Anyone have kids with noticeable scars
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Anonymous
| My dh has a 4" scar on the back of his head where heir doesn't grow. I always thought he'd have more options if he was a girl. I guess more hair doesn't make |
Anonymous
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My first-hand experience. When I was 7, I was in a sledding accident, fell over an embankment and sliced my face on the rocks below. I had a gash from the top of my cheekbone to the corner of my chin. It required 19 stitches on the outside and 3 stitches on the inside of my cheek. After I recovered, it was an ugly purple scar for a while, then it softened to maroon and slowly shrunk over time. When I was a tween and teen, it was about 2 inches long and medium maroon in color. I got a lot of questions about it and some ugly comments. But as the other PP mentioned, if you don't get distressed by insults or ugly comments, it defuses the issue. Getting upset only empowers the bully. Laughing or otherwise not reacting makes them impotent. They'll struggle to find something else to insult you with, but ultimately making them look ineffective makes them ineffective. I learned to ignore those who were cruel and to hang out with those who asked once and then forgot about it. I have friends from many periods of my life who are asked for a description of me and never once even thought about the scar on my face. I am 52 and I can tell you that even I forget about it now. I had children in my 40's and I had largely forgotten about it until my kids started asking me about it in their preschool years. I simplified the story and told them about it very matter of factly. It only took a short while until it is no longer noticed by them either.
As the other PP mentioned, I would make jokes. When I was in college, I often told people that I was in a gang fight and someone shoved a bottle in my face. But he won't ever mess with anyone again. (before I break a smile and say "just kidding. I was in a sledding accident") Other good ones "What scar? <look in a mirror or my cell phone> "Oh my gosh--where did that come from?" Also, the standard "If I told you about this, I'd have to kill you. Let's just say it was an 'accident'." Joking about it defuses the situation. |
Anonymous
| I've had a rather ugly scar on my left ass cheek that has made me the butt of jokes since I was about ten. I've learned to live with it but it has caused be sleepless nights in the past. |
Anonymous
That's not even funny. Try harder next time. |
Anonymous
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I have a scar on my forehead from stitches when I was 2, and I was horribly, irrationally self conscious about it in middle school. I used concealer on the scar when I never would have even thought about using concealer on pimples. It just made me feel different, and I felt like people were looking at it. This was before Harry Potter - maybe kids with forehead scars are cool now!
My son has a birth mark on his face, too (not PWS, but mark that colors in the summer like his freckles do) and he feels self conscious about that. What I remember is how all my mom's insistence that it wasn't a big deal made it worse. It was a big deal to me. Her two approaches were: no one notices or cares, and then to get me coverup. I think there is a middle way, or a different way: yes, people notice. Yes, they say boneheaded things. But this is YOU, and there is a story behind your scars and marks. The good thing is that I was self conscious for a year or two, and then I just stopped caring. |
Anonymous
| Consult a plastic surgeon- I had skin cancer on my face and had huge pieces removed. My surgeon closed them and you'd never know. |