Wow I can't imagine why they stay away from you. |
I'm curious: Do you think your son would call regularly on his way to work to chit chat if he knew that you weren't leaving him money? If so, why wouldn't you just tell him? And if not, why do you hate the DIL so much and not your son? |
This MIL is legit psycho. I will call mine tomorrow just to chat and bc I'm glad she is the opposite of this piece of work. |
Omg you are disgusting. You talk about your son like that? Your job was to get your son to adulthood and let him fly. You can't let go and you are the one locked in a battle with the dil. Were you hoping for incest with your son? That's what you sound like. |
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My DH slowly transitioned into thinking his new primary family unit was him, me, and our kid, not him and his parents. It took a few years up to seven years and a lot of fights crying, disappointment and setting boundaries the first 2 years of marriage. Then he evolved.
Here's the thing. I now have a son and I secretly wish he will end up a momma's boy, since I fear sons generally become so distant and quiet and not much communication from teenage years onto adulthood onto when they have their own kids. I dont want to be excluded from my son's life. Sure, there should be healthy boundaries and I doubt I will get amommas boy forever. I have to say, when I didn't have a child I kind of resented how frequently my MIL wanted to gather her kids for endless weekly meals and celebrate any holiday, even the made up ones. Now that I am a mom and realize how precious these kids are and how involved and attached a mom gets in the course of normal parenting, I understand my MIL so much better. Now there's hardly any conflict. You do have to set boundaries but hang in there. |