Who here met their spouse online or knows someone that did?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:A former boss of mine met his wife using a video dating site! Remember those? You would make a video tape, and then other people would view them. Back in the day...

Like in the movie Singles! Love that movie. I was in high school when that movie came out.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Met my spouse online. Been married more than 20 years.

The dot.com boom started in 2000. No dating sites in 1994. I don't even know if AOL chat rooms were working then.

[Anonymous]

Dh and I did. 6 years later and more in love than ever. Have about 6 couple friends who met online and are in various stages of LTR. Some dating for a year, some engaged, some married. All very happy.

I'd say most of us met on OkCupid, although one of our friends is getting married this summer and they met on Tinder!

[Anonymous]

I know so many people who met online including family. I've been on every major site and had plenty of dates on all of them, but it has never worked out for me. It also seems like quite possibly the most unromantic thing in the world. I suppose it's awful if it doesn't work out, but a happy fluke when it does.

[Anonymous]

I just got back from my SIL's wedding. She met her (now) husband online. One of my neighbors who have a baby the same age as mine also met online.

Online dating seems like the most common way to meet a spouse, if you don't meet in college/grad school.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Met my spouse online. Been married more than 20 years.

The dot.com boom started in 2000. No dating sites in 1994. I don't even know if AOL chat rooms were working then.

BBs & chat rooms def. existed in 1995-96.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I did!

OP if you want to meet guys in the real world, WHY ON EARTH ARENT YOU GOING ON DATES WITH THESE MEN?

Look lives are busier, communities are bigger, roles and expectations are less predetermined, we meet people in all sorts of ways (on the bus, on an airplane, WHILE WEARING PANTS) that women didn't used to. Just go have a drink with one of these men who seems decent. If you like him have a second. If not, meet another!

+1

Don't spend too much time online. Meet. Quickly.

Met DH on OKC in 2011.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My Ex met his new wife online. They met and moved in together within a year. Got married one year later. She does not know about his diagnosed sex addiction nor his bipolar depression (He did tell her he has depression, just not the bipolar kind).

She married him without ever meeting his ex-wife (me) and having only met his kids about a half dozen times in a year and a half. I have full custody, and I'm sure that he told her some story about how I hate him and have poisoned the kids against him, even though he spends a lot of time at our house, and we have a pleasant relationship. I'm not even sure she knows how much time he still spends at my house with the kids.

I know my exDH was online with various dating profiles while we were together. I have seen the emails and contacts he had with these women and the tremendous lies they believed. I would never date online for this reason. Be careful who you meet online and make sure you spend a very long time getting to know them before you get attached.

I'm sure there are lots of good people who date online. But, there are also a lot of people with deep pathologies.

Sure, but there are plenty of people with "deep pathologies," as you put who you could meet in any setting -- bar, activity, friends. You seem to be implying that you are more likely to find someone with issues online than through other means, I am just don't know that is true. MAYBE, if you meet a good friend of a friend, they are less likely to have issues, but even then, plenty of people have issues that would show up in a serious relationship that wouldn't show up in a friendship.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Met my spouse online. Been married more than 20 years.

The dot.com boom started in 2000. No dating sites in 1994. I don't even know if AOL chat rooms were working then.

People can meet online other than through dating sites.

I have been using BBSes since the 70's.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My Ex met his new wife online. They met and moved in together within a year. Got married one year later. She does not know about his diagnosed sex addiction nor his bipolar depression (He did tell her he has depression, just not the bipolar kind).

She married him without ever meeting his ex-wife (me) and having only met his kids about a half dozen times in a year and a half. I have full custody, and I'm sure that he told her some story about how I hate him and have poisoned the kids against him, even though he spends a lot of time at our house, and we have a pleasant relationship. I'm not even sure she knows how much time he still spends at my house with the kids.

I know my exDH was online with various dating profiles while we were together. I have seen the emails and contacts he had with these women and the tremendous lies they believed. I would never date online for this reason. Be careful who you meet online and make sure you spend a very long time getting to know them before you get attached.

I'm sure there are lots of good people who date online. But, there are also a lot of people with deep pathologies.

Sure, but there are plenty of people with "deep pathologies," as you put who you could meet in any setting -- bar, activity, friends. You seem to be implying that you are more likely to find someone with issues online than through other means, I am just don't know that is true. MAYBE, if you meet a good friend of a friend, they are less likely to have issues, but even then, plenty of people have issues that would show up in a serious relationship that wouldn't show up in a friendship.

A person online can hide more for longer so that you are attached when you find out negative info. Also you are stripped of non-verbal cues in early conacts (facial expressions, tone of voice, gaze, etc.)

[Anonymous]

I met DH's best friend on an online dating site (he introduced me to DH) - does that count?

[Anonymous]

One of my college roommates met her husband on Match. My nephew met his wife on Tinder.

[Anonymous]

DH and I met on OkCupid. We exchanged approximately a dozen sentences before we set a date for three nights later.

If you want to meet men, you need to get off the computer and go meet them. Anyone who wanted to send more than a handful of emails wasn't really suitable for dating in my experience; the men who were willing to meet right away were much better candidates, even the ones who weren't a perfect match.

[Anonymous]

I've been to tons of weddings for couples who met online-match, Jdate, okcupid, etc. it is the new normal for dating.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Met my spouse online. Been married more than 20 years.

The dot.com boom started in 2000. No dating sites in 1994. I don't even know if AOL chat rooms were working then.

BBs & chat rooms def. existed in 1995-96.

I have friends who are married and met in a chat room in 1992.