Calling all MILs

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am a MIL and have happily passed the hostessing baton to the next generation. Have always thought it was distasteful for older people to be clingy and possessive about holidays.

I love you.

Note to all in-laws and grandparents : offspring want to visit a mother - in- law like this because she doesn't apply pressure and guilt nor create conflict between husbands and wives trying to accommodate everyone's requests.

My MIL isn't Miss Congeniality but I have a good relationship with her because she treats us like equals and understands that we can't always do exactly what she wants. As a result I never resent visits because I never have to fit them into stressful times or be castigated for not making it.

Be that MIL and nobody will have cause to complain about you.

+ 1. Will you please give MIL lessons? Or better yet, just be my MIL?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Unless you have a NICU baby or having severe issues from recovery like PPD or complications from a c section you need to suck it up and go.

No, you don't. If they want to see the baby on the holiday, they can come to see you. After many years of doing the big family dinner, the women of the family decided to eat at a restaurant for dinner instead. Love it!

You go. This is how it is in in our family, but in my family the women don't suddenly become helpless for 2 years after giving birth.