Men do you find 30+ women attractive?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am turning 30 soon and am terrified of losing my looks.

Upon turning 30, I became a frog.

Beware.

[Anonymous]

You need to stop caring about this. Seriously. Whether men find women over 30 attractive or not, you will (if you're lucky) turn 30 and continue to age thereafter. This is one of those things you need to get over.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:At 37 I get hit on way, way, WAY more than I did when I was 27.

Due to a combination of the following:
- not just losing a lot of weight, but becoming "fit" and committed to working out and being active
- increased confidence due to exercise
- increased confidence just due to getting older and knowing more who you are, giving less of a shit about what others think (this does not mean being a bitch - it just means knowing what not/not to sweat)
- how you carry yourself matters significantly. Being secure in who you are.

^ This!!!

As a 50 year old man who has committed himself to a lifetime of fitness, nothing is more attractive to me than a fit woman over 30. I have dated women in their 50's who are in better shape than those that are 30.

Because women in their 50's have more time to work out than women in their 30's, if they have kids. Between juggling work and taking care of the kids, it's a lot harder to find time to work out. Once the kids are older (when I hit my 50's), I'll have more time. No, working out is not a priority for me right now. I am slimmish, and my DH still finds me attractive (I'm 45), but I could definitely be a lot more fit.

[Anonymous]

I'm a whole lot more confident in my mid-40s than I was at 30. I'm slimmer and fitter, too. Maybe a bit jigglier from having children, too, but that's inevitable. But I think it is that confidence that clinches it.

That and the fact that a boatload of women my age are really out of shape. So, somebody who stays in shape starts to look better, even if she's not particularly hot.

[Anonymous]

When I was 17 there was a woman across the street that was in her early 30's. Had 4 children. She was beautiful, built and sexy as hell and could have had me anytime, anywhere.

So I guess my answer is absolutely. Had a number of them I found attractive and sexy in my teens and decades later still believe that age isn't an issue.

[Anonymous]

My wife is hotter at 40 than she was at 25.

[Anonymous]

Well I'm 34 years, I have a 28 year old male friend who is chasing me around wanting to date me. Unfortunately for him I don't date men my age or younger. I was so angry when a 23 year old tried to ask me for a date. I had to tell him I'm old enough to be his mother and to back off.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Well I'm 34 years, I have a 28 year old male friend who is chasing me around wanting to date me. Unfortunately for him I don't date men my age or younger. I was so angry when a 23 year old tried to ask me for a date. I had to tell him I'm old enough to be his mother and to back off.

Relax and enjoy the attention. Someday you'll miss it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Well I'm 34 years, I have a 28 year old male friend who is chasing me around wanting to date me. Unfortunately for him I don't date men my age or younger. I was so angry when a 23 year old tried to ask me for a date. I had to tell him I'm old enough to be his mother and to back off.

You were so angry? You should get therapy. I can understand not being interested. But, a guy asking you out for a date should not trigger an intensely negative emotional response like that.

[Anonymous]

no, for the most part no. esp your typical dc white woman.

it's not because of body. even 40 year olds have great bodies. it's the skin. women these days don't take care of their skin religiously like my mom/her generation did and still does.

for gen x and millenial women, it isn't a priority until they turn 29 and are like 'oh shit' and by then it is too late.

yellow bones/red bones are different as are some latinas.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Hasn't this been addressed here ad nauseum? Looks fade; people in their 20's are generally considered most attractive. The theory is that humans are hardwired to find fertility attractive. As the fertile years fade, so does attractiveness. Blah blah blah.

I suppose this may have some truth to it, but a successful marriage requires more than that. Twenty year olds don't approach me now, but that's a very good thing. They're terrible in bed, IMO.

OMG totally.

[Anonymous]

Guy here. Yes, attractive if;

- BMI < 25
- no kids, abortions, STDs, or mental health issues
- no crazy college debt from useless Psych major
- ideally she does not own a cat or a condo
- ideally she does not have countless baby photos around her apartment...
- did I already say BMI < 25?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm a 36 year old woman and my fiancé is a sexy 26 years old. So I'd say I still got it!

Wait 10 years.

I'm almost 46 and my DH isn't complaining. It's attitudes like yours that OP has internalized, to the point of being "terrified" at 30!

[Anonymous]

Just because you are past your peak, doesn't mean you fall off a cliff overnight. Besides, your 30s are for watching your kids grow, working hard to advance your career, and building your nest egg for the future. Leave those in their 20s to obsess over their looks.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Guy here. Yes, attractive if;

- BMI < 25
- no kids, abortions, STDs, or mental health issues
- no crazy college debt from useless Psych major
- ideally she does not own a cat or a condo
- ideally she does not have countless baby photos around her apartment...
- did I already say BMI < 25?

This is the kind of loser you're terrified of no longer being attractive to, OP. Just consider that.