Return the ring?

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Anonymous wrote:I think OP is the niece who is supposed to get the ring but her jerk aunt and uncle are messing it up.

Am I right?!

OP is probably DH's sister who can't believe her brother is such a d*ck.

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Anonymous wrote:Did the couple have children?

OP. Yes, four, of which one has mild cerebral palsy (what probably broke the already unstable marriage).

Sorry. Kids with mild CP have many abilities. Forcing you to fuck people outside of your marriage is not one of them. Adults did that, don't blame that on the child.

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Anonymous wrote:OP, you knew about what would happen to the ring in case of divorce, yes? This is not new news, right? Return the ring.

OP. Sigh. There's always a Miss Cleo in each thread. I'm neither the DH nor the DW and you're not psychic.

Then it's non of your f'king business. Stay out of it.

OP. But I haven't told you who I am, have I? Very stupid of you to assume disposition of a family heirloom is only two people's business. You sound mental.

NP. I'm not the one who said the "f'king" business comment. I am the one who posed the initial point you were responding to.

But this all brings up a good point: if you are not the wife, and this is not your business, why do you care?

OP. You can spend the rest of your afternoon wondering about that. Who else apart from the couple in question would care about and have rights to a valuable heirloom that belongs to the family? Hm. Fortunately, the thread can continue whether or not you have a problem with me starting it.

I don't have a problem with you wondering about this/posing the question. I'm posing a follow-up question: what is your involvement in this scenario?

She said she's not DH or DW... Family pet maybe?

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Anonymous wrote:I think OP is the niece who is supposed to get the ring but her jerk aunt and uncle are messing it up.

Am I right?!

OP is probably DH's sister who can't believe her brother is such a d*ck.

I think she is DW (or DH) even though she's saying she is not

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^ well, whoever she is, it's clear she WANTS the ring.

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DH is *temporarily loaned* a ring that is owned in perpetuity *by his family trust.* He may possess the ring for the duration of his life. When he dies, the ring goes back to his family.

Whether DH puts that ring in a safe deposit box, or on the finger of a woman he marries for a few years (or a lifetime), that ring still legally, ethically and morally is promptly returned to his family upon his death.

If DH wants that ring back from the woman at any time to put into a safe deposit box, or even up his a$$, during his lifetime, he may do so. Because he owns that ring during his lifetime.

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I think the wife should have realized something was up with this guy when they got engaged and he gave her a "borrowed for his lifetime" ring rather than a ring he bought for her himself with money he had earned.

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Anonymous wrote:I think OP is the niece who is supposed to get the ring but her jerk aunt and uncle are messing it up.

Am I right?!

OP is probably DH's sister who can't believe her brother is such a d*ck.

I think she is DW (or DH) even though she's saying she is not

I don't think dw would have volunteered that she cheated and dh wouldn't admit he's a douche.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think the wife should have realized something was up with this guy when they got engaged and he gave her a "borrowed for his lifetime" ring rather than a ring he bought for her himself with money he had earned.

That's really common in trust fund families. Just because your family is rich doesn't mean you've done anything for yourself.

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It's really simple, when you are given something with the understanding that it is only temporary and contingent upon you staying married to the person giving it to you, you give it back when the marriage is done. All of the other crap doesn't matter. DW will need to pursue her financial grievances against her DH separately, she has no right to the ring at this point morally or legally.

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Anonymous wrote:I think OP is the niece who is supposed to get the ring but her jerk aunt and uncle are messing it up.

Am I right?!

OP is probably DH's sister who can't believe her brother is such a d*ck.

I think she is DW (or DH) even though she's saying she is not

I don't think dw would have volunteered that she cheated and dh wouldn't admit he's a douche.

It's pretty clear that the DH, DW, and OP are all a bunch of doinks that deserve to have each other in their lives forever and ever.

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She should return it, and those other things don't matter.

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I don't get it... it was a rented ring. It belongs to the family trust (if that is actually true- never heard of a piece of jewelry- no matter how amazing- conveying like that.

Who cares about shit like that when they are dead?

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You guys mean to tell me that if some guy ran out on you with no means to care for your four kids and you had something really valuable to sell, you'd choose to raise your kids in poverty?

This site is overrun with sanctimonious liars.

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Anonymous wrote:I think OP is the niece who is supposed to get the ring but her jerk aunt and uncle are messing it up.

Am I right?!

OP is probably DH's sister who can't believe her brother is such a d*ck.

I think she is DW (or DH) even though she's saying she is not

I don't think dw would have volunteered that she cheated and dh wouldn't admit he's a douche.

It's pretty clear that the DH, DW, and OP are all a bunch of doinks that deserve to have each other in their lives forever and ever.

I love that you said "doinks." Will you marry me? I borrowed a ring and everything.