Putting a pet up for adoption

[Anonymous]

"i find it so sad that people get more worked up over a dog rather than a fetus."

Let's not go there. SOME people get worked up over animals. SOME people get worked up over babies/fetuses.

[Anonymous]

I am the OP. I did not think I would get more than a response or two so thank you to all who chimed in. It is such a relief to know I am not the only one who has been through this and that maybe, just maybe I can stick it out. We are planning baby number two at the end of the year. In addition, he has never been in a boarding facility and now that the baby is here I just wasn't sure I could manage bringing both my babies along when we travel. Work has multiplied since I returned from maternity leave and I cherish the few minutes at the end of the day with my dear baby. I suppose all those factors snowballed and I simply could not see where my furbaby fit in. After reading your replies I really do feel as if I can give it a shot. I just need to be patient. Again, thank you for the encouragement. I will keep you all posted. If you have any tips on traveling by plane with a baby and pet please share. I will be that lady in two more months. Help!

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Anonymous wrote:Ever heard of google? Look into it. I personally know that one of my jackass childhood friends kicked my dog once during a b-day party. She didn't come over to my house again for over a year, and as soon as my dog saw her he started growling and got aggressive -- which was out of character for my loving poodle. Trust me, your dog will be sad if you give him away. You've had the dog for 7 years -- that's a lifetime for a dog. Bonds have been formed. Either you care, or you don't. But don't say that you are dumping your dog for his sake -- get real.

This is extreme. I think it must be hard to go through life when everything is seen only in black and white terms.

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Anonymous wrote:I am the OP. I did not think I would get more than a response or two so thank you to all who chimed in. It is such a relief to know I am not the only one who has been through this and that maybe, just maybe I can stick it out. We are planning baby number two at the end of the year. In addition, he has never been in a boarding facility and now that the baby is here I just wasn't sure I could manage bringing both my babies along when we travel. Work has multiplied since I returned from maternity leave and I cherish the few minutes at the end of the day with my dear baby. I suppose all those factors snowballed and I simply could not see where my furbaby fit in. After reading your replies I really do feel as if I can give it a shot. I just need to be patient. Again, thank you for the encouragement. I will keep you all posted. If you have any tips on traveling by plane with a baby and pet please share. I will be that lady in two more months. Help!

Good for you!!!

Depending on the tempermant of your dog, we have found hiring a petsitter to come to the house to be better than a kennel when we don't travel with the dog (even better, we have Grandpa take the dog in if possible). Of course, the petsitter only works if your dog isn't destructive. We also have a friend who will do a drop by in addition to the petsitter.

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Anonymous wrote:I don't understand this. Do people not realize that the decision to adopt a pet should be a commitment to care for that pet for his entire life. I know at times major health issues and financial issues come up, but ditching a pet because of the temporary turmoil of a new baby is just plain cruel. Dogs are very sensitive. This thread makes me very sad.

Perhaps you don't realize, but your patronizing, holier-than-thou tone is doing your cause more harm than good.

I doubt you have pets if you don't understand that a lifetime committment is the norm.

I said nothing about whether I have pets or about my beliefs about what is the norm, so you have nothing to go on there. What I'm commenting on is your tone, which turns people off. If you truly want to get people on your side, you're not going to win anyone over with this type of post. All you're doing is turning people off to your message. Which leads me to believe that what you're really trying to do is feel superior to people. If you want people to keep their pets, a kinder and gentler post about how she could manage it would be more effective.

I am the holier than thou poster and quiet frankly, I do not give a damn if I am turning people off nor am I trying to persuade anyone to "my side".

I completely agree with you, PP. A pet is lifetime commitment. Shelters have limited resources & enough unwanted dogs to try to find homes for.

OP, do you really think that your dog would be happier in a cage at the local shelter separated from the only family he has ever known and listening to other dogs bark 24/7? That would be better than less attention in the household? If you think that dogs do not experience loss, you are wrong. I had a dog that suddenly lost his canine companion to illness and he didn't eat for two weeks.

Look, if you want to get rid of your dog, just be honest about it. Don't say that it is better for the dog.

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Anonymous wrote:I am the OP. I did not think I would get more than a response or two so thank you to all who chimed in. It is such a relief to know I am not the only one who has been through this and that maybe, just maybe I can stick it out. We are planning baby number two at the end of the year. In addition, he has never been in a boarding facility and now that the baby is here I just wasn't sure I could manage bringing both my babies along when we travel. Work has multiplied since I returned from maternity leave and I cherish the few minutes at the end of the day with my dear baby. I suppose all those factors snowballed and I simply could not see where my furbaby fit in. After reading your replies I really do feel as if I can give it a shot. I just need to be patient. Again, thank you for the encouragement. I will keep you all posted. If you have any tips on traveling by plane with a baby and pet please share. I will be that lady in two more months. Help!

Good for you!!!

Depending on the tempermant of your dog, we have found hiring a petsitter to come to the house to be better than a kennel when we don't travel with the dog (even better, we have Grandpa take the dog in if possible). Of course, the petsitter only works if your dog isn't destructive. We also have a friend who will do a drop by in addition to the petsitter.

YAY! I am so glad to hear that you will stick it out...things do get easier and just think of the bond your dear children will have with your beloved little dog. Congratulations! I know it's hard - as a new mom who works full time and the owner of two dogs, I totally know how you feel. Also, not sure where you live but there are some fabulous kennels in our area. We personally use Old Town Pet Resort - they are super nice and the facility is very comfortable, etc.

If you get overwhelmed, just post again!

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Anonymous wrote:http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-LnW14vRO_M

WOW. I think the cat's name is Christian-I bought the book, the story of Christian's life, for my son to read to him when he's a little older.

We once rescued a dog on the eastern shore. A pathetic creature, he had been run over by a car, so he limped, and had been eating scraps the neighbors set out for him. He was big too, half lab/half chow. So, we would go down almost every weekend to work on our house, and he would patiently wait for us, spend all weekend on our porch. We then brought him back to Alexandria and eventually found a great home for him in the Phili area. While visiting the area, we stopped by to visit the dog, and when that dog saw my husband, he peed from excitement and ran into his arms. This was a year later! So, yes, dog's do have memories.

[Anonymous]

OP-We used to travel with our little dog, that was before child. We now board her at a place called Dogtopia and she loves it! It's clean and cageless, and the last time she was there, she hooked with another Yorkie during her stay. I've never felt sorry for my dog since we had our son, we've all had to make adjustments. She was such a PITA last night too because she didn't get a walk, and sulked for hours in our bedroom and every time I moved, she thought it was time for a walk. I'm not trying to be condescending, but this is life, and you did make a committment to your little dog when you brought him home. Personally, I've heard of too many tragedies involving dogs and cats that I'm very distrustful.

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Anonymous wrote:I don't understand this. Do people not realize that the decision to adopt a pet should be a commitment to care for that pet for his entire life. I know at times major health issues and financial issues come up, but ditching a pet because of the temporary turmoil of a new baby is just plain cruel. Dogs are very sensitive. This thread makes me very sad.

Perhaps you don't realize, but your patronizing, holier-than-thou tone is doing your cause more harm than good.

I doubt you have pets if you don't understand that a lifetime committment is the norm.

I said nothing about whether I have pets or about my beliefs about what is the norm, so you have nothing to go on there. What I'm commenting on is your tone, which turns people off. If you truly want to get people on your side, you're not going to win anyone over with this type of post. All you're doing is turning people off to your message. Which leads me to believe that what you're really trying to do is feel superior to people. If you want people to keep their pets, a kinder and gentler post about how she could manage it would be more effective.

I am the holier than thou poster and quiet frankly, I do not give a damn if I am turning people off nor am I trying to persuade anyone to "my side".

I completely agree with you, PP. A pet is lifetime commitment. Shelters have limited resources & enough unwanted dogs to try to find homes for.

OP, do you really think that your dog would be happier in a cage at the local shelter separated from the only family he has ever known and listening to other dogs bark 24/7? That would be better than less attention in the household? If you think that dogs do not experience loss, you are wrong. I had a dog that suddenly lost his canine companion to illness and he didn't eat for two weeks.

Look, if you want to get rid of your dog, just be honest about it. Don't say that it is better for the dog.

Why are people still chastising her? She's keeping the dog. You know, sometimes people think about giving an animal away because they've reached the end of their rope and they need to talk about it. She's already told us she's changed her mind. Give it a rest already.

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Anonymous wrote:I am the OP. I did not think I would get more than a response or two so thank you to all who chimed in. It is such a relief to know I am not the only one who has been through this and that maybe, just maybe I can stick it out. We are planning baby number two at the end of the year. In addition, he has never been in a boarding facility and now that the baby is here I just wasn't sure I could manage bringing both my babies along when we travel. Work has multiplied since I returned from maternity leave and I cherish the few minutes at the end of the day with my dear baby. I suppose all those factors snowballed and I simply could not see where my furbaby fit in. After reading your replies I really do feel as if I can give it a shot. I just need to be patient. Again, thank you for the encouragement. I will keep you all posted. If you have any tips on traveling by plane with a baby and pet please share. I will be that lady in two more months. Help!

Double YAY!

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I'm one of the PP's who survived life with baby and dog. Our dog does not do well at a boarding facilities and I have a pet sitter come to the house when we are away. It also saves the drop off and pick up at the kennel.

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Just one more word of encouragement for the OP. I was very fearful of car travel with a kid and a dog, but while it's PITA to get both in and out of the car, the dog actually HELPS me survive the trip. Just as my son is getting antzy, the dog sticks her head between the seats and my son starts laughing.

A few months ago, my houdini dog got out of her doggie seatbelt. She was walking all over the minivan. My son was so excited, he still talks about it to this day.

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Anonymous wrote:I don't understand this. Do people not realize that the decision to adopt a pet should be a commitment to care for that pet for his entire life. I know at times major health issues and financial issues come up, but ditching a pet because of the temporary turmoil of a new baby is just plain cruel. Dogs are very sensitive. This thread makes me very sad.

Perhaps you don't realize, but your patronizing, holier-than-thou tone is doing your cause more harm than good.

I doubt you have pets if you don't understand that a lifetime committment is the norm.

I said nothing about whether I have pets or about my beliefs about what is the norm, so you have nothing to go on there. What I'm commenting on is your tone, which turns people off. If you truly want to get people on your side, you're not going to win anyone over with this type of post. All you're doing is turning people off to your message. Which leads me to believe that what you're really trying to do is feel superior to people. If you want people to keep their pets, a kinder and gentler post about how she could manage it would be more effective.

I am the holier than thou poster and quiet frankly, I do not give a damn if I am turning people off nor am I trying to persuade anyone to "my side".

I'm with holier than thou! ITA with everything he/she is saying!

[Anonymous]

I have a new baby, DH and a Yorkie. Thinking of giving up my DH for adoption. Know any good sites? Before I get flamed, please know that my husband will probably do fine in a new loving home, just not mine. He requires no walks or brushing (bald), but is HIGH maintenance (wants lots of attention, sex, and time away from domestic responsibilities). BTW, he's got papers (purebred ivy-trained lawyer & Mensa member) and is generally trained (some toilet seat issues, but pretty well trained). Would do better with a compliant co-dependent spouse who puts him above all others. Will throw in a set of golf clubs and large ego. Free to good home. or frankly free to any home.

[Anonymous]

Her Dog her choice!