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Anonymous
I doubt you have pets if you don't understand that a lifetime commitment is the norm. |
Anonymous
I said nothing about whether I have pets or about my beliefs about what is the norm, so you have nothing to go on there. What I'm commenting on is your tone, which turns people off. If you truly want to get people on your side, you're not going to win anyone over with this type of post. All you're doing is turning people off to your message. Which leads me to believe that what you're really trying to do is feel superior to people. If you want people to keep their pets, a kinder and gentler post about how she could manage it would be more effective. |
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There were many, many, many times I though of giving up my dog when I first had my child and the feeling lasted for the next few years.
My dog was 8 when my child was born never got the attention she had before after my child entered the picture. The dog was a small breed and within a couple years she slowed down and actually needed less attention because as she aged she was not interested in a rambunctious toddler or taking super long walks. She passed away a few months ago at the age of 15. I have never regretted keeping her even though she was spoiled, poorly trained, and made the more than occasional mess. I know I would have deeply regretted it if I had given her up the first couple of years of my daughter's life though. I won't say it was easy and it times it was very stressful but for me personally I saw the dog as a memeber of the family so I couldn't part with her even on her worst day but I did entertain the thought a lot of times. |
Anonymous
I posted the second post, not the original one you called 'holier than thou.' I know you said nothing about having pets; my post said "I DOUBT you have pets if you don't understand that a lifetime commitment is the norm." If it weren't a big issue, then the OP wouldn't have posted in the first place. |
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| Just another poster wanting to put in a word for keeping the dog. It is hard having a dog and a baby, but I think you can really begin to enjoy the daily walks with both, especially if you start out just taking short ones and gradually lengthen them. My son now finds those early evening/late afternoon walks relaxing and entertaining. I would try both with an infant carrier and in a stroller - you might like one better than the other. Also, you could hire a dogwalker for a couple days a week or consider doggy daycare to get the dog out of the way some. In time, I think you will be glad of the decision to see it through. |
Anonymous
But I never said anything about agreeing with the OPs decision to give the dog away. Maybe I agree with the holier than thou that it's not something she should do, and I'd like people to help OP reach that conclusion by giving her some encouragement to keep, or like other posters have done offered some honest advice about what could happen to the pet if she offers for free, etc. Coming in with a statement that basically accuses her of being a bad person for not having the same philosophy about committments to pets isn't going to sway her back to keeping the animal. It has the opposite effect. It creates a greater divide between those with differing opinions, and only serves the purpose of one person feeling superior to the other. It does nothing to answer the real problem. |
Anonymous
I am the holier than thou poster and quiet frankly, I do not give a damn if I am turning people off nor am I trying to persuade anyone to "my side". |
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"Perhaps you don't realize, but your patronizing, holier-than-thou tone is doing your cause more harm than good. "
It's only holier-than-thou in your opinion b/c she's saying something you don't want to hear. When you adopt a pet it is for life, imo. And, sorry if it inconveniences you but that's it. You don't think my pets inconvenience me sometimes? That said, if OP wants to adopt out I provided some info early on as to how to do it in a way that is best for the animal. That doesn't mean I agree with OP doing it; but if she is it is important to do it in the most responsible way. |
Anonymous
Aaaah, so I was right. You just want to feel superior, you don't really actually care about her pet. My point is proven. Thank you. |
Anonymous
Not the holier-than-thou poster -- but she didn't prove your point at all. On the contrary, I think what she meant was that she cared about the pet so much that she didn't care about tiptoe-ing over OP's feelings. Yes, she was harsh, but almost everyone in this thread agrees with her, even if they managed to say it in a gentler way. |
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Aaaah, the irony of it all. |
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| My toddler would be lost without his dog. Our dog can be a big PITA, but so can my husband and toddler. One day she was sick, she ate something she shouldn't have, and had an accident. My darling son found it, put his hand in it and told me she pooped. I was pissed but not at her, at life. I didn't have time to clean up my son and dog shit. OP, don't worry so much about the dog not getting attention, he's probably just fine, you feel guilty about not spending time with him. Shit-I don't spend much time with myself, so my dog and I are in the same place in life. |