Late 30's/40's pregnancies

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Anonymous wrote:I had mine at 41 and 44, after being told at 40 I'd probably never have any. It can and does happen .

This was me, exactly.

OP, what you need to consider is not if you want a baby in your early 40s, but if you want a 10 year old in your early 50s, or a kid still in college in your early 60s. THAT is the hard part.

The age gap between my first 2 and the new baby and how old I'll be when they're in college is what makes me pause. I'm loving seeing all these positive responses. Negative nellies aside.

Well, yes. There are a lot of positives. But my point is, the real negatives are likely to be more down the line (10 - 15 years from now), versus now, when you have a new baby.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:This is kind of an odd question for this area. At my employer the average age of a FTM is 38 years old (verified fact - they tell us this at orientation). The people having kids at younger ages, especially younger than say 31-32 stick out in the DC metro area. Therefore, there are lots of resources for advanced-maternal age support. It is incredibly common. 44 is definitely on the high side, and most of my friends above 42 having their first are IVF. About half having their second above 42 are IVF. Of course this is just anecdotal. I had mine at 37 and 39.

Depends on your crowd, I guess. Most of my friends had their first babies in the 28-32 range. I am 42 and just can't imagine being in that newborn stage again, but then again I have spent the last decade sleep-deprived. Might feel more energetic if I had spent my 30s doing something else. There were always a lot of older mothers in the birth care waiting rooms so there are a lot of moms around here having healthy low-risk 40s pregnancies.

Curious, where in the DC metro area do you live and in what industry do you work?

I am an attorney that lives in upper NW DC and there are very few FTMs under 30 in my neighborhood or among my colleagues.

+1. I had my first right after I turned 30 and sometimes felt like a teen mom when I attended PTA meetings! People in DC area have children pretty late. It may be harder to conceive one, but once you do, you will have a lot of peers.

[Anonymous]

I had my second at 39. The pregnancy wasn't much different than my first pregnancy at 34. Delivery was way easier second time and second baby was incredibly chill, so I would say newborn phase with the second was easier too. Two healthy kids.

I'm in close-in NoVa and feel pretty average age wise. Loads of women are having a last kid in their late 30s. I think the 40+ moms are still more rare, but certainly not unheard of.

[Anonymous]

Had the last one at 41 (3 total). No issues with any pregnancy. In fact, the only miscarriage I had was my very first pregnancy when I was 32.

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Had my 3rd just shy of 40. No problems getting pregnant, low risk pregnancy and birth, and the easiest recovery.

The incidence of chromosomal defects and still birth go up, but they are still low.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Are you new here? They're all 45 year old first time moms.

Seriously, DC is like the GrannyMom capital of the world. And no, the alternative is not having kids at 20. Many, many people have kids in their early 30s before the grannies start going crazy about establishing their financial independence pre-kids.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Are you new here? They're all 45 year old first time moms.

Seriously, DC is like the GrannyMom capital of the world. And no, the alternative is not having kids at 20. Many, many people have kids in their early 30s before the grannies start going crazy about establishing their financial independence pre-kids.

Let me guess, you have no prospect of financial independence?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Are you new here? They're all 45 year old first time moms.

Seriously, DC is like the GrannyMom capital of the world. And no, the alternative is not having kids at 20. Many, many people have kids in their early 30s before the grannies start going crazy about establishing their financial independence pre-kids.

Any major metropolitan area is the grannymom capital of the world.

And you're exaggerating a decent amount. Even in DC, many people are still having kids in their early 30s.

But hey, don't let that get in the way of your commentary.

[Anonymous]

I had my first and only at 42. Normal, non-complicated pregnancy and got pregnant using the clear blue easy ovulation monitor only. My grandma had my dad at 42 too but he was the last of her five kids.

No one in my social circle had a kid earlier than their mid thirties usually late 30ties or early 40ties. All my friends/acquaintances went to Ivy or equivalent undergrad and have graduate degrees but we lived in Manhattan before moving to DC. Moving back to grannymommyville Manhattan so DS can attend private middle school there.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I had my first and only at 42. Normal, non-complicated pregnancy and got pregnant using the clear blue easy ovulation monitor only. My grandma had my dad at 42 too but he was the last of her five kids.

No one in my social circle had a kid earlier than their mid thirties usually late 30ties or early 40ties. All my friends/acquaintances went to Ivy or equivalent undergrad and have graduate degrees but we lived in Manhattan before moving to DC. Moving back to grannymommyville Manhattan so DS can attend private middle school there.

One reason we are moving back is because DS is a chess prodigy and he likes to play at the Marshall chess club down in the village.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is kind of an odd question for this area. At my employer the average age of a FTM is 38 years old (verified fact - they tell us this at orientation). The people having kids at younger ages, especially younger than say 31-32 stick out in the DC metro area. Therefore, there are lots of resources for advanced-maternal age support. It is incredibly common. 44 is definitely on the high side, and most of my friends above 42 having their first are IVF. About half having their second above 42 are IVF. Of course this is just anecdotal. I had mine at 37 and 39.

Depends on your crowd, I guess. Most of my friends had their first babies in the 28-32 range. I am 42 and just can't imagine being in that newborn stage again, but then again I have spent the last decade sleep-deprived. Might feel more energetic if I had spent my 30s doing something else. There were always a lot of older mothers in the birth care waiting rooms so there are a lot of moms around here having healthy low-risk 40s pregnancies.

Curious, where in the DC metro area do you live and in what industry do you work?

I am an attorney that lives in upper NW DC and there are very few FTMs under 30 in my neighborhood or among my colleagues.

I said about my employer average age. Both at the IMF/World Bank this statistic is trotted out.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I had my first and only at 42. Normal, non-complicated pregnancy and got pregnant using the clear blue easy ovulation monitor only. My grandma had my dad at 42 too but he was the last of her five kids.

No one in my social circle had a kid earlier than their mid thirties usually late 30ties or early 40ties. All my friends/acquaintances went to Ivy or equivalent undergrad and have graduate degrees but we lived in Manhattan before moving to DC. Moving back to grannymommyville Manhattan so DS can attend private middle school there.

One reason we are moving back is because DS is a chess prodigy and he likes to play at the Marshall chess club down in the village.

Congrats, Braggy!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I had my first and only at 42. Normal, non-complicated pregnancy and got pregnant using the clear blue easy ovulation monitor only. My grandma had my dad at 42 too but he was the last of her five kids.

No one in my social circle had a kid earlier than their mid thirties usually late 30ties or early 40ties. All my friends/acquaintances went to Ivy or equivalent undergrad and have graduate degrees but we lived in Manhattan before moving to DC. Moving back to grannymommyville Manhattan so DS can attend private middle school there.

One reason we are moving back is because DS is a chess prodigy and he likes to play at the Marshall chess club down in the village.

Congrats, Braggy!

Whatever. Being an older mom doesn't mean you'll have complications... And you can end up with a great kid.

[Anonymous]

I'm 41 and would love to have a fourth, but one of our dc has autism and we just can't handle a second child with autism. But if all three were NT than I would definitely go for it. People have always had healthy children in their 40s, its just in the past they were usually their youngest, not oldest, children.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I had my first and only at 42. Normal, non-complicated pregnancy and got pregnant using the clear blue easy ovulation monitor only. My grandma had my dad at 42 too but he was the last of her five kids.

No one in my social circle had a kid earlier than their mid thirties usually late 30ties or early 40ties. All my friends/acquaintances went to Ivy or equivalent undergrad and have graduate degrees but we lived in Manhattan before moving to DC. Moving back to grannymommyville Manhattan so DS can attend private middle school there.

One reason we are moving back is because DS is a chess prodigy and he likes to play at the Marshall chess club down in the village.

i would move to manhattan in the heartbeat but never for this reason. does your son plan to play chess professionally?