If you had a "bonus baby..."

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I got permanent birth control after I had my last child at 36.

Are people really that open to having oops babies? I just couldn't imagine starting over again at, say, 45.

Search the Expectant Mothers archives; there are a shocking number of posts about vasectomies that grew back together and resulted in bonus babies.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:We adopted one, unplanned. It's been kind of hellish - she has this huge problem that causes tons of problems and it sucks. I wish things had worked out differently.

How do you have an unplanned adoption?

not pp, but probably a family member. Grandchild, niece or nephew. I'm just guessing.

Yep, family member.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:At 50 I did have a 25 year old. I also had two kids in elementary school. No one asked how I did it, because they could see we had no money, no property, bad health care, and low-paying jobs. They did ask how I managed to raise such smart, hardworking, nice kids, though. Maybe because I'm that way? But I'm in the category that you judge as "reckless" and "selfish" because we don't have savings and will work at our low-paying jobs until we drop dead. Like the majority of people in this country.

Yes, solid finances would be ideal. So would a system in this country that actually supports families, so that we hardworking, frugal people don't go into crushing debt for normal things like taking care of our elderly, our kids, and dealing with illness.

In other words, rich people should pay more in taxes so you don't have to go into debt.

The PP is the rich people on Obama's America. Just sayin' who do you think pays for entitlements? People with jobs.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I got permanent birth control after I had my last child at 36.

Are people really that open to having oops babies? I just couldn't imagine starting over again at, say, 45.

My good friend conceived her 2nd child with a Mirena in. Many people think their solution is perfect.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:OP here. 38.

38 was when I had my first. I hardly think that's a "bonus" age.

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Agree. Bonus babies arrive in your 40s.

I have one. I'm now in my 50s and am slowing down. I don't give my youngest the attention the older kids got. Just don't have the energy I had when I was younger.

[Anonymous]

This won't help you right now, but DH is a bonus baby (9 yrs younger than his closest sib). He is the only one of his sibling who had a kid. His parents now live near us and greatly enjoy having a grandchild in their life. I sure it was a shock for MIL to have him, but I am sure she is glad that she has him and his child in her life.

Hopefully this new baby will bring more joy into your family.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I got permanent birth control after I had my last child at 36.

Are people really that open to having oops babies? I just couldn't imagine starting over again at, say, 45.

Search the Expectant Mothers archives; there are a shocking number of posts about vasectomies that grew back together and resulted in bonus babies.

Oh well, I'm a control freak, I wouldn't rely on a vasectomy for birth control. I got permanent birth control myself.