Poll for wives who don't have regular sex with their spouse..

[Anonymous]

Lack of health (mental and physical) and lack of hygiene is unattractive.
Still find some other men attractive. Turned on mainly just as a fantasy, not anything to act on.
Not sexually active because spouse and I both have our issues
Yes.

[Anonymous]

Because he's often not very nice to me, and usually asleep before the kids are. He doesn't act like he likes me much at all, as a person.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Schedule is the biggest culprit.

"Schedule" is bullshit. You just aren't prioritizing sex. You're busy with work, kids, pets, exercise, etc.? OK, but there are 168 hours in the week, don't tell me you can't set ONE of those hours aside for sex. Stop putting sex at the bottom of the list and letting "other things" push sex off the list.

WHY you don't want to prioritize sex is the real question.

Spoken like a man who would put sex before kids, work, pets, exercise, etc.

Grow up, perv.

also a typical d!ck who speaks from and for his penis.

[Anonymous]

No sex because I'm on hormonal therapy after treatment for breast cancer, and sex is too painful even with lube. Since I now produce very few hormones, I have no more sex drive, so no masturbation and no attraction to others. We've been together nearly 30 years, so it is what it is. I feel guilty--he's nearly 53 and was still happy with our regular sex life before cancer--but he doesn't want to hurt me.

[Anonymous]

This is a really depressing thread.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Schedule is the biggest culprit.

"Schedule" is bullshit. You just aren't prioritizing sex. You're busy with work, kids, pets, exercise, etc.? OK, but there are 168 hours in the week, don't tell me you can't set ONE of those hours aside for sex. Stop putting sex at the bottom of the list and letting "other things" push sex off the list.

WHY you don't want to prioritize sex is the real question.

Spoken like a man who would put sex before kids, work, pets, exercise, etc.

Grow up, perv.

Math is hard. Especially for women.

One hour a week for sex leaves 167 other hours for kids, work, pets, exercise, etc. -- and that's plenty of time.

Logic is hard. Especially for women.

If you don't have sex then your kids, work, pets, exercise, etc. -- i.e., your whole life -- will suffer because your spouse will divorce you or cheat. (And if you are a woman, all the other women on DCUM will cheer you on for doing so.)

Grow up, twat.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Schedule is the biggest culprit.

"Schedule" is bullshit. You just aren't prioritizing sex. You're busy with work, kids, pets, exercise, etc.? OK, but there are 168 hours in the week, don't tell me you can't set ONE of those hours aside for sex. Stop putting sex at the bottom of the list and letting "other things" push sex off the list.

WHY you don't want to prioritize sex is the real question.

Spoken like a man who would put sex before kids, work, pets, exercise, etc.

Grow up, perv.

Math is hard. Especially for women.

One hour a week for sex leaves 167 other hours for kids, work, pets, exercise, etc. -- and that's plenty of time.

Logic is hard. Especially for women.

If you don't have sex then your kids, work, pets, exercise, etc. -- i.e., your whole life -- will suffer because your spouse will divorce you or cheat. (And if you are a woman, all the other women on DCUM will cheer you on for doing so.)

Grow up, twat.

Text your mom from the basement, you sound hungry and cranky. She needs to bring you some food.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I would say that his anal abscess pretty much killed the magic. He claims that half of all men get them so that explains a lot.

Ok I have to know. What is an anal access?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What caused problems was,
1) I wanted him to brush his teeth first. This made me, according to him, too uptight/not spontaneous/not passionate.

2) every time had to be film worthy. In other words I had to act like a porn star. I just didn't have the energy all the time.

3) I had to service him regularly or he'd get grumpy, mean etc. So I tried to keep the frequency up, but then got criticized for not being "passionate" enough.

In other words, I think he had unrealistic expectations of what sex would be like after ten years of marriage, two kids, two jobs, etc. etc. I know I had my failings too, but at least I wanted to try, and did try.

Not defending your H, but why do you believe sex should be less frequent or passionate after 10 years of marriage?
Why should 2 kids and 2 jobs put a dent in your sexlife?

[Anonymous]

As Athol Kay writes in The Married Man Sex Primer:

“Marriage is at its heart, a sexual relationship. Without the sex it’s just a legally binding friendship, which is a needlessly complicated way of having a friend. The basic agreement of being married is to meet each other’s sexual needs and not to run round getting them met anywhere else. Both affairs and sexless marriages break that relationship agreement.”

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Schedule is the biggest culprit.

"Schedule" is bullshit. You just aren't prioritizing sex. You're busy with work, kids, pets, exercise, etc.? OK, but there are 168 hours in the week, don't tell me you can't set ONE of those hours aside for sex. Stop putting sex at the bottom of the list and letting "other things" push sex off the list.

WHY you don't want to prioritize sex is the real question.

Spoken like a man who would put sex before kids, work, pets, exercise, etc.

Grow up, perv.

Math is hard. Especially for women.

One hour a week for sex leaves 167 other hours for kids, work, pets, exercise, etc. -- and that's plenty of time.

Logic is hard. Especially for women.

If you don't have sex then your kids, work, pets, exercise, etc. -- i.e., your whole life -- will suffer because your spouse will divorce you or cheat. (And if you are a woman, all the other women on DCUM will cheer you on for doing so.)

Grow up, twat.

Text your mom from the basement, you sound hungry and cranky. She needs to bring you some food.

What I'm going to do is teach my son to avoid women who think wanting one hour of sex a week makes you a "perv", "emotionally immature" with "unrealistic expectations", and a "a typical d!ck who speaks from and for his penis." There are lots of women out there, and he doesn't need one with that kind of obnoxious attitude.

Good grief, listen to yourselves. YOU ARE CRAZY. It is entirely possible, reasonable, and necessary to have sex on a regular basis, despite your "schedule".

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What caused problems was,
1) I wanted him to brush his teeth first. This made me, according to him, too uptight/not spontaneous/not passionate.

2) every time had to be film worthy. In other words I had to act like a porn star. I just didn't have the energy all the time.

3) I had to service him regularly or he'd get grumpy, mean etc. So I tried to keep the frequency up, but then got criticized for not being "passionate" enough.

In other words, I think he had unrealistic expectations of what sex would be like after ten years of marriage, two kids, two jobs, etc. etc. I know I had my failings too, but at least I wanted to try, and did try.

Guys' first impression of sex seems to influence their definition of regular sex. They often get the first regular sex from their college GF who is young, full of hormones and HAS to have it. Plus she's got lots of free time, no kids, job, house, exhausting schedule, etc. Pretty much, he's her only focus.

Because that's their first experience, they think thats the way sex is supposed to be. Parn doesn't help any either.

Your perspective is weird - college was very stressful, demanding and intense with studying and also work at the same time!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No sex because I'm on hormonal therapy after treatment for breast cancer, and sex is too painful even with lube. Since I now produce very few hormones, I have no more sex drive, so no masturbation and no attraction to others. We've been together nearly 30 years, so it is what it is. I feel guilty--he's nearly 53 and was still happy with our regular sex life before cancer--but he doesn't want to hurt me.

That sucks. Now that my hormones are flagging I really feel for those undergoing cancer treatments that remove all of the natural hormones from your body.
That's must be really harsh physically all around.

[Anonymous]

Because I have no desire anymore because of menopause. Sex is painful, even with meds and lubrication.

You don't stay 20 forever.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Schedule is the biggest culprit.

"Schedule" is bullshit. You just aren't prioritizing sex. You're busy with work, kids, pets, exercise, etc.? OK, but there are 168 hours in the week, don't tell me you can't set ONE of those hours aside for sex. Stop putting sex at the bottom of the list and letting "other things" push sex off the list.

WHY you don't want to prioritize sex is the real question.

Spoken like a man who would put sex before kids, work, pets, exercise, etc.

Grow up, perv.

Math is hard. Especially for women.

One hour a week for sex leaves 167 other hours for kids, work, pets, exercise, etc. -- and that's plenty of time.

Logic is hard. Especially for women.

If you don't have sex then your kids, work, pets, exercise, etc. -- i.e., your whole life -- will suffer because your spouse will divorce you or cheat. (And if you are a woman, all the other women on DCUM will cheer you on for doing so.)

Grow up, twat.

Text your mom from the basement, you sound hungry and cranky. She needs to bring you some food.

What I'm going to do is teach my son to avoid women who think wanting one hour of sex a week makes you a "perv", "emotionally immature" with "unrealistic expectations", and a "a typical d!ck who speaks from and for his penis." There are lots of women out there, and he doesn't need one with that kind of obnoxious attitude.

Good grief, listen to yourselves. YOU ARE CRAZY. It is entirely possible, reasonable, and necessary to have sex on a regular basis, despite your "schedule".

1 hour poor you... we schedule way more than 1 hour.