Poll for wives who don't have regular sex with their spouse..

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Anonymous wrote:You need a woman that does not want kids because she can't imagine her life changing.

Or... You need a woman that will have kids but have a nanny raise them so they don't get in the way. Maybe she can use a surrogate. Somebody that is willing to get plastic surgery so her wrinkles don't turn you off.

Um, no. You simply need a woman who actually values her marriage enough to prioritize even 60 minutes per week for intimacy.
No nanny, surrogate, or plastic surgeon required. Just a wife with a shred of loyalty to her marriage vows.

Bullshit.

There are plenty of men complaining about once a week. They complain that bedtime routine takes 1 hour, poor little bunny doesn't get attention every night.

Plenty of guys won't screw their wife if they gain 20 lbs.

The expections put on wives is to make 50 % of the money do 75% of the housework, do 75% of the child rearing, manage all family relations and to have sex like a porn star and to look like a model.

A small percentage are in sexless marriages. Many men describe their life as "sexless" even though they get sex weekly.

This.

Woman here. I think that's an unfair generalization.

Another here who disagrees. My husband doesn't expect that, because he's an adult, not a neanderthal. We have equal and fair expectations of each other. And we have sex a few times a week (even - gasp! - with 2 jobs, young kids, etc)

It's not a contest. Bully for you .. you have sex more than once a week, the PP has sex once a week. Nobody cares about your pat on your back. Do you want a cookie?

You need to get laid. Why so angry? The point is that not all men expect the bolded above, contrary to what that poster said. If yours does, sorry your husband is a d-bag.

My guess is you didn't read the whole thread and just realize we are talking about once a week.

You agree that once a week is not a sexless marriage? correct? you just misread it.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:You need a woman that does not want kids because she can't imagine her life changing.

Or... You need a woman that will have kids but have a nanny raise them so they don't get in the way. Maybe she can use a surrogate. Somebody that is willing to get plastic surgery so her wrinkles don't turn you off.

Um, no. You simply need a woman who actually values her marriage enough to prioritize even 60 minutes per week for intimacy.
No nanny, surrogate, or plastic surgeon required. Just a wife with a shred of loyalty to her marriage vows.

Bullshit.

There are plenty of men complaining about once a week. They complain that bedtime routine takes 1 hour, poor little bunny doesn't get attention every night.

Plenty of guys won't screw their wife if they gain 20 lbs.

The expections put on wives is to make 50 % of the money do 75% of the housework, do 75% of the child rearing, manage all family relations and to have sex like a porn star and to look like a model.

A small percentage are in sexless marriages. Many men describe their life as "sexless" even though they get sex weekly.

This.

Woman here. I think that's an unfair generalization.

Another here who disagrees. My husband doesn't expect that, because he's an adult, not a neanderthal. We have equal and fair expectations of each other. And we have sex a few times a week (even - gasp! - with 2 jobs, young kids, etc)

It's not a contest. Bully for you .. you have sex more than once a week, the PP has sex once a week. Nobody cares about your pat on your back. Do you want a cookie?

You need to get laid. Why so angry? The point is that not all men expect the bolded above, contrary to what that poster said. If yours does, sorry your husband is a d-bag.

My guess is you didn't read the whole thread and just realize we are talking about once a week.

You agree that once a week is not a sexless marriage? correct? you just misread it.

This is what I'm taking issue with (which someone before me did, also). The bolded. That's the extent of my interest in this thread.

The expections put on wives is to make 50 % of the money do 75% of the housework, do 75% of the child rearing, manage all family relations and to have sex like a porn star and to look like a model.

I do not think once a week is sexless marriage.

[Anonymous]

Most men do not expect their wives to make 50% of the money. They do probably expect you to do more of the housework and child rearing though.

I think the majority of men are quite happy making the most money, and probably prefer it this way.

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Anonymous wrote:You need a woman that does not want kids because she can't imagine her life changing.

Or... You need a woman that will have kids but have a nanny raise them so they don't get in the way. Maybe she can use a surrogate. Somebody that is willing to get plastic surgery so her wrinkles don't turn you off.

Um, no. You simply need a woman who actually values her marriage enough to prioritize even 60 minutes per week for intimacy.
No nanny, surrogate, or plastic surgeon required. Just a wife with a shred of loyalty to her marriage vows.

Bullshit.

There are plenty of men complaining about once a week. They complain that bedtime routine takes 1 hour, poor little bunny doesn't get attention every night.

Plenty of guys won't screw their wife if they gain 20 lbs.

The expections put on wives is to make 50 % of the money do 75% of the housework, do 75% of the child rearing, manage all family relations and to have sex like a porn star and to look like a model.

A small percentage are in sexless marriages. Many men describe their life as "sexless" even though they get sex weekly.

This.

Woman here. I think that's an unfair generalization.

Another here who disagrees. My husband doesn't expect that, because he's an adult, not a neanderthal. We have equal and fair expectations of each other. And we have sex a few times a week (even - gasp! - with 2 jobs, young kids, etc)

It's not a contest. Bully for you .. you have sex more than once a week, the PP has sex once a week. Nobody cares about your pat on your back. Do you want a cookie?

You need to get laid. Why so angry? The point is that not all men expect the bolded above, contrary to what that poster said. If yours does, sorry your husband is a d-bag.

My guess is you didn't read the whole thread and just realize we are talking about once a week.

You agree that once a week is not a sexless marriage? correct? you just misread it.

This is what I'm taking issue with (which someone before me did, also). The bolded. That's the extent of my interest in this thread.

The expections put on wives is to make 50 % of the money do 75% of the housework, do 75% of the child rearing, manage all family relations and to have sex like a porn star and to look like a model.

I do not think once a week is sexless marriage.

Yes there are people that share 50/50 but mostly working women do more childrearing and housework.

http://time.com/2895235/men-housework-women/
http://www.pewsocialtrends.org/2015/11/04/raising-kids-and-running-a-household-how-working-parents-share-the-load/

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Most men do not expect their wives to make 50% of the money. They do probably expect you to do more of the housework and child rearing though.

I think the majority of men are quite happy making the most money, and probably prefer it this way.

Weird. Really? My husband is thrilled that I make 55% of the money, and he's happy with once a week sex.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Most men do not expect their wives to make 50% of the money. They do probably expect you to do more of the housework and child rearing though.

I think the majority of men are quite happy making the most money, and probably prefer it this way.

This is unfortunately true for many marriages. My husband really doesn't care how much money I make or don't make. He views it as an added bonus. He seems to have some primal drive to provide for us. I sadly think he'd be more upset if our home didn't look nice and we stopped going on vacations and socializing with friends.

Sadly I don't think the desires of men have changed that much. They simply have less power now than they used to hold. I have a feeling there are many women with careers which our husbands could give or take.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Most men do not expect their wives to make 50% of the money. They do probably expect you to do more of the housework and child rearing though.

I think the majority of men are quite happy making the most money, and probably prefer it this way.

This is unfortunately true for many marriages. My husband really doesn't care how much money I make or don't make. He views it as an added bonus. He seems to have some primal drive to provide for us. I sadly think he'd be more upset if our home didn't look nice and we stopped going on vacations and socializing with friends.

Sadly I don't think the desires of men have changed that much. They simply have less power now than they used to hold. I have a feeling there are many women with careers which our husbands could give or take.

42% of household are dual income
39% of households women outearn their husbands
40% if households the woman is the sole breadwinner. (this includes single women)

http://www.nytimes.com/2013/05/30/business/economy/women-as-family-breadwinner-on-the-rise-study-says.html?_r=0

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Most men do not expect their wives to make 50% of the money. They do probably expect you to do more of the housework and child rearing though.

I think the majority of men are quite happy making the most money, and probably prefer it this way.

This is unfortunately true for many marriages. My husband really doesn't care how much money I make or don't make. He views it as an added bonus. He seems to have some primal drive to provide for us. I sadly think he'd be more upset if our home didn't look nice and we stopped going on vacations and socializing with friends.

Sadly I don't think the desires of men have changed that much. They simply have less power now than they used to hold. I have a feeling there are many women with careers which our husbands could give or take.

If you asked my husband if he cared more about the money I make or having more frequent sex, he'd take the money in a heartbeat. He's not the traditional male obviously.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Most men do not expect their wives to make 50% of the money. They do probably expect you to do more of the housework and child rearing though.

I think the majority of men are quite happy making the most money, and probably prefer it this way.

This is unfortunately true for many marriages. My husband really doesn't care how much money I make or don't make. He views it as an added bonus. He seems to have some primal drive to provide for us. I sadly think he'd be more upset if our home didn't look nice and we stopped going on vacations and socializing with friends.

Sadly I don't think the desires of men have changed that much. They simply have less power now than they used to hold. I have a feeling there are many women with careers which our husbands could give or take.

42% of household are dual income
39% of households women outearn their husbands
40% if households the woman is the sole breadwinner. (this includes single women)

http://www.nytimes.com/2013/05/30/business/economy/women-as-family-breadwinner-on-the-rise-study-says.html?_r=0

Retread what I wrote. I didn't say I make more or less money than my husband. I said he doesn't care.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Then go back and review what it means to be married. It is a sexual relationship. And if you can't prioritize even 1 hour per week, you probably should not be married.

Guess not.

I'm guessing your wife doesn't want to have sex with you because you are a big jerk. At least that is how you come across to me...

Maybe you should try being nice and understanding vs. judgey and demanding. Maybe then you both will get what you want.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Most men do not expect their wives to make 50% of the money. They do probably expect you to do more of the housework and child rearing though.

I think the majority of men are quite happy making the most money, and probably prefer it this way.

This is unfortunately true for many marriages. My husband really doesn't care how much money I make or don't make. He views it as an added bonus. He seems to have some primal drive to provide for us. I sadly think he'd be more upset if our home didn't look nice and we stopped going on vacations and socializing with friends.

Sadly I don't think the desires of men have changed that much. They simply have less power now than they used to hold. I have a feeling there are many women with careers which our husbands could give or take.

My husband is like this. I am a doctor at a major academic hospital, but he treats it like a little hobby I have in addition to making the house run and raising the kids and gets very annoyed if it inconveniences him. It can be frustrating.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Most men do not expect their wives to make 50% of the money. They do probably expect you to do more of the housework and child rearing though.

I think the majority of men are quite happy making the most money, and probably prefer it this way.

This is unfortunately true for many marriages. My husband really doesn't care how much money I make or don't make. He views it as an added bonus. He seems to have some primal drive to provide for us. I sadly think he'd be more upset if our home didn't look nice and we stopped going on vacations and socializing with friends.

Sadly I don't think the desires of men have changed that much. They simply have less power now than they used to hold. I have a feeling there are many women with careers which our husbands could give or take.

My husband is like this. I am a doctor at a major academic hospital, but he treats it like a little hobby I have in addition to making the house run and raising the kids and gets very annoyed if it inconveniences him. It can be frustrating.

Ok, you know what? If you're an MD, that's a big deal. You've got a point. You're God.

But if you're not an MD, no, the guy doesn't care about your career. He didn't go out with you because you had 2 advanced degrees; he went out with you because you were fun. He married you despite you being a hardass at work, not because of it.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Most men do not expect their wives to make 50% of the money. They do probably expect you to do more of the housework and child rearing though.

I think the majority of men are quite happy making the most money, and probably prefer it this way.

This is unfortunately true for many marriages. My husband really doesn't care how much money I make or don't make. He views it as an added bonus. He seems to have some primal drive to provide for us. I sadly think he'd be more upset if our home didn't look nice and we stopped going on vacations and socializing with friends.

Sadly I don't think the desires of men have changed that much. They simply have less power now than they used to hold. I have a feeling there are many women with careers which our husbands could give or take.

My husband is like this. I am a doctor at a major academic hospital, but he treats it like a little hobby I have in addition to making the house run and raising the kids and gets very annoyed if it inconveniences him. It can be frustrating.

Ok, you know what? If you're an MD, that's a big deal. You've got a point. You're God.

But if you're not an MD, no, the guy doesn't care about your career. He didn't go out with you because you had 2 advanced degrees; he went out with you because you were fun. He married you despite you being a hardass at work, not because of it.

Not true, the less a man makes the more his wife's salary matters. So even if she is not an MD, if the H makes $60K, a woman making $50K is a big deal in term of finances.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Most men do not expect their wives to make 50% of the money. They do probably expect you to do more of the housework and child rearing though.

I think the majority of men are quite happy making the most money, and probably prefer it this way.

This is unfortunately true for many marriages. My husband really doesn't care how much money I make or don't make. He views it as an added bonus. He seems to have some primal drive to provide for us. I sadly think he'd be more upset if our home didn't look nice and we stopped going on vacations and socializing with friends.

Sadly I don't think the desires of men have changed that much. They simply have less power now than they used to hold. I have a feeling there are many women with careers which our husbands could give or take.

My husband is like this. I am a doctor at a major academic hospital, but he treats it like a little hobby I have in addition to making the house run and raising the kids and gets very annoyed if it inconveniences him. It can be frustrating.

I am so mad for you!!! Thanks for being a doctor, though.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Most men do not expect their wives to make 50% of the money. They do probably expect you to do more of the housework and child rearing though.

I think the majority of men are quite happy making the most money, and probably prefer it this way.

This is unfortunately true for many marriages. My husband really doesn't care how much money I make or don't make. He views it as an added bonus. He seems to have some primal drive to provide for us. I sadly think he'd be more upset if our home didn't look nice and we stopped going on vacations and socializing with friends.

Sadly I don't think the desires of men have changed that much. They simply have less power now than they used to hold. I have a feeling there are many women with careers which our husbands could give or take.

My husband is like this. I am a doctor at a major academic hospital, but he treats it like a little hobby I have in addition to making the house run and raising the kids and gets very annoyed if it inconveniences him. It can be frustrating.

Ok, you know what? If you're an MD, that's a big deal. You've got a point. You're God.

But if you're not an MD, no, the guy doesn't care about your career. He didn't go out with you because you had 2 advanced degrees; he went out with you because you were fun. He married you despite you being a hardass at work, not because of it.

ok ... you must not be from DC.