Do men want a woman who worships him?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My 41 year old ex is now dating a 22 year old and very clearly things did not work with is because he needs to be worshiped. I'm an independent strong and self reliant woman who ain't got time for that!! I don't want a man who is so insecure he can't date his equal. BYE

Oh god I hate guys dating 20 years younger. That's so gross! He probably lied about his age to her too to make her think he's younger than he is.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My H needs to be "worshiped" and eventually had an affair. After lots (but not enough) therapy we have found out this need for an ego stoke is a sign of something much, much bigger and not healthy.

Ends up he as SERIOUS mental issues that he is trying to resolve ... it will take years of therapy.

If you meet a guy that wants to be worshiped.... RUN!

Agreed. My DH would like for, the moment I come home, to attend to his needs. Get him something to drink. Ask him if he's hungry. Fix him a plate. Nevermind I've been working all day too, and have cleaned up the house and trotted the kids around to all their activities and made dinner by the time he's home. He thinks it's the man's place to be taken care of.

Oh, and he needs to be complimented and profusely thanked any time he does anything. Seriously. He think he deserves a blow job for putting some towels away. But all the "woman" work I do can go unnoticed, since I'm supposed to be doing it anyway. He calls it his queen taking care of the king. It's sickening and I hate it.

That's really gross. I hope you one day find a way out. He's awful.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Watching RHOBH and Yolanda Foster would absolutely worship David Foster. Granted, he does have a huge ego and God like complex. But I commented on that to my boyfriend and he joked "as she should." Well, I feel like I "worship" my boyfriend. I put his needs before anyones, including mine a lot of the time. I want to pamper/treat/spoil him. I'm ready to completely devote my life to him. If he wanted to move, I'd move with him. I'd make any life choices based on what he wants. Is this what a man wants? Do you think he appreciates it or is scared of it?

I've seen this happen many times, and eventually the guy loses all respect for the woman because she is basically a doormat, they break up,and the guy ends up marrying the very next woman he dates, who usually turns out to be opinionated and independent.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My 41 year old ex is now dating a 22 year old and very clearly things did not work with is because he needs to be worshiped. I'm an independent strong and self reliant woman who ain't got time for that!! I don't want a man who is so insecure he can't date his equal. BYE

Good thing he's coping. She's wear him out. He never thought it would end like this. But he'd always hoped.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Watching RHOBH and Yolanda Foster would absolutely worship David Foster. Granted, he does have a huge ego and God like complex. But I commented on that to my boyfriend and he joked "as she should." Well, I feel like I "worship" my boyfriend. I put his needs before anyones, including mine a lot of the time. I want to pamper/treat/spoil him. I'm ready to completely devote my life to him. If he wanted to move, I'd move with him. I'd make any life choices based on what he wants. Is this what a man wants? Do you think he appreciates it or is scared of it?

I've seen this happen many times, and eventually the guy loses all respect for the woman because she is basically a doormat, they break up,and the guy ends up marrying the very next woman he dates, who usually turns out to be opinionated and independent.

OP, read this latest post again and again. I am sure I am older than you and this is the history of my life. I married young to a man who adored me. Slowly, as life's stresses happened, he acted like a jerk and I did more and more for him. He eventually lost respect for me and we divorced. If the story ended there, it would be fine. But what happened is I internalized that feeling of rejection and I end up repeating this cycle. One of the crappiest feelings on earth is when you twist yourself into a pretzel for someone and they still reject you. Don't do this to yourself. It comes from a place of low self-esteem and will continue to erode what self-esteem you have. And, by the way, I do think this is true for men too. I've seen men twist themselves for a demanding, rejecting woman and it costs them something. Relationships should be about two people who feel blessed to have each other in their lives and do things for each other. Remember that that's the goal. You can't manipulate someone into loving you and the break-up just hurts more.

[Anonymous]

Don't make this too complicated! If your BMI is <25, if you don't nag/complain all the time, if you give a bi-weekly BJ, if you make enough $s to pay for your own shopping sprees -- then you just need to love him, not worship him!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My H needs to be "worshiped" and eventually had an affair. After lots (but not enough) therapy we have found out this need for an ego stoke is a sign of something much, much bigger and not healthy.

Ends up he as SERIOUS mental issues that he is trying to resolve ... it will take years of therapy.

If you meet a guy that wants to be worshiped.... RUN!

Agreed. My DH would like for, the moment I come home, to attend to his needs. Get him something to drink. Ask him if he's hungry. Fix him a plate. Nevermind I've been working all day too, and have cleaned up the house and trotted the kids around to all their activities and made dinner by the time he's home. He thinks it's the man's place to be taken care of.

Oh, and he needs to be complimented and profusely thanked any time he does anything. Seriously. He think he deserves a blow job for putting some towels away. But all the "woman" work I do can go unnoticed, since I'm supposed to be doing it anyway. He calls it his queen taking care of the king. It's sickening and I hate it.

That's really gross. I hope you one day find a way out. He's awful.[/quote

He sounds worthless, but so many women with low self esteem...Hopefully no bj's either, ick.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It was eye opening to me to learn my boyfriend-now-husband wanted me to be strong and have opinions. My prior boyfriend wanted the worship thing, wanted to make all decisions, etc.

My husband really pushed me to do it myself. He actually held himself back from getting serious with me until he saw me doing that. I wound up moving across the country from him, and a year later he followed, but he said that was when he knew he wanted to marry me.

Because subconsciously, men are looking for a good mate to properly raise their young. They need a woman who is strong and not a pushover. Strong women raise successful children. Let the flaming begin, DCUMers! This woman can take it!