This Girl Scout cookie typifies my horrible marriage.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Does your dh have a disorder like adhd or dyslexia?

I don't know. That is a good question. Anything is possible I suppose. B/c, honestly, when things like this happen to us in our lives, and they do seem to happen with more regularity than I would have thought possible, I am often left wondering, "HOW could this HAPPEN?" I just don't get it.

And as I said, he is competent at work, so??? (?) I just don't know. . .

Probably unhappy at home. People tend to put in less effort and work into something they do not necessarily care about. Do you think you could convince him to see a therapist with you?

Yes, he devalues anything on the home front, anything that is not work. He puts minimal effort in therefore, and now things like this happen. And then he blows up at me and thinks I am badgering him over pesky little details which are below him.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:This sounds like what a friend of mine would do!

Do the rounds and make sales and be disappointed with the total. So he'd order a ton more to make DD look good and if he couldn't sell or give away the additional - LEFTOVERS!

I wish, but as I said, I am the one who went to the cookie mom's house to pick up the order and she and I checked and checked and rechecked and rechecked and then I signed off on the sheet. So I know there were no extras when I picked them up.

You wish until you figure out he just spent 800 dollars on girlscout cookies.

Not to make light. But it is GS cookies and the neighbors understand (I hope). I cannot tell you how many times my orders have been screwed up. It's all good. I hope that people still understand it is for a good cause and an exercise in helping youth become productive and organized. And parents too, for that matter.

It'll work out.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Does your dh have a disorder like adhd or dyslexia?

I don't know. That is a good question. Anything is possible I suppose. B/c, honestly, when things like this happen to us in our lives, and they do seem to happen with more regularity than I would have thought possible, I am often left wondering, "HOW could this HAPPEN?" I just don't get it.

And as I said, he is competent at work, so??? (?) I just don't know. . .

Probably unhappy at home. People tend to put in less effort and work into something they do not necessarily care about. Do you think you could convince him to see a therapist with you?

Yes, he devalues anything on the home front, anything that is not work. He puts minimal effort in therefore, and now things like this happen. And then he blows up at me and thinks I am badgering him over pesky little details which are below him.

Honest question...why do you want to stay married? It can't be a fun environment for you daughter?

[Anonymous]

Doesn't your daughter remember who she sold cookies to in the neighborhood? That is something that my kids would remember.

I would probably write a check for the extra boxes and then drive your daughter around to try and remember who bought what. It seems weird that they lost track of so many orders...surely they know what streets they hit. Did your daughter participate in any grocery store sidewalk sales?

Whatever you do, never, EVER let your dh sell Boy Scout popcorn - lose 20 orders of that stuff and you will be out hundreds of dollars. No joke.

[Anonymous]

Well, you know what they say....if you want something done right....

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It would be easier to just buy a hundred bucks worth of cookies and then sell them to the neighbors. Deliver at time of sale. Any leftovers you keep. Easy.

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Anonymous wrote:Don't the buyers not pay until the cookies are delivered?

No, we collected the $$ upfront. That is what our troop told us to do. I know other troops seem to do it differently.

I thought, ahead of time, "Oh, that'll make it so much easier." Ugh.

huh? Where are you posting from that this is what your cookie mom told you? Are you sure? Parents should've signed of on paperwork that outlines all the info...are you sure you understood it right?

Signed,
troop cookie mom

I'm posting from Fairfax County. We also had to turn in the cookie $$ when we arrived to get our cookies from our cookie mom.

no! That's not how it works. No money is EVER collected first in GSCNC. You should've seen that when you signed the parental permission form.

And now you know why

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Don't the buyers not pay until the cookies are delivered?

No, we collected the $$ upfront. That is what our troop told us to do. I know other troops seem to do it differently.

I thought, ahead of time, "Oh, that'll make it so much easier." Ugh.

huh? Where are you posting from that this is what your cookie mom told you? Are you sure? Parents should've signed of on paperwork that outlines all the info...are you sure you understood it right?

Signed,
troop cookie mom

I'm posting from Fairfax County. We also had to turn in the cookie $$ when we arrived to get our cookies from our cookie mom.

no! That's not how it works. No money is EVER collected first in GSCNC. You should've seen that when you signed the parental permission form.

And now you know why

[Anonymous]

We used to only sell to the folks up and down our street. My kids remembered who bought what. Heck, I remembered who bought what.

Also, didn't your daughter go with a friend? I thought that was a rule too that they go with a buddy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We used to only sell to the folks up and down our street. My kids remembered who bought what. Heck, I remembered who bought what.

Also, didn't your daughter go with a friend? I thought that was a rule too that they go with a buddy.

She went with my husband.

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Anonymous wrote:Trust me, no one is going to judge you for this, Holy overreaction. Your follow up posts only go to prove that he is not the only one with issues.

Weeeelllllll... Not so sure about that. I ordered GS cookies from a mom at my kids' school. I only like two flavors; TWO. I ordered three boxes and ended up with the three flavors that I DETEST. I said, "mom. I think I received the wrong cookies. I can leave the boxes with [daughter] and she can bring the ones I ordered." Mom, "I'm sorry but I don't have anymore cookies left!"

Me:

I was so annoyed that I never ordered from her again. HTF do you mess up a GS cookie order?? Right, OP?

This is pretty outrageous. That mom needs to go drive around and find some girl scouts selling cookies to make it right.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Trust me, no one is going to judge you for this, Holy overreaction. Your follow up posts only go to prove that he is not the only one with issues.

Weeeelllllll... Not so sure about that. I ordered GS cookies from a mom at my kids' school. I only like two flavors; TWO. I ordered three boxes and ended up with the three flavors that I DETEST. I said, "mom. I think I received the wrong cookies. I can leave the boxes with [daughter] and she can bring the ones I ordered." Mom, "I'm sorry but I don't have anymore cookies left!"

Me:

I was so annoyed that I never ordered from her again. HTF do you mess up a GS cookie order?? Right, OP?

This is pretty outrageous. That mom needs to go drive around and find some girl scouts selling cookies to make it right.

Lighten up, Myron.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Trust me, no one is going to judge you for this, Holy overreaction. Your follow up posts only go to prove that he is not the only one with issues.

Weeeelllllll... Not so sure about that. I ordered GS cookies from a mom at my kids' school. I only like two flavors; TWO. I ordered three boxes and ended up with the three flavors that I DETEST. I said, "mom. I think I received the wrong cookies. I can leave the boxes with [daughter] and she can bring the ones I ordered." Mom, "I'm sorry but I don't have anymore cookies left!"

Me:

I was so annoyed that I never ordered from her again. HTF do you mess up a GS cookie order?? Right, OP?

This is pretty outrageous. That mom needs to go drive around and find some girl scouts selling cookies to make it right.

Can't she just take them back to the cookie mom and exchange them for the correct boxes?

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Anonymous wrote:Dude, its extra cookies not the end of the world. Put an email out to the troop that you have extras. People will buy them.

What about our neighbors who have paid for cookies and then got nothing delivered?

You NEVER collect money up front for GS cookies. If you do you're not following the procedures. If no money is collected up front, there's no need to stress. There may be some disappointed customers but they're not out any money. If you are worried about paying for the cookies, post a FB message and see if you have any takers. Or your daughter can go door to door with cookies in hand to sell the extras.

I'm a GS Troop Leader and that is 100% incorrect. The Council takes the money out of the troop account BEFORE cookies are delivered. So unless your troop has the extra cash to float all the orders, you MUST collect the money upfront. Some familiies agree to float the cash for the people ordering -- I personally do that for my co-workers, because it is easier to collect the money when I deliver to them. But I do not expect every family to personally float the cookies orders on their own bank account, so we instruct people to collect money up front. That is the recommended GS procedure.

OP, I can't believe people are blaming you. Your husband really messed up. I would go over the sheet with my daughter and see if there's any way to figure out who did not get their cookies delivered -- maybe she forgot to do a whole section of the development? (Based on what's left over, you might be able to piece it together.) And then I would hold onto the extras for a bit to see if anyone finds you to ask about their cookies.

I'm in a similar situation with my husband stealing cookies out of other people's orders to eat. I'm going to be really pissed if we end up short when I have to deliver them, but I think I ordered enough extra to account for that.

[Anonymous]

OP, I can completely relate to what you are going through. I know this is just one example, but I think what makes this so infuriating for you is that you are focused on how it reflects on you. It really doesn't and if you can let that go and let your dh deal with the situation however he wants you will have a huge weight taken of your shoulders. If any of your neighbors ask you for whatever box they didn't receive, direct them to dh and let him handle it. Let it be 100% on him.