"Mean Girls"

[Anonymous]

PP - why so hostile? Why so verbose? In advanced degrees, better schools will tell you not to be so verbose.

But I digress, it must be your kid that sets you off. I am sorry for you, I am sorry for your kid.

I think PP was asking if you want YOUR kid's name on the internet. Read much?

I'm pretty sure I know who it is, having come across this before. And in our instance, it was NOT a used gift. Why would anyone give a used gift (to better their kid's position)? What is wrong with you?

But I know you are not in our current school, as you could not afford it. This should turn enough people against me. BUT NOT THE AGAINST THE ARGUMENT OF INNAPPROPRIATE BRIBES. Stop watching the Sopranos, for crying out loud.

Please, make more determinations, you have quite an imagination! And please, do get professional help.

[Anonymous]

Inappropriate. Spelling corrected, lest I be slayed by stoning at dawn.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Do you ever wonder how many of us who post actually have children?

Actually I have nightmares about some of these people having children in their care....

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:PP - why so hostile? Why so verbose? In advanced degrees, better schools will tell you not to be so verbose.

But I digress, it must be your kid that sets you off. I am sorry for you, I am sorry for your kid.

I think PP was asking if you want YOUR kid's name on the internet. Read much?

I'm pretty sure I know who it is, having come across this before. And in our instance, it was NOT a used gift. Why would anyone give a used gift (to better their kid's position)? What is wrong with you?

But I know you are not in our current school, as you could not afford it. This should turn enough people against me. BUT NOT THE AGAINST THE ARGUMENT OF INNAPPROPRIATE BRIBES. Stop watching the Sopranos, for crying out loud.

Please, make more determinations, you have quite an imagination! And please, do get professional help.

Now a cheerleader arrives to avoid the questions (being unable to give a direct answer), still attacking anyone who actually analyzes the situation with any depth.

First of all, don't lecture about advanced degrees, it's clearly a subject about which you know nothing. A person wouldn't have to explain so much if you were actually capable of getting from point A to point B without a road map, a compass, and a GPS.

Now, I'll type this out carefully because you're none too bright: there IS no argument about inappropriate bribes. By definition, they are inappropriate and everyone is in agreement. What's open to debate is what is actually going on at OP's school and whether it constitutes bribery or is a product of paranoid delusions. Because if (as the OP implied) she had witnessed a $500 bribe to mistreat her own child and yet she still didn't report it to the administration? She's irresponsible and negligent as a parent. Reporting a $500 payoff, particularly one that involved the mistreatment of other children would be the obvious, logical response to bribery. The fact that it was not her response indicates that her story is more fabrication than reality. Even the OP can't be so dumb as to have actually witnessed a $500 bribe to mistreat her own child and failed to report it. The continuing rub is that her story simply doesn't hold up to scrutiny. The underlying question is, is she lying for attention? Because she's a drama queen? Or is she unbalanced (paranoid)? Perhaps both?

In re: Sopranos, thank you for the reference. I haven't developed a taste for low-brow televised drama personally, but it goes a long way to explain your affinities and style.

[Anonymous]

Who said she didn't report it?

[Anonymous]

It's pretty apparent just by reading her posts:

From post #1 "How did you keep things on equal footing for your kid?"

From post #2 "Even the good teachers seem too nice to not appease - unfortunately! Should I just request a different class? What if the option is not possible?"

From post #3 "I can see how this is unbelievable; especially since most (w/whom it is happening) would never find out it is happening in their own classroom..."

From post #4 "What if it *does* affect your child - as in, your child is picked on as a "detriment" and "How do you keep things on equal terms for your child?"

Never mind the garbled syntax, had the incident been reported to the administration, there would be no worry about keeping things on an equal footing nor any question about the ability to switch classes should that measure be necessary. The Head would have been able to assuage those concerns immediately.

[Anonymous]

Depends on the Head.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:PP - why so hostile? Why so verbose? In advanced degrees, better schools will tell you not to be so verbose.

But I digress, it must be your kid that sets you off. I am sorry for you, I am sorry for your kid.

I think PP was asking if you want YOUR kid's name on the internet. Read much?

I'm pretty sure I know who it is, having come across this before. And in our instance, it was NOT a used gift. Why would anyone give a used gift (to better their kid's position)? What is wrong with you?

But I know you are not in our current school, as you could not afford it. This should turn enough people against me. BUT NOT THE AGAINST THE ARGUMENT OF INNAPPROPRIATE BRIBES. Stop watching the Sopranos, for crying out loud.

Please, make more determinations, you have quite an imagination! And please, do get professional help.

Now a cheerleader arrives to avoid the questions (being unable to give a direct answer), still attacking anyone who actually analyzes the situation with any depth.

First of all, don't lecture about advanced degrees, it's clearly a subject about which you know nothing. A person wouldn't have to explain so much if you were actually capable of getting from point A to point B without a road map, a compass, and a GPS.

Now, I'll type this out carefully because you're none too bright: there IS no argument about inappropriate bribes. By definition, they are inappropriate and everyone is in agreement. What's open to debate is what is actually going on at OP's school and whether it constitutes bribery or is a product of paranoid delusions. Because if (as the OP implied) she had witnessed a $500 bribe to mistreat her own child and yet she still didn't report it to the administration? She's irresponsible and negligent as a parent. Reporting a $500 payoff, particularly one that involved the mistreatment of other children would be the obvious, logical response to bribery. The fact that it was not her response indicates that her story is more fabrication than reality. Even the OP can't be so dumb as to have actually witnessed a $500 bribe to mistreat her own child and failed to report it. The continuing rub is that her story simply doesn't hold up to scrutiny. The underlying question is, is she lying for attention? Because she's a drama queen? Or is she unbalanced (paranoid)? Perhaps both?

In re: Sopranos, thank you for the reference. I haven't developed a taste for low-brow televised drama personally, but it goes a long way to explain your affinities and style.

Talk about drama queens. You certainly have spent a lot of time reading a thread that annoys you. Certainly, you MUST have better things to do with you time than to spread your nastiness around. Expressing an opinion is one thing, but you are over the top.


OP - there is nothing you can do about this situation. While I agree that the gift giving is inappropriate, this is between the teacher, the parent and the school administrators. I suggest that you let it go and move on.

[Anonymous]

23:04 Strikes me as a pedophile. S/he is trying to corner the poster into giving inofrmation about him/herself and his/her kid. Also, 23:04 is *obsessed* with this thread; perhaps this entire board; itemizing; personal attacks; and likely other things. *Unstable alert!*

[Anonymous]

Just wow. Ad hominens are the only line of attack for those whose logic has failed.

Nobody asked about the OP's child because (pity aside) nobody cares about her.

Your reading comprehension skills need work: 22:18 asked a question. 23:04 provided proof.

Why are you here again? Do you provide value ANYWHERE?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:23:04 Strikes me as a pedophile. S/he is trying to corner the poster into giving inofrmation about him/herself and his/her kid. Also, 23:04 is *obsessed* with this thread; perhaps this entire board; itemizing; personal attacks; and likely other things. *Unstable alert!*

Don't be absurd. The only thing anyone wants of the OP is for her to quit prevaricating. She's coming across as the kind of drama queen (and btw, so are you) who likes to wildly exaggerate (or else completely make shit up) in order to throw herself a pity party so she can be the center of attention.

Somebody called her on it and is nailing her to the wall. And you along with her.

[Anonymous]

The only ones being nailed to the wall are the ones who resort to such tactics "on behalf of" their kids (really, themselves).

But really, do not answer some of the questions posed here.

[Anonymous]

This is a bizarre post. I've read four pages and simply don't understand how this gift to the teacher, as inappropriate as it may be, is a detriment to OP's child.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:6:44 - isn't it you whom is paranoid?

Whom is an object. Is, the verb, needs a subject, which would be who.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here - an almost $500. gift is not "something the fellow students should not be concerned about" nor is it "just a little gift from the kid who takes extra work". It is a bribe, for heaven's sake! I think I'm being pretty clear here. I suspect the naysayers might be the problem parents? I really appreciate hearing from people at my end instead of more "mean girls".

This is an ethical dilemma. Gift giving should be addressed by the school and/or board members. Furthermore, if the teacher accepted the gift, s/he clearly has no boundaries. A $100 gift certificate from the CLASS is one thing; a $500 gift from ONE person is completely unacceptable.

Parents/posters who don't find this offensive are in La La Land.