Need to break up with him. Before or after holidays?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Since his willingness to have sex is based on the assumption you'll be together, continuing to have sex while knowing you'll break up with him is in fact non-consensual. And therefore rape. Break up now.

Modern uber liberal logic at its finest.

It's only a matter of time before we see something like this in court and the jury declares it rape.

Oh, and if you let him take you to dinner it would be theft.

If you take months or years of someone's life, it's third degree murder.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Since his willingness to have sex is based on the assumption you'll be together, continuing to have sex while knowing you'll break up with him is in fact non-consensual. And therefore rape. Break up now.

Modern uber liberal logic at its finest.

It's only a matter of time before we see something like this in court and the jury declares it rape.

I'm an über liberal. It's already "black letter" law that consent due to "fraud" i.e. I'll marry you, is still valid consent. And I have no problem with that.

So if I crawl into bed with you late at night, have sex with you, and the whole time you thought I was your DW/DH, then that's ok with you? Heck, you consented, right?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:A few years ago, a friend of mine couldn't decide whether to break up with his gf before or after Christmas (she'd given him a early gift--very nice sunglasses--and he didn't want to get her anything but didn't want to return the glasses either. Ugh). He waited until after Christmas then well into January, then she dropped the bomb of "oops, I'm pregnant". They got married and now have a two year old. He still thinks she got pregnant on purpose because she knew he wanted to end things.

If you want out, get out.

Yikes! (Do you think they'll stick it out?)

No idea. He's a good ole southern boy, and wants to give his son a good life and do the "right thing", so I think they'll stick it for a while at least. We don't talk about his marriage.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:He never met your kids? You didn't have much of a relationship. May as well break it off now.

ITA. He may be having the same thoughts!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:A few years ago, a friend of mine couldn't decide whether to break up with his gf before or after Christmas (she'd given him a early gift--very nice sunglasses--and he didn't want to get her anything but didn't want to return the glasses either. Ugh). He waited until after Christmas then well into January, then she dropped the bomb of "oops, I'm pregnant". They got married and now have a two year old. He still thinks she got pregnant on purpose because she knew he wanted to end things.

If you want out, get out.

He should have walked out on her.

He wouldn't have done that to his kid. They at least pretend to be happy now, so there's that.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Since his willingness to have sex is based on the assumption you'll be together, continuing to have sex while knowing you'll break up with him is in fact non-consensual. And therefore rape. Break up now.

Modern uber liberal logic at its finest.

It's only a matter of time before we see something like this in court and the jury declares it rape.

I'm an über liberal. It's already "black letter" law that consent due to "fraud" i.e. I'll marry you, is still valid consent. And I have no problem with that.

So if I crawl into bed with you late at night, have sex with you, and the whole time you thought I was your DW/DH, then that's ok with you? Heck, you consented, right?

Um, I don't make the laws. That's not even slightly the same as the moronic example above. It's a stupid conversation based on a dumb comment above, don't get so bent out of shape.

[Anonymous]

Don't wait. Post- holiday season breakups are more common and more painful.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Don't wait. Post- holiday season breakups are more common and more painful.

Isn't the season for seeing divorce lawyers right after the holidays and then after Valentine's Day? My neighbor just filed and he did it now so they wouldn't have to go to each family's house and be miserable.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:A few years ago, a friend of mine couldn't decide whether to break up with his gf before or after Christmas (she'd given him a early gift--very nice sunglasses--and he didn't want to get her anything but didn't want to return the glasses either. Ugh). He waited until after Christmas then well into January, then she dropped the bomb of "oops, I'm pregnant". They got married and now have a two year old. He still thinks she got pregnant on purpose because she knew he wanted to end things.

If you want out, get out.

I don't feel bad for your friend. He should have ended it from the first moment he was ready to break it off.

No wonder why this forum is filled with so many "unhappy married people" questions.

[Anonymous]

Definitely do it now. If you're ready to be out, he deserves to know that and move on.

[Anonymous]

A rare DCUM consensus (apart from the whole odd rape bit); my friend was dumped last January and it was extra painful and confusing that they had spent the holidays having a special time, seeing each others families, etc.