Need to break up with him. Before or after holidays?

[Anonymous]

Is he well off? After the holidays. You've put in work...

[Anonymous]

Now

[Anonymous]

Now. He's grown. It won't hurt as much as when you were in your 20s.

[Anonymous]

Also, who knows, the holidays are very social, it's a good opportunity to meet new people. Let him have that opportunity to find someone new. You are not the only fish.

[Anonymous]

Absolutely now.

He'll have family to support him during holidays.
Both of you will be able to meet people during the holiday party scene. You won't have to go through the meet families/or tell families about each other then follow up with, "oh we broke up." - b/c that sucks.
You won't have to buy each other gifts.

I could keep going, but if you're really done... Just do it now!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have been dating someone for a year and a half - we have been longtime friends so he is someone I really care about, but our interests and lifestyles are so different that I know we are not good for the long term. For various reasons we have only been getting together every two weeks, so our lives are not terribly integrated - he has never even met my kids (we are both divorced).

I feel like a shit for breaking up with him, especially since it seems depressing and mean to do it so close to the holidays. I have been depressed for months at the prospect of doing this.

How would you do it?

I fire people for a living, so let me promise you this advice is crucial. You invite him for coffee. You rip the band aid. "I don't think we should see each other anymore. I really treasure the time we spent together. But we need to move on." Do not sit around and answer questions. Find a reason why you have to go, then go.

Do it soon. Do it waaaay before he buys you holiday gifts. He will be fine.

[Anonymous]

Holidays have nothing to do with it. If you want to break up with him, then break up with him. There never is a "right" time to break things off.

[Anonymous]

Do it now. Lots of family and friends to distract you around the holidays and then you can have a fresh start for the new year.

[Anonymous]

Don't waste another day not only miserable, but stringing him along.

Do it now. Because the closer we get to Thanksgiving and Christmas, the worse you will feel inside.

Doing it today is best.

GL.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Is he well off? After the holidays. You've put in work...

What terrible advice.

No, do it now.

[Anonymous]

Wait for the presents.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Absolutely now.

He'll have family to support him during holidays.
Both of you will be able to meet people during the holiday party scene. You won't have to go through the meet families/or tell families about each other then follow up with, "oh we broke up." - b/c that sucks.
You won't have to buy each other gifts.

I could keep going, but if you're really done... Just do it now!

+1000. If you'd posted this on say, the 20th of December, my answer might have been different, but as it stands, the holidays are over a month away, you haven't said he's going through a particularly hard time or is emotionally unstable, and if you're only seeing each other once every 2 weeks, you're not so involved that you'll be ripping the love of his life from him.

[Anonymous]

He never met your kids? You didn't have much of a relationship. May as well break it off now.

[Anonymous]

Now, it will be more painful for both people if this is hiding under the surface. If you don't feel it, break it off. It's the fair thing to do for both parties involved.

[Anonymous]

Why in the world would you wait until after the holidays? How deceitful! Do it now. He deserves better.