Women: Do you care if your SO has a "cool" job?

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Anonymous wrote:Yes. My husband "catches predators" and I am attracted to him because he gave up a job in finance to make a difference in the world.

Like Cecil the lion?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Are you embarrassed that you cannot spell words correctly?

Sadly, proper spelling and grammar are not requirements for sales or MBA degrees.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I never figured out why the FBI uses that transfer/promotion model. Inefficient and costly to the taxpayer. I spent 30 years as a Federal Agent in another 3 letter agency and had to move once...

Helps prevent corruption within the FBI. Keeps power at the central level, rather than allowing local people to become too strong.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:My DH is an accountant, which I suppose may be boring to some, but I am also one. I don't know if a lot of people realize how many hours accountants work, but it definitely makes child care duties a pain. It's after 9, and he's still at the office.

Accountants are priceless and essential. I hate when people are like zzzzz boring accountants....

it depends what kind of accountants/accountancy.

Yup, I traded in public accounting for a non-profit easy predictable schedule accounting job. The pay isn't as good, but it's quite reasonable for the hours, flexibility and amount of work I actually do!

BTW, why would anyone care whether their SO has a "cool" job? Why wouldn't the question be whether you care if YOU have a "cool" job?

[Anonymous]

MY DH has a "cool" job with some really great perks, like private school education for our kids paid for by his employer, free housing, international travel, etc., but the expat life can be wearing. I've had no real career, have to move every three to five years and have lived far and away from family and friends. So, there have been trade offs for all this "cool," but I don't think I'd change it for all the wonderful experiences I have had and the people I've met.

[Anonymous]

DH has a "cool" job but it's ruined our oldest's middle and high school years, doesn't pay half of what he'd make elsewhere, means we spend more time apart than together, and has prevented me from having a career. So I don't recommend seeking out a cool job spouse.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My husband has a cool job and I make twice what he does. When we are at parties, everybody talks about his job. My job is met with crickets. I got to go to the white house this year which was totes cool to meet the president for a work event. But his job is still WAY cooler.

Ok, can you give us a hint?

[Anonymous]

11:19 - "maried" was a typo I didn't catch. Typing too fast. Congrats, though, on the catch - were your feelings hurt because your job is embarrassing so you had to try to put me in my place?

I should note that I'm 43. The "jobs I probably wouldn't date" list is a lot different at 43 than at 23. At 23, a lot of people are doing menial jobs, and crossing economic lines to date is a lot more common. By the time you're in your 40's, people pretty much date and marry other people in the same socioeconomic class because those are generally the people with whom you have things in common. You won't meet many 40-something doctors dating Starbucks baristas, and you rarely see 40-something lawyers hooking up with the night janitor.

[Anonymous]

No. My DH is a fed, but the real reason to marry him was and still is that I LOVE him.

If you marry someone for his job and/or social status, he knows and he'll replace you for someone else when he gets sick/bored of you.

If you marry for love, knowing full well that you have a job/status/self-esteem base of your own, you have a better chance of a lifelong commitment on both sides.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:MY DH has a "cool" job with some really great perks, like private school education for our kids paid for by his employer, free housing, international travel, etc., but the expat life can be wearing. I've had no real career, have to move every three to five years and have lived far and away from family and friends. So, there have been trade offs for all this "cool," but I don't think I'd change it for all the wonderful experiences I have had and the people I've met.

Similar experience here. DH's actual job isn't cool by any stretch, but it sounds cool to others. The experiences we've had are great, but there are definitely trade offs.

[Anonymous]

DH is an accountant and I'm thrilled. When we met he said he wanted to have a skydiving business.
Like one PP, I wish he also had handyman skills, but hey- I'll take stable and gainfully employed... and not jumping out of airplanes.

[Anonymous]

my long term boyfriend had a cool job which translated into never having steady income or reliable potential to grow. After many years of his dream chasing I bailed. Very happily married to a man with "boring" job-Fed lawyer. Its awesome.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I never figured out why the FBI uses that transfer/promotion model. Inefficient and costly to the taxpayer. I spent 30 years as a Federal Agent in another 3 letter agency and had to move once...

Helps prevent corruption within the FBI. Keeps power at the central level, rather than allowing local people to become too strong.

Could be but there are as many corrupt FBI agents as there are DEA, ICE, ATF, etc.