S/O How old for Instagram?

[Anonymous]

Of course it is not a law but it is a rule for that site. The site is trying to comply with a law (COPPA). If you don't want to abide by the rules if a site, do not use the site. So simple but you all have justifications to allowing your child to lie.

So when they go to a friend's house and the parents have rules if the house, they don't have to abide if they don't want by your logic.

And when they go to school, they don't have to follow rules because they are not laws.

And, they don't have to abide by your family's rules if yet don't want to. Because mom taught them that rules are not necessary to comply with if they don't want to.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:The reasons all of you give to justify this is unbelievable. I am guessing you are the same type of cool parents that turned a blind eye at the Wootton party that killed 2 kids. Everyone does it, so you might as well be aware, right?

If they are on IG at 10yrs old what will they be doing at 13? Not IG. They will be the kids acting cool and bragging how "lame" IG is and move onto more adult websites and apps. It is a steady progression.

Or maybe those kids who were given just a little bit of freedom and responsibility at a younger age will learn how to make judgment calls and good choices as opposed to your children who have been hovered over and cannot think for themselves.

Wrong. i don't hover over my child. I just tell her flat out, no to all social media until she is 13 because that is the rules. Not just the rules of IG, snapchat, Facebook, etc.... But my rules. If some parents allow their kids to lie, that is not my problem. I am raising my kids to be honest, fair and have integrity. but go ahead and rationalize how being dishonest is showing responsibility about making good choices. How ironic

Good luck with that.

Let me tell you my story. I had the same attitude. I didn't even want my DS to have a smart phone back when he was in 6th and 7th grade. By the time I let him have the smart phone and IG at age 13, he was very socially awkward online compared to other kids his age. And the PP who said the thing about having lots of followers has a point. In hindsight, I would have let him have the phone and IG sooner because it just makes it easier or kids to connect socially. That is the way they do it now.

You can monitor the IG if you are signed on with her account. I think it is better for them to be on the learning curve before they reach 13 so that they can navigate the online social world with grace.

Good lord lady, you honestly think your son is socially awkward because he didn't have an IG account until age 13? That is so pathetic, it really is.

I am the PP and my daughter is 14 and she is socially fine. She got a phone at 12 and an IG account a month after she turned 13. She is still not allowed to have a snapchat account. She still knows plenty of people that don't have IG or Snapchat accounts and once her thirst for social media subsided she realized it isn't all that great anyway. There are plenty of teens in this world that don't live and die by what Kylie Kardashian is posting on IG for the day. My daughter plays sports year round and is in plenty of activities to keep her happy and socializing face to face. Maybe your son needs a little time away from the phone to gain some more social skills to help with his awkwardness.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The reasons all of you give to justify this is unbelievable. I am guessing you are the same type of cool parents that turned a blind eye at the Wootton party that killed 2 kids. Everyone does it, so you might as well be aware, right?

If they are on IG at 10yrs old what will they be doing at 13? Not IG. They will be the kids acting cool and bragging how "lame" IG is and move onto more adult websites and apps. It is a steady progression.

Or maybe those kids who were given just a little bit of freedom and responsibility at a younger age will learn how to make judgment calls and good choices as opposed to your children who have been hovered over and cannot think for themselves.

Wrong. i don't hover over my child. I just tell her flat out, no to all social media until she is 13 because that is the rules. Not just the rules of IG, snapchat, Facebook, etc.... But my rules. If some parents allow their kids to lie, that is not my problem. I am raising my kids to be honest, fair and have integrity. but go ahead and rationalize how being dishonest is showing responsibility about making good choices. How ironic

Good luck with that.

Let me tell you my story. I had the same attitude. I didn't even want my DS to have a smart phone back when he was in 6th and 7th grade. By the time I let him have the smart phone and IG at age 13, he was very socially awkward online compared to other kids his age. And the PP who said the thing about having lots of followers has a point. In hindsight, I would have let him have the phone and IG sooner because it just makes it easier or kids to connect socially. That is the way they do it now.

You can monitor the IG if you are signed on with her account. I think it is better for them to be on the learning curve before they reach 13 so that they can navigate the online social world with grace.

Good lord lady, you honestly think your son is socially awkward because he didn't have an IG account until age 13? That is so pathetic, it really is.

I am the PP and my daughter is 14 and she is socially fine. She got a phone at 12 and an IG account a month after she turned 13. She is still not allowed to have a snapchat account. She still knows plenty of people that don't have IG or Snapchat accounts and once her thirst for social media subsided she realized it isn't all that great anyway. There are plenty of teens in this world that don't live and die by what Kylie Kardashian is posting on IG for the day. My daughter plays sports year round and is in plenty of activities to keep her happy and socializing face to face. Maybe your son needs a little time away from the phone to gain some more social skills to help with his awkwardness.

Well each child is different. For my DS there was definitely a learning curve because I made the mistake of not letting him have access at a younger age. Good for your daughter PP.

By the way, DS is not socially awkward. He has lots of friends...plays sports and has friends going back to preschool. The only struggle I noticed was that initially on the IG account he tended to overshare. He doesn't do that any longer. BTW he is a high school freshman at a top private with a 4.0 GPA. So, thanks PP, but we are doing just fine.

You, on the other hand, need to stop being such a helicopter. I'll bet your daughter already resents you.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The reasons all of you give to justify this is unbelievable. I am guessing you are the same type of cool parents that turned a blind eye at the Wootton party that killed 2 kids. Everyone does it, so you might as well be aware, right?

If they are on IG at 10yrs old what will they be doing at 13? Not IG. They will be the kids acting cool and bragging how "lame" IG is and move onto more adult websites and apps. It is a steady progression.

Or maybe those kids who were given just a little bit of freedom and responsibility at a younger age will learn how to make judgment calls and good choices as opposed to your children who have been hovered over and cannot think for themselves.

Wrong. i don't hover over my child. I just tell her flat out, no to all social media until she is 13 because that is the rules. Not just the rules of IG, snapchat, Facebook, etc.... But my rules. If some parents allow their kids to lie, that is not my problem. I am raising my kids to be honest, fair and have integrity. but go ahead and rationalize how being dishonest is showing responsibility about making good choices. How ironic

Good luck with that.

Let me tell you my story. I had the same attitude. I didn't even want my DS to have a smart phone back when he was in 6th and 7th grade. By the time I let him have the smart phone and IG at age 13, he was very socially awkward online compared to other kids his age. And the PP who said the thing about having lots of followers has a point. In hindsight, I would have let him have the phone and IG sooner because it just makes it easier or kids to connect socially. That is the way they do it now.

You can monitor the IG if you are signed on with her account. I think it is better for them to be on the learning curve before they reach 13 so that they can navigate the online social world with grace.

Good lord lady, you honestly think your son is socially awkward because he didn't have an IG account until age 13? That is so pathetic, it really is.

I am the PP and my daughter is 14 and she is socially fine. She got a phone at 12 and an IG account a month after she turned 13. She is still not allowed to have a snapchat account. She still knows plenty of people that don't have IG or Snapchat accounts and once her thirst for social media subsided she realized it isn't all that great anyway. There are plenty of teens in this world that don't live and die by what Kylie Kardashian is posting on IG for the day. My daughter plays sports year round and is in plenty of activities to keep her happy and socializing face to face. Maybe your son needs a little time away from the phone to gain some more social skills to help with his awkwardness.

Well each child is different. For my DS there was definitely a learning curve because I made the mistake of not letting him have access at a younger age. Good for your daughter PP.

By the way, DS is not socially awkward. He has lots of friends...plays sports and has friends going back to preschool. The only struggle I noticed was that initially on the IG account he tended to overshare. He doesn't do that any longer. BTW he is a high school freshman at a top private with a 4.0 GPA. So, thanks PP, but we are doing just fine.

You, on the other hand, need to stop being such a helicopter. I'll bet your daughter already resents you.

Yes, I am a helicopter because I made her wait until age 13 to get an IG account. That is what all the "cool" moms tell me.

And just an FYI, if you made your child wait until 13 too and monitored his account to see that he was oversharing, how are you not a helicopter too? Kinda confused now.

[Anonymous]

There is a reason 13 is the minimum age. All of you folks letting your kids start with social media before 13 really have no right to ever complain about anything bad that happened to them there then...

OP. It's illegal under 13. Teach your child integrity, the law, and do use this time to teach her "If everyone jumps from a bridge...do you jump, too?" lessons. Peer pressure needs to be eradicated. And that only works if you start very young and never let up.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:There is a reason 13 is the minimum age. All of you folks letting your kids start with social media before 13 really have no right to ever complain about anything bad that happened to them there then...

OP. It's illegal under 13. Teach your child integrity, the law, and do use this time to teach her "If everyone jumps from a bridge...do you jump, too?" lessons. Peer pressure needs to be eradicated. And that only works if you start very young and never let up.

+1

It won't be eradicated if parents allow kids to do what they want after whining "No fair! Everyone else is allowed" so the parents all shrug and say "well okay, you are right. Go ahead then!"

I am pretty sure those parents that shrugged at underage house parties are wishing they put their foot down now that 2 teenagers died leaving their house.

The fact so many parents actually parent their kids based on other kids and parents is what is really sad.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:There is a reason 13 is the minimum age. All of you folks letting your kids start with social media before 13 really have no right to ever complain about anything bad that happened to them there then...

OP. It's illegal under 13. Teach your child integrity, the law, and do use this time to teach her "If everyone jumps from a bridge...do you jump, too?" lessons. Peer pressure needs to be eradicated. And that only works if you start very young and never let up.

+1

It won't be eradicated if parents allow kids to do what they want after whining "No fair! Everyone else is allowed" so the parents all shrug and say "well okay, you are right. Go ahead then!"

I am pretty sure those parents that shrugged at underage house parties are wishing they put their foot down now that 2 teenagers died leaving their house.

The fact so many parents actually parent their kids based on other kids and parents is what is really sad.

Agree

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:There is a reason 13 is the minimum age. All of you folks letting your kids start with social media before 13 really have no right to ever complain about anything bad that happened to them there then...

OP. It's illegal under 13. Teach your child integrity, the law, and do use this time to teach her "If everyone jumps from a bridge...do you jump, too?" lessons. Peer pressure needs to be eradicated. And that only works if you start very young and never let up.

+1

It won't be eradicated if parents allow kids to do what they want after whining "No fair! Everyone else is allowed" so the parents all shrug and say "well okay, you are right. Go ahead then!"

I am pretty sure those parents that shrugged at underage house parties are wishing they put their foot down now that 2 teenagers died leaving their house.

The fact so many parents actually parent their kids based on other kids and parents is what is really sad.

REALLY? You are comparing underage drinking to having an Instagram account? REALLY???

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:There is a reason 13 is the minimum age. All of you folks letting your kids start with social media before 13 really have no right to ever complain about anything bad that happened to them there then...

OP. It's illegal under 13. Teach your child integrity, the law, and do use this time to teach her "If everyone jumps from a bridge...do you jump, too?" lessons. Peer pressure needs to be eradicated. And that only works if you start very young and never let up.

+1

It won't be eradicated if parents allow kids to do what they want after whining "No fair! Everyone else is allowed" so the parents all shrug and say "well okay, you are right. Go ahead then!"

I am pretty sure those parents that shrugged at underage house parties are wishing they put their foot down now that 2 teenagers died leaving their house.

The fact so many parents actually parent their kids based on other kids and parents is what is really sad.

REALLY? You are comparing underage drinking to having an Instagram account? REALLY???

Same type of parents for sure

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:There is a reason 13 is the minimum age. All of you folks letting your kids start with social media before 13 really have no right to ever complain about anything bad that happened to them there then...

OP. It's illegal under 13. Teach your child integrity, the law, and do use this time to teach her "If everyone jumps from a bridge...do you jump, too?" lessons. Peer pressure needs to be eradicated. And that only works if you start very young and never let up.

+1

It won't be eradicated if parents allow kids to do what they want after whining "No fair! Everyone else is allowed" so the parents all shrug and say "well okay, you are right. Go ahead then!"

I am pretty sure those parents that shrugged at underage house parties are wishing they put their foot down now that 2 teenagers died leaving their house.

The fact so many parents actually parent their kids based on other kids and parents is what is really sad.

REALLY? You are comparing underage drinking to having an Instagram account? REALLY???

Same type of parents for sure

Oh, please. My child doesn't have an Instagram account, but that is quite the leap you're making, dontcha think?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The reasons all of you give to justify this is unbelievable. I am guessing you are the same type of cool parents that turned a blind eye at the Wootton party that killed 2 kids. Everyone does it, so you might as well be aware, right?

If they are on IG at 10yrs old what will they be doing at 13? Not IG. They will be the kids acting cool and bragging how "lame" IG is and move onto more adult websites and apps. It is a steady progression.

I agree with this fully. Our kids grow up fast enough. My goal with my kids is to slow things down if at all possible.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The reasons all of you give to justify this is unbelievable. I am guessing you are the same type of cool parents that turned a blind eye at the Wootton party that killed 2 kids. Everyone does it, so you might as well be aware, right?

If they are on IG at 10yrs old what will they be doing at 13? Not IG. They will be the kids acting cool and bragging how "lame" IG is and move onto more adult websites and apps. It is a steady progression.

I agree with this fully. Our kids grow up fast enough. My goal with my kids is to slow things down if at all possible.

+1

I always tell my kids there are only 18yrs old childhood and a lifetime of boring adulthood. Choose wisely.