S/O Has racism gotten worse...

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:In the Indian community, based on my experience, parents reaction to their children marrying out is distinctly a function of race: if they marry a white person it is generally accepted even though they might wish the person was another Indian. Marriage to an Asian (non-Indian) is mentioned almost apologetically and marriage to a black or Hispanic is said with some attempt to justify the marriage with comments about where he/she was educated and/or being well employed.

Same is true of the Persian community.

Funnily, I am an African and my parents would outright disown me if I brought home an Indian or Arab (I know the Iranian will claim not to be Arab, but no one cares). Indians are prostitutes where I come from (thanks to the Brits who brought them over as servants) and pederasty is too common in Middle Eastern cultures for anyone to want to intermarry with them. A family friend had to give up his Indian girlfriend because his parents wouldn't accept her after six years together and out entire community sided with them.

Have spent quite some time in West Africa and, have to say, have never encountered more racist (or tribal if you want) people and practices in my entire life.

AAs here have little idea what racism can truly be.

Please do tell us all about Africa as a non-African. While you're at it, tell us too about what AAs know and don't know. You are just so knowledgeable about cultures you clearly don't belong to!

Mechanic: someone who knows about cars, without being one.

Economists: someone who knows about money, without being a coin.

What do you do for a living, darling?

Idiot (n): 1. One who makes analogies without knowing how to do so properly. 2. One who stereotypes other cultures without shame or self consciousness. 3. One who attempts to redirect a conversation away from the topic when called out for being a pompous (and likely prevaricating) sack of stinking shit.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What's really hard for me as an AA woman who grew up in MD, I just seemed like people used to try harder (our age - I'm 46). It was not PC to say something vile. I always had lots of different types of friends. Some of the things I read on this blog are appalling to me. I always wonder if this is what my friends were actually thinking.

As far of the so called "victim" syndrome that is always discussed here - it's difficult for a people to walk away from their history if it's never truly acknowledged. It's not helpful to say "get over it" or "my friend did it". That's not helpful. For any issue, people don't just get over it. Especially, if the impact has been so systemic.

I used to love this forum. Loved it. Now, I hate to even come back because I have to brace myself. I know Jeff wants an open forum, but I've been coming to this forum since 2003 and it's never been like this.

A little younger and raised outside this area, but I wonder the same thing, especially after reading the "has your opinion of black people changed" thread here where people admitted they had good friends who were black then said yes they thought the worst of black people and that we were whiners and other stereotypes.

[Anonymous]

I sometimes think it has. Even some of my white friends who I thought were really cool people have posted offensive stuff on facebook. I've had to un-friend two of them. I was shocked by what they posted about black people. Now I have to wonder suspiciously about every white person I meet.

I think some people just wanted to pretend racism didn't exist because it's hard to deal with the ugly truth and it gives validation to what minorities have been saying about this country for decades. But now so many people are being open with it, that it can't be rug swept any longer.

[Anonymous]

Black lady here. I freely admit that I generally don't trust white people. We can be acquaintances, but nothing more. IME, most have proved themselves to be disingenuous and insincere. Not interested in forming any deep bond. I truly believe mixing of the races is a mistake. It's brought nothing but shit to the table.

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Anonymous wrote:In the Indian community, based on my experience, parents reaction to their children marrying out is distinctly a function of race: if they marry a white person it is generally accepted even though they might wish the person was another Indian. Marriage to an Asian (non-Indian) is mentioned almost apologetically and marriage to a black or Hispanic is said with some attempt to justify the marriage with comments about where he/she was educated and/or being well employed.

Same is true of the Persian community.

Funnily, I am an African and my parents would outright disown me if I brought home an Indian or Arab (I know the Iranian will claim not to be Arab, but no one cares). Indians are prostitutes where I come from (thanks to the Brits who brought them over as servants) and pederasty is too common in Middle Eastern cultures for anyone to want to intermarry with them. A family friend had to give up his Indian girlfriend because his parents wouldn't accept her after six years together and out entire community sided with them.

Have spent quite some time in West Africa and, have to say, have never encountered more racist (or tribal if you want) people and practices in my entire life.

AAs here have little idea what racism can truly be.

Please do tell us all about Africa as a non-African. While you're at it, tell us too about what AAs know and don't know. You are just so knowledgeable about cultures you clearly don't belong to!

Mechanic: someone who knows about cars, without being one.

Economists: someone who knows about money, without being a coin.

What do you do for a living, darling?

Idiot (n): 1. One who makes analogies without knowing how to do so properly. 2. One who stereotypes other cultures without shame or self consciousness. 3. One who attempts to redirect a conversation away from the topic when called out for being a pompous (and likely prevaricating) sack of stinking shit.

Question: What do you do for a living, darling?

Answer: Idiot.

I knew it!!

Further proving the main point, one doesn't need to be an idiot to recognize one.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What's really hard for me as an AA woman who grew up in MD, I just seemed like people used to try harder (our age - I'm 46). It was not PC to say something vile. I always had lots of different types of friends. Some of the things I read on this blog are appalling to me. I always wonder if this is what my friends were actually thinking.

As far of the so called "victim" syndrome that is always discussed here - it's difficult for a people to walk away from their history if it's never truly acknowledged. It's not helpful to say "get over it" or "my friend did it". That's not helpful. For any issue, people don't just get over it. Especially, if the impact has been so systemic.

I used to love this forum. Loved it. Now, I hate to even come back because I have to brace myself. I know Jeff wants an open forum, but I've been coming to this forum since 2003 and it's never been like this.

Hugs, PP! To cheer you up, this forum has made me more aware of the issues AA community faces, as a result I am more informed, practice open mindedness and stay away from crazy stereotypes.

[Anonymous]

The traditional white male power structure is being eroded away and it's obvious now even to the dimmest. The people who feel threatened by this have become extremely open and vocal about their hatred of minorities. I think it will get worse before it gets better, unfortunately.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:or just more overt in recent years?

Maybe it's the 24-hour news cycle, or the social media culture we now live in, but I'm astounded at the xenophobia and the racism I've heard/seen/read (not just on DCUM) over the past few years. Part of me thinks it's a reaction to Obama being president. Has anyone's experience been similar?

Because Obama is our president??? There are people who think like that?? He is an awesome president, sure at some level all politicians will be politicians but I am convinced his heart is in the right place. He is a good man, period.

Signed - An immigrant.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Black lady here. I freely admit that I generally don't trust white people. We can be acquaintances, but nothing more. IME, most have proved themselves to be disingenuous and insincere. Not interested in forming any deep bond. I truly believe mixing of the races is a mistake. It's brought nothing but shit to the table.

Wow. So, what's the solution?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The traditional white male power structure is being eroded away and it's obvious now even to the dimmest. The people who feel threatened by this have become extremely open and vocal about their hatred of minorities. I think it will get worse before it gets better, unfortunately.

I think you have a point here, it will get worse before it gets better.

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Anonymous wrote:In the Indian community, based on my experience, parents reaction to their children marrying out is distinctly a function of race: if they marry a white person it is generally accepted even though they might wish the person was another Indian. Marriage to an Asian (non-Indian) is mentioned almost apologetically and marriage to a black or Hispanic is said with some attempt to justify the marriage with comments about where he/she was educated and/or being well employed.

Same is true of the Persian community.

Funnily, I am an African and my parents would outright disown me if I brought home an Indian or Arab (I know the Iranian will claim not to be Arab, but no one cares). Indians are prostitutes where I come from (thanks to the Brits who brought them over as servants) and pederasty is too common in Middle Eastern cultures for anyone to want to intermarry with them. A family friend had to give up his Indian girlfriend because his parents wouldn't accept her after six years together and out entire community sided with them.

Have spent quite some time in West Africa and, have to say, have never encountered more racist (or tribal if you want) people and practices in my entire life.

AAs here have little idea what racism can truly be.

Please do tell us all about Africa as a non-African. While you're at it, tell us too about what AAs know and don't know. You are just so knowledgeable about cultures you clearly don't belong to!

Mechanic: someone who knows about cars, without being one.

Economists: someone who knows about money, without being a coin.

What do you do for a living, darling?

Idiot (n): 1. One who makes analogies without knowing how to do so properly. 2. One who stereotypes other cultures without shame or self consciousness. 3. One who attempts to redirect a conversation away from the topic when called out for being a pompous (and likely prevaricating) sack of stinking shit.

Question: What do you do for a living, darling?

Answer: Idiot.

I knew it!!

Further proving the main point, one doesn't need to be an idiot to recognize one.

NP. Good effort, but I'm gonna award the win to PP who defined "idiot". You got served by her, dude. Sorry.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Black lady here. I freely admit that I generally don't trust white people. We can be acquaintances, but nothing more. IME, most have proved themselves to be disingenuous and insincere. Not interested in forming any deep bond. I truly believe mixing of the races is a mistake. It's brought nothing but shit to the table.

Wow. So, what's the solution?

obviously Jim Crow Laws

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:In the Indian community, based on my experience, parents reaction to their children marrying out is distinctly a function of race: if they marry a white person it is generally accepted even though they might wish the person was another Indian. Marriage to an Asian (non-Indian) is mentioned almost apologetically and marriage to a black or Hispanic is said with some attempt to justify the marriage with comments about where he/she was educated and/or being well employed.

Same is true of the Persian community.

Funnily, I am an African and my parents would outright disown me if I brought home an Indian or Arab (I know the Iranian will claim not to be Arab, but no one cares). Indians are prostitutes where I come from (thanks to the Brits who brought them over as servants) and pederasty is too common in Middle Eastern cultures for anyone to want to intermarry with them. A family friend had to give up his Indian girlfriend because his parents wouldn't accept her after six years together and out entire community sided with them.

Grammar police here. Funnily is not a proper English word.

It is TOO a word. It's an adv. You may not like it (or use it), but funnily enough, it exists.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Black lady here. I freely admit that I generally don't trust white people. We can be acquaintances, but nothing more. IME, most have proved themselves to be disingenuous and insincere. Not interested in forming any deep bond. I truly believe mixing of the races is a mistake. It's brought nothing but shit to the table.

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Anonymous wrote:Here just for the white people who will tell us what racism is, how to feel about it, and what to do about it. Because, you know, whites are the real targets of racism.

And this attitude is part of the problem. I read your post and thought - another angry black person blaming all whites for living the privileged life.

turned off . . .

I'm not bending backward for ANY person. All people need to step it up.

done with the pity party

Aaaand this is why you are broke and insane and a racist. You automatically assumed that was a black person based on what? Because you didn't like what PP said. You're too stupid to participate in public life. Be silent in your mother's basement!

So then you've got the White progressives who're usually more outraged than actual People of Color about this, that, or the other.