Mid twenties the sweet spot for women

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Well, I'm 27 but I usually get mistaken for being in high school and even middle school a couple of times.

I know what you're talking about. i was cute in my teens and early 20s and had the attention of guys my own age. But when I hit 22 it was like ALL these men started being interested.

IDK, maybe cause I am aging slower but that hasnt declined yet.

I actually find it somewhat annoying. Like the other day I was doing squats on the squat machine in (perfectly appropriate) gym shorts and looked across the gym to see two guys (not standing together) absolutely staring at the underside of my ass/thigh area.

It's gross and nasty, and I think most of the attention is prurient and borderline misogynistic.

Once you realize most men are worthless horndogs I guess it takes the shine off. I could not care less if I never got another look from a male stranger for the rest of my life.

I'm the OP.

I used to be like you, I always looked very young for my age and had big baby cheeks and was really short so for a long time, from 0- 23, I was looked at as a kid and was passed on by all men. When I turned 24, I developed curves and I started to look like a young girl, I guess. That and the bloom of youth meant I got a LOT of attention; older men, younger men, neighbors, coworkers, free coffee drinks special treatment etc.

It was amazing. And so sudden!

And then i reached 27 and 28 and all of that has dropped. I'm honestly kinda shocked.

OP -- it sounds like you're just really ugly. Why not get a consult with a plastic surgeon? You may need a completely new face and body in order to get some attention again. Sorry.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Most women think they look young for their age.

Isn't it funny how often people "guess" that you are much younger, and seem "shocked" by your real age. They are being polite. If any woman asks me to guess her age, I always say something ridiculously low.

Sorry, I'm not trying to make you feel bad. I'm older than you. I just want you to be realistic. I know aging is hard, especially when younger people pick on you about it.

Eh, it's not that.

I come from a large family. My youngest sibling is 8 years younger than me.

Every single time someone volunteers to/ is asked to assign ages to the siblings, I am guessed to be the youngest. It's a running joke in my family.

My friends also tease me about it.

It's something I have come to accept, from life experience.

The fact is, plenty of women look much younger than their age. Again, it puzzles to me as to why there is such ire/ denial about that? Maybe people feel like I'm cheating the system, or it's just an issue of a woman acknowledging a trait of theirs that has been traditionally been seen as an asset? (Though I'm not sure being frozen at 15 for 17 years is necessarily the ideal age at which to stop aging) I'm not sure. But it always puzzles me the lengths to which people will go to deny that an anonymous person on DCUM looks much younger....

Obviously *some* people look young for their age. Just like some people are above average drivers, etc.

Maybe I'm jaded from constantly having to humor people (in real life) when they "complain" about looking so young for their age. More often than not, they don't look that young, but I have to pretend to be shocked so I don't burst their bubbles.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Most women think they look young for their age.

Isn't it funny how often people "guess" that you are much younger, and seem "shocked" by your real age. They are being polite. If any woman asks me to guess her age, I always say something ridiculously low.

Sorry, I'm not trying to make you feel bad. I'm older than you. I just want you to be realistic. I know aging is hard, especially when younger people pick on you about it.

Eh, it's not that.

I come from a large family. My youngest sibling is 8 years younger than me.

Every single time someone volunteers to/ is asked to assign ages to the siblings, I am guessed to be the youngest. It's a running joke in my family.

My friends also tease me about it.

It's something I have come to accept, from life experience.

The fact is, plenty of women look much younger than their age. Again, it puzzles to me as to why there is such ire/ denial about that? Maybe people feel like I'm cheating the system, or it's just an issue of a woman acknowledging a trait of theirs that has been traditionally been seen as an asset? (Though I'm not sure being frozen at 15 for 17 years is necessarily the ideal age at which to stop aging) I'm not sure. But it always puzzles me the lengths to which people will go to deny that an anonymous person on DCUM looks much younger....

Obviously *some* people look young for their age. Just like some people are above average drivers, etc.

Maybe I'm jaded from constantly having to humor people (in real life) when they "complain" about looking so young for their age. More often than not, they don't look that young, but I have to pretend to be shocked so I don't burst their bubbles.

That's a regular topic of conversation among your friend/acquaintance group?

Huh. You hang out with some weird people.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Most women think they look young for their age.

Isn't it funny how often people "guess" that you are much younger, and seem "shocked" by your real age. They are being polite. If any woman asks me to guess her age, I always say something ridiculously low.

Sorry, I'm not trying to make you feel bad. I'm older than you. I just want you to be realistic. I know aging is hard, especially when younger people pick on you about it.

Eh, it's not that.

I come from a large family. My youngest sibling is 8 years younger than me.

Every single time someone volunteers to/ is asked to assign ages to the siblings, I am guessed to be the youngest. It's a running joke in my family.

My friends also tease me about it.

It's something I have come to accept, from life experience.

The fact is, plenty of women look much younger than their age. Again, it puzzles to me as to why there is such ire/ denial about that? Maybe people feel like I'm cheating the system, or it's just an issue of a woman acknowledging a trait of theirs that has been traditionally been seen as an asset? (Though I'm not sure being frozen at 15 for 17 years is necessarily the ideal age at which to stop aging) I'm not sure. But it always puzzles me the lengths to which people will go to deny that an anonymous person on DCUM looks much younger....

Obviously *some* people look young for their age. Just like some people are above average drivers, etc.

Maybe I'm jaded from constantly having to humor people (in real life) when they "complain" about looking so young for their age. More often than not, they don't look that young, but I have to pretend to be shocked so I don't burst their bubbles.

That's a regular topic of conversation among your friend/acquaintance group?

Huh. You hang out with some weird people.

It's not a regular thing. It's once every few months, with different people thing.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Most women think they look young for their age.

Isn't it funny how often people "guess" that you are much younger, and seem "shocked" by your real age. They are being polite. If any woman asks me to guess her age, I always say something ridiculously low.

Sorry, I'm not trying to make you feel bad. I'm older than you. I just want you to be realistic. I know aging is hard, especially when younger people pick on you about it.

Eh, it's not that.

I come from a large family. My youngest sibling is 8 years younger than me.

Every single time someone volunteers to/ is asked to assign ages to the siblings, I am guessed to be the youngest. It's a running joke in my family.

My friends also tease me about it.

It's something I have come to accept, from life experience.

The fact is, plenty of women look much younger than their age. Again, it puzzles to me as to why there is such ire/ denial about that? Maybe people feel like I'm cheating the system, or it's just an issue of a woman acknowledging a trait of theirs that has been traditionally been seen as an asset? (Though I'm not sure being frozen at 15 for 17 years is necessarily the ideal age at which to stop aging) I'm not sure. But it always puzzles me the lengths to which people will go to deny that an anonymous person on DCUM looks much younger....

Obviously *some* people look young for their age. Just like some people are above average drivers, etc.

Maybe I'm jaded from constantly having to humor people (in real life) when they "complain" about looking so young for their age. More often than not, they don't look that young, but I have to pretend to be shocked so I don't burst their bubbles.

That's a regular topic of conversation among your friend/acquaintance group?

Huh. You hang out with some weird people.

It's not a regular thing. It's once every few months, with different people thing.

Alright. Then I'm not sure you know what "constantly" means....

[Anonymous]

I don't know Op. All men will fuck a 24 year old- you're totally legal but not old enough to want kids and marriage yet so it's really more a sweet spot for THEM. That's why you got attention a lot at that age. At 28-30 they know if you're single a) there might be a reason and b) if they hit on you you might expect a relationship.

What I'm saying is you probably still look fine, great, you just aren't the easy pickings you were (we all were) at 24.

[Anonymous]

What on earth?

Firstly, how did all of that unsolicited attention pan out for you? Not well I'm guessing or you wouldn't be seeking it still.

Secondly, everything and I mean EVERYTHING, gets better after 30. Don't worry, OP, I met my soulmate at 32, married at 34, never dreamed I'd be this happy.

And PS, I was single - by choice - for six years before that. Really gave me a lot of perspective on what I wanted, needed, what I could give, what I should work on, etc. Yes, I dated, and had the occasional fling, but by and large it was a time for me to do some self-growth. Worked out perfectly.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What on earth?

Firstly, how did all of that unsolicited attention pan out for you? Not well I'm guessing or you wouldn't be seeking it still.

Secondly, everything and I mean EVERYTHING, gets better after 30. Don't worry, OP, I met my soulmate at 32, married at 34, never dreamed I'd be this happy.

And PS, I was single - by choice - for six years before that. Really gave me a lot of perspective on what I wanted, needed, what I could give, what I should work on, etc. Yes, I dated, and had the occasional fling, but by and large it was a time for me to do some self-growth. Worked out perfectly.

Not OP but this is good to hear! I'm 28 and starting to panic cause I want kids. I'm happy to hear this.

[Anonymous]

I met my husband at age 24. I thought I looked pretty damn good when I was 28 when he proposed. I looked my very best at age 29 when I got married.

Before I dated my husband, I dated another who was 30 when I was 23. He said he doesn't like to date women his age because anyone who is over 28 is looking for a husband. He was very into me. I think he may have married me but I was not into him as much.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I met my husband at age 24. I thought I looked pretty damn good when I was 28 when he proposed. I looked my very best at age 29 when I got married.

Before I dated my husband, I dated another who was 30 when I was 23. He said he doesn't like to date women his age because anyone who is over 28 is looking for a husband. He was very into me. I think he may have married me but I was not into him as much.

Just wanted to add that my DH took his time proposing. I was starting to panic at age 27 because I did not want to start over at age 28 and be the girl at the bar/club looking for a husband. In hindsight, that was so silly.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I just turned 30 and totally disagree. Something clicked this year and I feel like I'm really hitting my stride. I imagine 30-45 is the sweet spot for most women.

True for me! Unfortunately, for myself that period ended 3-4 years ago. Fifty is around the corner! Feeling invisible at 28 sounds unbelievable to me. Life is just getting good then.

OP, you need to grow some new confidence. Then again, so do I.

[Anonymous]

You're funny, OP.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don't know Op. All men will fuck a 24 year old- you're totally legal but not old enough to want kids and marriage yet so it's really more a sweet spot for THEM. That's why you got attention a lot at that age. At 28-30 they know if you're single a) there might be a reason and b) if they hit on you you might expect a relationship.

What I'm saying is you probably still look fine, great, you just aren't the easy pickings you were (we all were) at 24.

BINGO

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don't know Op. All men will fuck a 24 year old- you're totally legal but not old enough to want kids and marriage yet so it's really more a sweet spot for THEM. That's why you got attention a lot at that age. At 28-30 they know if you're single a) there might be a reason and b) if they hit on you you might expect a relationship.

What I'm saying is you probably still look fine, great, you just aren't the easy pickings you were (we all were) at 24.

BINGO

x2.

Which is why looking older is great. It kind of sorts out the flakes/losers just in it for a night. You know that the guys who are approaching you are probably interested in something long term. It's a good thing.

[Anonymous]

No no no! OP this is a self confidence thing, not even a looks thing so much. Not an age thing. I'm 48 and just now think I'm "declining", lol. But men (my age) still flirt on occasion. And I'm not even super pretty. But I am comfortable in my own skin and come across as someone who genuinely likes others...