Afraid to Let My DD Drive Herself

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:If she passed the test then she is ready. Let her drive

Not necessarily. The test is one thing, experience is another.

Hey OP. Why don't you get her to do a few practice runs to school and back, with you as a passenger. She will learn any quirks in the route, any potential problem areas, get to know that part of the road.

Go during rush hours so she has a greater sense of the realities.

You can help her this way and reassure yourself in the process. You have a few days till school starts (I assume) then you can let her fly.

Because it sounds like DH has already done this, a lot. It's unecessary for OP to do it again...the anxiety is OPs problem. If she passed the test, Dad says she's ready, that should be enough.

Oh yeah. Buck stops with the guy, fur shur.

Just stop. Nobody is making sweeping generalizations based on gender except for YOU. So knock off the silly strawman. OP clearly has anxiety issues with this- she has admitted as much. DH and the DMV say she's ready. OP is the outlier here.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If she passed the test then she is ready. Let her drive

Not necessarily. The test is one thing, experience is another.

Hey OP. Why don't you get her to do a few practice runs to school and back, with you as a passenger. She will learn any quirks in the route, any potential problem areas, get to know that part of the road.

Go during rush hours so she has a greater sense of the realities.

You can help her this way and reassure yourself in the process. You have a few days till school starts (I assume) then you can let her fly.

Because it sounds like DH has already done this, a lot. It's unecessary for OP to do it again...the anxiety is OPs problem. If she passed the test, Dad says she's ready, that should be enough.

Oh yeah. Buck stops with the guy, fur shur.

Just stop. Nobody is making sweeping generalizations based on gender except for YOU. So knock off the silly strawman. OP clearly has anxiety issues with this- she has admitted as much. DH and the DMV say she's ready. OP is the outlier here.

And you are just a bunch of fucking bullies. Talk about a total absence of practical support and help, just the usual banal criticism.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, you weren't willing to be the one to teach her, so you have no power here. Your husband's opinion is what matters.

[Anonymous]

Your job as a parent isn't to protect them from everything. Your job as a parent is to raise confident, independent adults. That means taking some risks, making some mistakes. You think you are doing what is best for your child, but you are hurting her.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:And you are just a bunch of fucking bullies. Talk about a total absence of practical support and help, just the usual banal criticism.

And you're enabling a woman with crippling anxiety regarding her daughter engaging in an activity that is not only socially acceptable but one of the critical life skills to enter adulthood.

Seriously. She got her license. Her DH feels she is safe enough to drive. The next step is for her to get a part time job and start heading into the world INDEPENDENTLY. Isn't that what our primary role as parents is supposed to be? You and the PP who said their kid won't drive until they're 18 are nuggin' futs.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If she passed the test then she is ready. Let her drive

Not. I'm sorry but US residents are very naive when it comes to this. Getting a driver's license is extremely easy in the US. And by far not everyone who gets the license is ready to be on the road or should be. There is a reason why there are so many accidents. It is not only about the theoratical ability to drive. It is also about being mature enough to handle driving well.

OP if you can trust the no friends in the car, no cellphone in the car rules and your daughter does actually drive well it is time to let her practice. If she ever has anyone else in the car or you learn she uses her phone while driving she is not to drive anymore until you can trust her again. Distraction is such a huge factor when it comes to safe driving and it is being neglected by so many people.