Is it ok to admonish a stranger for farting in public

[Anonymous]

Can you admonish a stranger for acting like an asshole in public?

[Anonymous]

I have to say OP, you were more rude than the flatulent person...that makes me think of some idiot at work who told me to say excuse me after I farted from the next bathroom stall over. Seriously? Anyway, I'm pregnant and there's no telling when the farting, loud burping, or whatever will come out. I try to not let it happen in public but...maybe this person also had a medical issue.

[Anonymous]

WTF. NO. Didn't your mother ever teach you manners?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No, you shouldn't say anything. I agree that it's gross and very rude, but this is an instance where it's not your place to correct another adult's behavior. You were rude to say anything. Also, it might be a medical issue which is causing the problem. No need to make them feel any worse than they already do - I suspect they are just as embarrassed.

You say you regretted saying something which should answer your question...you were out of line in saying anything.

OP here: I should have been more specific. I didn't say something to express general disapproval, but rather to let him know specifically that since I was forced to stand behind him or lose my place in a long line, I didn't think it was nice for him to force me to breathe in his noxious methane emissions. I was polite: I said "oh my, are you feeling sick today? I can hold your place in line if you want to go to the men's room"

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:No, you shouldn't say anything. I agree that it's gross and very rude, but this is an instance where it's not your place to correct another adult's behavior. You were rude to say anything. Also, it might be a medical issue which is causing the problem. No need to make them feel any worse than they already do - I suspect they are just as embarrassed.

You say you regretted saying something which should answer your question...you were out of line in saying anything.

OP here: I should have been more specific. I didn't say something to express general disapproval, but rather to let him know specifically that since I was forced to stand behind him or lose my place in a long line, I didn't think it was nice for him to force me to breathe in his noxious methane emissions. I was polite: I said "oh my, are you feeling sick today? I can hold your place in line if you want to go to the men's room"

Still profoundly rude. Some people have IBS and have bad stomach pain and gas all day. They can't excuse themselves to go to the bathroom every time they need to pass gas or they'd spend all day in the bathroom. If that's the case, then I guarantee he was a lot more upset about his flatulence that you were. Poor guy must have been so embarrassed.

[Anonymous]

I was with my 3 year old in Target (busy, busy Sat afternoon). I let one rip; the kind that traveled from the top of your stomach all the way out. I felt such relief but was super embarrassed. I said to my 3yo, "Larla say excuse me," She said (at the top of her lungs), "Excuse you mommy for passing that big gas!"

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:No, you shouldn't say anything. I agree that it's gross and very rude, but this is an instance where it's not your place to correct another adult's behavior. You were rude to say anything. Also, it might be a medical issue which is causing the problem. No need to make them feel any worse than they already do - I suspect they are just as embarrassed.

You say you regretted saying something which should answer your question...you were out of line in saying anything.

OP here: I should have been more specific. I didn't say something to express general disapproval, but rather to let him know specifically that since I was forced to stand behind him or lose my place in a long line, I didn't think it was nice for him to force me to breathe in his noxious methane emissions. I was polite: I said "oh my, are you feeling sick today? I can hold your place in line if you want to go to the men's room"

You are a bitch. There are many many people who have medical conditions that result in their uncontrollay passing gas. My father is one of them. Somehow be managed to serve as an Army doctor for years, seeing some of the most gruesome aspects of our bodily functions and failures. And you can't help but point out what was of course probay a very embarrassing moment got another person. I hope if you give birth to a child that your doctor comments on it, loudly, if you shit, and that you suffer equally embarrassing comments from people in public. Really, you are disgusting.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:No, you shouldn't say anything. I agree that it's gross and very rude, but this is an instance where it's not your place to correct another adult's behavior. You were rude to say anything. Also, it might be a medical issue which is causing the problem. No need to make them feel any worse than they already do - I suspect they are just as embarrassed.

You say you regretted saying something which should answer your question...you were out of line in saying anything.

OP here: I should have been more specific. I didn't say something to express general disapproval, but rather to let him know specifically that since I was forced to stand behind him or lose my place in a long line, I didn't think it was nice for him to force me to breathe in his noxious methane emissions. I was polite: I said "oh my, are you feeling sick today? I can hold your place in line if you want to go to the men's room"

You're a diva. Stay home if you're such a delicate flower. Sometimes unpleasant things surround us. it sucks, but oh well. Order all your junk on Amazon and Peapod if you don't like it.

[Anonymous]

I'm an old lady with impeccable manners. I find myself letting Big Ones at the most unexpected moments. If you live long enough this will be you, especially if you've had a child.

A little proactive compassion for your future vulnerable self is in order.

Of course you may get hit by a bus before this happens. Problem solved.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:No, you shouldn't say anything. I agree that it's gross and very rude, but this is an instance where it's not your place to correct another adult's behavior. You were rude to say anything. Also, it might be a medical issue which is causing the problem. No need to make them feel any worse than they already do - I suspect they are just as embarrassed.

You say you regretted saying something which should answer your question...you were out of line in saying anything.

OP here: I should have been more specific. I didn't say something to express general disapproval, but rather to let him know specifically that since I was forced to stand behind him or lose my place in a long line, I didn't think it was nice for him to force me to breathe in his noxious methane emissions. I was polite: I said "oh my, are you feeling sick today? I can hold your place in line if you want to go to the men's room"

You are a total bitch.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:No, you shouldn't say anything. I agree that it's gross and very rude, but this is an instance where it's not your place to correct another adult's behavior. You were rude to say anything. Also, it might be a medical issue which is causing the problem. No need to make them feel any worse than they already do - I suspect they are just as embarrassed.

You say you regretted saying something which should answer your question...you were out of line in saying anything.

OP here: I should have been more specific. I didn't say something to express general disapproval, but rather to let him know specifically that since I was forced to stand behind him or lose my place in a long line, I didn't think it was nice for him to force me to breathe in his noxious methane emissions. I was polite: I said "oh my, are you feeling sick today? I can hold your place in line if you want to go to the men's room"

no anal sex for you, OP!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:No, you shouldn't say anything. I agree that it's gross and very rude, but this is an instance where it's not your place to correct another adult's behavior. You were rude to say anything. Also, it might be a medical issue which is causing the problem. No need to make them feel any worse than they already do - I suspect they are just as embarrassed.

You say you regretted saying something which should answer your question...you were out of line in saying anything.

OP here: I should have been more specific. I didn't say something to express general disapproval, but rather to let him know specifically that since I was forced to stand behind him or lose my place in a long line, I didn't think it was nice for him to force me to breathe in his noxious methane emissions. I was polite: I said "oh my, are you feeling sick today? I can hold your place in line if you want to go to the men's room"

omg OP...SO RUDE

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, you were really inappropriate. The chances are good that you badly embarrassed somebody. I hope the other person wasn't elderly and suffering medical issues.

yep. my mom has had colon cancer, and also suffers from severe IBS. it's embarrassing for her, but she can't help it.
i once was behind a family coming out of the metro. the dad let one rip so loudly and his whole family started laughing. they turned around and saw me, I was giggling myself, so i think they appreciated that too since they started laughing more.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What on earth do you want them to say to make it better? "Oh sorry, I didn't realize you don't like farts. I'll put it back."

I mean, that's just never going to happen!

Hahaha. Yes.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm an old lady with impeccable manners. I find myself letting Big Ones at the most unexpected moments. If you live long enough this will be you, especially if you've had a child.

A little proactive compassion for your future vulnerable self is in order.

Of course you may get hit by a bus before this happens. Problem solved.