Telling MIL off

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Anonymous wrote:I did years ago. It felt great. She is the real loser though. Her son is not a planner so she only sees our family when I plan visits. If she wasn't so selfish, she would see us a lot more. Remember mothers of sons, your DIL will be the one managing the family schedule. If you want to on it more than just holidays, make friends with the one who makes the plans.

Truth.

Absolutely. Also, unless you have daughters, your DIL will likely be the one looking after you in your senior years and during times of illness. Some sons are amazing caregivers, but daughters and DILs are usually the ones who help out with the ugly stuff.

Let me get this straight: you are endorsing a woman who would shun (for no reason) their own flesh and blood son, simply because you "have daughters". And well, the daughters keep you out of the nursing home, so you may as well be dismissive of your son - and while you are at it, your grandchildren, too. Even though your son, and especially your DIL, never did anything to you. Besides, your son married someone opposite you/MIL (for damn good reason) and MIL takes that as a personal affront.

WHAT kind of mother does that?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:OP sounds like an immature young woman... I am guess still in 20s or at least mentally.

Because no one else would be tired (exhausted) of a nasty MILs dramatics and feigned ignorance??!! [Cue: feigned ignorance. LOLZ.]

No. Presumably anyone oats their 20s would have the emotional maturity and control to handle conflict with a family member in a more positive and productive way.

Oh, brother. You weren't there to hear the conversation. You're projecting. OP already clarified more of what was said and addressed her MIL's history of not wanting to have meaningful conversations.

+1

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:My MIL is a cult leader. I'm not kidding.

Thread winner!!!

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Do tell!

Okay so it's so fucking crazy I should start a separate thread...but she's a self-proclaimed prophet. She lives in a different country and has about twenty followers who live with her. We see her once or twice a year. It doesn't matter what I say to her, she believes she can read my thoughts. She's told me I'm lying (about the randomest shit) on too many occasions to count. She also has been visited (regularly) by aliens.

Mine too! But she's not a cult leader.

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Anyone who follows my MIL is going to be led into pure hell. No lie.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I did years ago. It felt great. She is the real loser though. Her son is not a planner so she only sees our family when I plan visits. If she wasn't so selfish, she would see us a lot more. Remember mothers of sons, your DIL will be the one managing the family schedule. If you want to on it more than just holidays, make friends with the one who makes the plans.

Truth.

Absolutely. Also, unless you have daughters, your DIL will likely be the one looking after you in your senior years and during times of illness. Some sons are amazing caregivers, but daughters and DILs are usually the ones who help out with the ugly stuff.

Let me get this straight: you are endorsing a woman who would shun (for no reason) their own flesh and blood son, simply because you "have daughters". And well, the daughters keep you out of the nursing home, so you may as well be dismissive of your son - and while you are at it, your grandchildren, too. Even though your son, and especially your DIL, never did anything to you. Besides, your son married someone opposite you/MIL (for damn good reason) and MIL takes that as a personal affront.

WHAT kind of mother does that?

I think you are misreading PP's point. She's saying MILs should be nicer to their DILs because they'll probably be the ones looking after their MIL when she's elderly (if she doesn't have daughters).

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:OP sounds like an immature young woman... I am guess still in 20s or at least mentally.

Because no one else would be tired (exhausted) of a nasty MILs dramatics and feigned ignorance??!! [Cue: feigned ignorance. LOLZ.]

No. Presumably anyone oats their 20s would have the emotional maturity and control to handle conflict with a family member in a more positive and productive way.

Oh, brother. You weren't there to hear the conversation. You're projecting. OP already clarified more of what was said and addressed her MIL's history of not wanting to have meaningful conversations.

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That still doesn't necessitate op acting immaturely. Should she not carry herself better than the one she criticizes?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:OP sounds like an immature young woman... I am guess still in 20s or at least mentally.

Because no one else would be tired (exhausted) of a nasty MILs dramatics and feigned ignorance??!! [Cue: feigned ignorance. LOLZ.]

No. Presumably anyone oats their 20s would have the emotional maturity and control to handle conflict with a family member in a more positive and productive way.

When my MIL took my son out his crib the second night--after I had calmly and rationally asked her not to do so again--you better believe I told her off, at 3 am. And she cut that shit out afterwards.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP sounds like an immature young woman... I am guess still in 20s or at least mentally.

Because no one else would be tired (exhausted) of a nasty MILs dramatics and feigned ignorance??!! [Cue: feigned ignorance. LOLZ.]

No. Presumably anyone oats their 20s would have the emotional maturity and control to handle conflict with a family member in a more positive and productive way.

Oh, brother. You weren't there to hear the conversation. You're projecting. OP already clarified more of what was said and addressed her MIL's history of not wanting to have meaningful conversations.

But... But, you are no better. There are two sides to every story. We are only hearing OP's side, right? How do you really know OP is telling you the whole and complete story?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP sounds like an immature young woman... I am guess still in 20s or at least mentally.

Because no one else would be tired (exhausted) of a nasty MILs dramatics and feigned ignorance??!! [Cue: feigned ignorance. LOLZ.]

No. Presumably anyone oats their 20s would have the emotional maturity and control to handle conflict with a family member in a more positive and productive way.

Oh, brother. You weren't there to hear the conversation. You're projecting. OP already clarified more of what was said and addressed her MIL's history of not wanting to have meaningful conversations.

But... But, you are no better. There are two sides to every story. We are only hearing OP's side, right? How do you really know OP is telling you the whole and complete story?

How mil acts is irrelevant to how op should act. Responding in kind simply brings her down to the lowest common level.