First date sex

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Anonymous wrote:A healthy attitude is recognizing people aren't defined by when they choose to have sex. You are welcome to call women "easy," but understand I'll assume you have serious hang ups.

Like I said, you're free to ignore the realities of society or claim that they're not so. But they are. Whether you like it or not.

If you sleep with a man of the first date it colors his opinion of you in a certain way. More often than not, it won't be positive. Close your eyes and stomp your feet all you want.

There are plenty of people who that wouldn't be the case- namely, not assholes...
but keep buying into the judgmental crap and saying it is gospel

Let's just say that as a younger man many of my friends occasionally banged someone on the first date. Never once did I hear any of them talk about how much they respected them, nor did they pursue serious relationships with them. (Now on cue go ahead and tell me how my friends were all pigs, but they are in fact just regular guys who went on to have families and careers.)

Now, if a woman is just interested in a roll in the hay or casual fling, sure, why not? But if you're looking at someone as a potential long term mate, then don't screw him on night one. He WILL see you differently. I guarantee. it.

NP here. Soooo you hang out with assholes. What's your point?

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Anonymous wrote:NP here. Soooo you hang out with assholes. What's your point?

The point is that it's easy for you to dismiss everyone as an asshole, but it doesn't change fundamental reality no matter how much you'd like it to.

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Has he texted yet?

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Anonymous wrote:NP here. Soooo you hang out with assholes. What's your point?

The point is that it's easy for you to dismiss everyone as an asshole, but it doesn't change fundamental reality no matter how much you'd like it to.

It's not the fundamental reality. I've dated someone long term I slept with on the first date, so have plenty of women and some have married them. As long as someone isnt a judgemental or evangelical douche, I dont see why, in the 21st century, any dude would actually have a problem with that.

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Anonymous wrote:NP here. Soooo you hang out with assholes. What's your point?

The point is that it's easy for you to dismiss everyone as an asshole, but it doesn't change fundamental reality no matter how much you'd like it to.

It's not the fundamental reality. I've dated someone long term I slept with on the first date, so have plenty of women and some have married them. As long as someone isnt a judgemental or evangelical douche, I dont see why, in the 21st century, any dude would actually have a problem with that.

NP - I don't see why either but they DO. I think that's the point everyone's trying to tell you except you are calling everyone aholes.

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Well when is the appropriate time to sleep with a guy?

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Anonymous wrote:NP here. Soooo you hang out with assholes. What's your point?

The point is that it's easy for you to dismiss everyone as an asshole, but it doesn't change fundamental reality no matter how much you'd like it to.

It's not the fundamental reality. I've dated someone long term I slept with on the first date, so have plenty of women and some have married them. As long as someone isnt a judgemental or evangelical douche, I dont see why, in the 21st century, any dude would actually have a problem with that.

NP - I don't see why either but they DO. I think that's the point everyone's trying to tell you except you are calling everyone aholes.

No, they DONT. Not all, at the very very least. Most educated men who aren't misogynistic idiots with a madonna/whore complex would have zero issue with it

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^ well, believe what you want to believe, it doesn't really change anything anyway.

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Anonymous wrote:No, they DONT. Not all, at the very very least. Most educated men who aren't misogynistic idiots with a madonna/whore complex would have zero issue with it

I'm sorry. You simply aren't grounded in reality.

No one says it's fair.

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Anonymous wrote:No, they DONT. Not all, at the very very least. Most educated men who aren't misogynistic idiots with a madonna/whore complex would have zero issue with it

I'm sorry. You simply aren't grounded in reality.

No one says it's fair.

It's not a question of whether it's fair or not. It's a question of whether quality men would x someone out because they mutually had sex- and the answer is no.

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Anonymous wrote:No, they DONT. Not all, at the very very least. Most educated men who aren't misogynistic idiots with a madonna/whore complex would have zero issue with it

I'm sorry. You simply aren't grounded in reality.

No one says it's fair.

It's not a question of whether it's fair or not. It's a question of whether quality men would x someone out because they mutually had sex- and the answer is no.

I think you simply don't get it.

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Anonymous wrote:No, they DONT. Not all, at the very very least. Most educated men who aren't misogynistic idiots with a madonna/whore complex would have zero issue with it

I'm sorry. You simply aren't grounded in reality.

No one says it's fair.

It's not a question of whether it's fair or not. It's a question of whether quality men would x someone out because they mutually had sex- and the answer is no.

I think you simply don't get it.

Same to you.

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Anonymous wrote:NP here. Soooo you hang out with assholes. What's your point?

The point is that it's easy for you to dismiss everyone as an asshole, but it doesn't change fundamental reality no matter how much you'd like it to.

Not the poster you are quoting- but there have been plenty of people chiming in to refute that this is reality for everyone- not everyone thinks this way.
I had the best date of my life, we slept together on the first date- we knew we were going to be together for the long haul and sleeping together didn't ruin it, planning our wedding this fall... not everyone has to think less of a women because she likes sex

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Anonymous wrote:No, they DONT. Not all, at the very very least. Most educated men who aren't misogynistic idiots with a madonna/whore complex would have zero issue with it

I'm sorry. You simply aren't grounded in reality.

No one says it's fair.

It's not a question of whether it's fair or not. It's a question of whether quality men would x someone out because they mutually had sex- and the answer is no.

I think you simply don't get it.

NP. No, I think you don't get that not everyone thinks like you. Many misogynistic men with a double standard certainly do feel this way. But many men who see themselves and women as fellow human beings with similar desires and feeling do NOT feel this way. And many of us women are telling you that we have met, slept with, and gone on to have relationships and marriages with such men. They do exist, in quantity, whether you choose to believe it or not.