Why don't you get up and remove your screaming/crying child from story time?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:There is a family like this that I know. Their kids do what they want, and the parents smile. It appears they don't think it's a big deal if others are impacted. I think it's just their parenting style. They seem pretty happy, though, so it must be working for them.

Who cares if it is "working for them" - it is not working in a civilized society and their poor kids are going to have an abrupt and rude awakening when they are asked to sit quietly in school. The child will get in trouble, be punished and disliked (and the poor kid will feel that disapproval from other adults). It is simply lazy-assed parenting for the family that you know and nothing more.

Got any research to back that up? Just (unreliable) anecdotes? Or projecting your own anxieties?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:There is a family like this that I know. Their kids do what they want, and the parents smile. It appears they don't think it's a big deal if others are impacted. I think it's just their parenting style. They seem pretty happy, though, so it must be working for them.

Who cares if it is "working for them" - it is not working in a civilized society and their poor kids are going to have an abrupt and rude awakening when they are asked to sit quietly in school. The child will get in trouble, be punished and disliked (and the poor kid will feel that disapproval from other adults). It is simply lazy-assed parenting for the family that you know and nothing more.

Got any research to back that up? Just (unreliable) anecdotes? Or projecting your own anxieties?

What are you babbling about? Do you really need someone to do a study to tell you that people don't like having to listen to screaming children in public? Are you that stupid or insecure? Come on, just admit that your post was ridiculous and stop embarrassing yourself with further nonsense.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:There is a family like this that I know. Their kids do what they want, and the parents smile. It appears they don't think it's a big deal if others are impacted. I think it's just their parenting style. They seem pretty happy, though, so it must be working for them.

Who cares if it is "working for them" - it is not working in a civilized society and their poor kids are going to have an abrupt and rude awakening when they are asked to sit quietly in school. The child will get in trouble, be punished and disliked (and the poor kid will feel that disapproval from other adults). It is simply lazy-assed parenting for the family that you know and nothing more.

Got any research to back that up? Just (unreliable) anecdotes? Or projecting your own anxieties?

LOL Research to back up that no one like screaming kids in public venues?! Do you really need a scientific study to tell you when someone is being rude?

[Anonymous]

Maybe the pp isn't saying that people don't like to listen to screaming children in public, but referencing that they will get in trouble and be punished, disliked, etc.

Adults are often rewarded $$ for getting s**t done now matter how it happens or who is impacted.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:There is a family like this that I know. Their kids do what they want, and the parents smile. It appears they don't think it's a big deal if others are impacted. I think it's just their parenting style. They seem pretty happy, though, so it must be working for them.

Who cares if it is "working for them" - it is not working in a civilized society and their poor kids are going to have an abrupt and rude awakening when they are asked to sit quietly in school. The child will get in trouble, be punished and disliked (and the poor kid will feel that disapproval from other adults). It is simply lazy-assed parenting for the family that you know and nothing more.

Got any research to back that up? Just (unreliable) anecdotes? Or projecting your own anxieties?

I agree with the other PPs - you are now getting into absurd territory, PP. Just stop. You made an idiotic comment and people reacted - just let it go.

[Anonymous]

In other contexts it's also a pain. A couple of my kids were in a school play the other day and I delighted in the fact it was being videoed so their grandparents who live in other countries could watch it in due course. One mom had her toddler with her and the child acted up, screamed, ran around and completely wrecked the entire thing. You could not hear some if these really little kids who had invested so much effort. To me it was so selfish and incredibly rude. If it was one of my children doing that, there would have been an instant removal.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Maybe the pp isn't *referencing that research is needed to find out* that people don't like to listen to screaming children in public, but referencing research around being punished, disliked, etc.

Adults are often rewarded $$ for getting s**t done now matter how it happens or who is impacted.

Fixed in **, totally messed that sentence up.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:There is a family like this that I know. Their kids do what they want, and the parents smile. It appears they don't think it's a big deal if others are impacted. I think it's just their parenting style. They seem pretty happy, though, so it must be working for them.

Who cares if it is "working for them" - it is not working in a civilized society and their poor kids are going to have an abrupt and rude awakening when they are asked to sit quietly in school. The child will get in trouble, be punished and disliked (and the poor kid will feel that disapproval from other adults). It is simply lazy-assed parenting for the family that you know and nothing more.

Got any research to back that up? Just (unreliable) anecdotes? Or projecting your own anxieties?

I agree with the other PPs - you are now getting into absurd territory, PP. Just stop. You made an idiotic comment and people reacted - just let it go.

To all the pp saying that these are the same people, the person who posted in bold was not the OP of the "idiot" sentence, it was someone else. The idiot sentence was me.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Maybe the pp isn't saying that people don't like to listen to screaming children in public, but referencing that they will get in trouble and be punished, disliked, etc.

Adults are often rewarded $$ for getting s**t done now matter how it happens or who is impacted.

NP here I don't know of any adult who screams during story time and gets rewarded for it. And that is what this thread is about. Let's stick to the subject at hand.

But yes, it is widely accepted that polite children are better liked by adults and rude children are disliked by adults. If you have never seen an adult shoot a child or parent a dirty look? Of course the poor kids feel that.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:In other contexts it's also a pain. A couple of my kids were in a school play the other day and I delighted in the fact it was being videoed so their grandparents who live in other countries could watch it in due course. One mom had her toddler with her and the child acted up, screamed, ran around and completely wrecked the entire thing. You could not hear some if these really little kids who had invested so much effort. To me it was so selfish and incredibly rude. If it was one of my children doing that, there would have been an instant removal.

If people don't speak up the parents think it's a) either just fine and normal or b) that it doesn't matter because others will let them do it. Either reason, they keep doing it.