Why don't you get up and remove your screaming/crying child from story time?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Give the mom a break, she's still figuring it all out. Maybe she'll take her kid out next time. Or not, maybe the rules of parenting today are changing and the world will be taken over by entitled brats. Either way get over it.

Not OP but NO! I will not give bad mothers "a break". It is simple common courtesy to remove your screaming kid from a public venue, Common courtesy which you clearly do not have, PP, or you would never post something so ludicrous.

I am with you, OP. I am an older mother and it shocks me that so many other mothers are so stunningly rude and narcissistic.

OK, so what will you do? Besides complain about it on DCUM.

Yesterday, after the mother proved to be completely ineffective in getting her children to sit still and be quiet during an important meeting, I turned around and told the kids to be quiet myself. It worked and I would do it again, if needed.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Storytime, school performances, informational meetings...all things in which I've had to sit through trying to hear the speaker/performance while listening to screaming or talking from kids not taken out by their parents. It's incredibly rude.

+1 I am starting to think that we now have to turn to the parent and politely request that they please remove their child. Common courtesy is no longer common.

[Anonymous]

Yes, grandma, you are crabby. Turn down the judgment and consider why a reasonable person might make such a choice. For example, sometimes you can head off a tantrum with the right kind of early attention, and if you're sitting at an event (or, say, you're in a grocery store halfway through a shop with a cart of stuff) it's often worth trying to recoup your investment of time and not just bailing at the first wail. I'll generally try 2-3 quick (5-15 second) appeasement techniques and if none of them work I'll pick up my kid and leave. (and honestly the appeasement technique that works the best is "ok, we're done here, say bye-bye to everyone, we're leaving!" because she loves to say bye-bye, so sometimes I do that one first.)

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Give the mom a break, she's still figuring it all out. Maybe she'll take her kid out next time. Or not, maybe the rules of parenting today are changing and the world will be taken over by entitled brats. Either way get over it.

Not OP but NO! I will not give bad mothers "a break". It is simple common courtesy to remove your screaming kid from a public venue, Common courtesy which you clearly do not have, PP, or you would never post something so ludicrous.

I am with you, OP. I am an older mother and it shocks me that so many other mothers are so stunningly rude and narcissistic.

OK, so what will you do? Besides complain about it on DCUM.

Yesterday, after the mother proved to be completely ineffective in getting her children to sit still and be quiet during an important meeting, I turned around and told the kids to be quiet myself. It worked and I would do it again, if needed.

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[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Give the mom a break, she's still figuring it all out. Maybe she'll take her kid out next time. Or not, maybe the rules of parenting today are changing and the world will be taken over by entitled brats. Either way get over it.

Not OP but NO! I will not give bad mothers "a break". It is simple common courtesy to remove your screaming kid from a public venue, Common courtesy which you clearly do not have, PP, or you would never post something so ludicrous.

I am with you, OP. I am an older mother and it shocks me that so many other mothers are so stunningly rude and narcissistic.

OK, so what will you do? Besides complain about it on DCUM.

Yesterday, after the mother proved to be completely ineffective in getting her children to sit still and be quiet during an important meeting, I turned around and told the kids to be quiet myself. It worked and I would do it again, if needed.

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An information meeting about a kids' activity. It was important that we get the info we need for the event.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Give the mom a break, she's still figuring it all out. Maybe she'll take her kid out next time. Or not, maybe the rules of parenting today are changing and the world will be taken over by entitled brats. Either way get over it.

Not OP but NO! I will not give bad mothers "a break". It is simple common courtesy to remove your screaming kid from a public venue, Common courtesy which you clearly do not have, PP, or you would never post something so ludicrous.

I am with you, OP. I am an older mother and it shocks me that so many other mothers are so stunningly rude and narcissistic.

OK, so what will you do? Besides complain about it on DCUM.

Yesterday, after the mother proved to be completely ineffective in getting her children to sit still and be quiet during an important meeting, I turned around and told the kids to be quiet myself. It worked and I would do it again, if needed.

???

An information meeting about a kids' activity. It was important that we get the info we need for the event.

10:22 here. So she was clearly hesitant to leave the meeting bc then she'd miss the important information, her kids weren't responding to her techniques, and they did respond to a stranger (not surprising, since mom tells them what to do all day every day, and yo ugave them a big pattern interrupt). Seems like a win-win to me: kids quieted down and nobody had to miss out on the information.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Give the mom a break, she's still figuring it all out. Maybe she'll take her kid out next time. Or not, maybe the rules of parenting today are changing and the world will be taken over by entitled brats. Either way get over it.

Not OP but NO! I will not give bad mothers "a break". It is simple common courtesy to remove your screaming kid from a public venue, Common courtesy which you clearly do not have, PP, or you would never post something so ludicrous.

I am with you, OP. I am an older mother and it shocks me that so many other mothers are so stunningly rude and narcissistic.

You need to get over it too. Channel some Elsa and let it go.

I mean, really, do it matter in the long run? It does not.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Give the mom a break, she's still figuring it all out. Maybe she'll take her kid out next time. Or not, maybe the rules of parenting today are changing and the world will be taken over by entitled brats. Either way get over it.

Not OP but NO! I will not give bad mothers "a break". It is simple common courtesy to remove your screaming kid from a public venue, Common courtesy which you clearly do not have, PP, or you would never post something so ludicrous.

I am with you, OP. I am an older mother and it shocks me that so many other mothers are so stunningly rude and narcissistic.

OK, so what will you do? Besides complain about it on DCUM.

Yesterday, after the mother proved to be completely ineffective in getting her children to sit still and be quiet during an important meeting, I turned around and told the kids to be quiet myself. It worked and I would do it again, if needed.

But that's the point, the info was important for EVERYONE to hear. She made the decision to bring her children, she should be the only one inconvenienced in that situation.

???

An information meeting about a kids' activity. It was important that we get the info we need for the event.

10:22 here. So she was clearly hesitant to leave the meeting bc then she'd miss the important information, her kids weren't responding to her techniques, and they did respond to a stranger (not surprising, since mom tells them what to do all day every day, and yo ugave them a big pattern interrupt). Seems like a win-win to me: kids quieted down and nobody had to miss out on the information.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Give the mom a break, she's still figuring it all out. Maybe she'll take her kid out next time. Or not, maybe the rules of parenting today are changing and the world will be taken over by entitled brats. Either way get over it.

Not OP but NO! I will not give bad mothers "a break". It is simple common courtesy to remove your screaming kid from a public venue, Common courtesy which you clearly do not have, PP, or you would never post something so ludicrous.

I am with you, OP. I am an older mother and it shocks me that so many other mothers are so stunningly rude and narcissistic.

OK, so what will you do? Besides complain about it on DCUM.

Yesterday, after the mother proved to be completely ineffective in getting her children to sit still and be quiet during an important meeting, I turned around and told the kids to be quiet myself. It worked and I would do it again, if needed.

???

An information meeting about a kids' activity. It was important that we get the info we need for the event.

10:22 here. So she was clearly hesitant to leave the meeting bc then she'd miss the important information, her kids weren't responding to her techniques, and they did respond to a stranger (not surprising, since mom tells them what to do all day every day, and yo ugave them a big pattern interrupt). Seems like a win-win to me: kids quieted down and nobody had to miss out on the information.

But that's the point, the info was important for EVERYONE to hear. She made the decision to bring her children, she should be the only one inconvenienced in that situation.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Give the mom a break, she's still figuring it all out. Maybe she'll take her kid out next time. Or not, maybe the rules of parenting today are changing and the world will be taken over by entitled brats. Either way get over it.

Not OP but NO! I will not give bad mothers "a break". It is simple common courtesy to remove your screaming kid from a public venue, Common courtesy which you clearly do not have, PP, or you would never post something so ludicrous.

I am with you, OP. I am an older mother and it shocks me that so many other mothers are so stunningly rude and narcissistic.

OK, so what will you do? Besides complain about it on DCUM.

Yesterday, after the mother proved to be completely ineffective in getting her children to sit still and be quiet during an important meeting, I turned around and told the kids to be quiet myself. It worked and I would do it again, if needed.

???

An information meeting about a kids' activity. It was important that we get the info we need for the event.

LOL! VERY IMPORTANT meeting! Hahahaha.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:+3 I'm not old either, and I think it's rude, but also doesn't teach the kid anything. It's like - if you scream, we leave. The end. Natural consequences.

+4 And we all know how rotten those children are going to turn out. This is the height of teaching "entitlement".

Well, if our parents were strict and caused us to be permissive maybe our children will go back to strict, the Alex P. Keaton effect.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Give the mom a break, she's still figuring it all out. Maybe she'll take her kid out next time. Or not, maybe the rules of parenting today are changing and the world will be taken over by entitled brats. Either way get over it.

Not OP but NO! I will not give bad mothers "a break". It is simple common courtesy to remove your screaming kid from a public venue, Common courtesy which you clearly do not have, PP, or you would never post something so ludicrous.

I am with you, OP. I am an older mother and it shocks me that so many other mothers are so stunningly rude and narcissistic.

OK, so what will you do? Besides complain about it on DCUM.

Yesterday, after the mother proved to be completely ineffective in getting her children to sit still and be quiet during an important meeting, I turned around and told the kids to be quiet myself. It worked and I would do it again, if needed.

???

An information meeting about a kids' activity. It was important that we get the info we need for the event.

LOL! VERY IMPORTANT meeting! Hahahaha.

Yes, there are informational meetings about our kids' activities that are important. Missing it would be mean we would have no idea what to do on during the event. Thanks!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Give the mom a break, she's still figuring it all out. Maybe she'll take her kid out next time. Or not, maybe the rules of parenting today are changing and the world will be taken over by entitled brats. Either way get over it.

Not OP but NO! I will not give bad mothers "a break". It is simple common courtesy to remove your screaming kid from a public venue, Common courtesy which you clearly do not have, PP, or you would never post something so ludicrous.

I am with you, OP. I am an older mother and it shocks me that so many other mothers are so stunningly rude and narcissistic.

OK, so what will you do? Besides complain about it on DCUM.

Yesterday, after the mother proved to be completely ineffective in getting her children to sit still and be quiet during an important meeting, I turned around and told the kids to be quiet myself. It worked and I would do it again, if needed.

???

An information meeting about a kids' activity. It was important that we get the info we need for the event.

10:22 here. So she was clearly hesitant to leave the meeting bc then she'd miss the important information, her kids weren't responding to her techniques, and they did respond to a stranger (not surprising, since mom tells them what to do all day every day, and yo ugave them a big pattern interrupt). Seems like a win-win to me: kids quieted down and nobody had to miss out on the information.

But that's the point, the info was important for EVERYONE to hear. She made the decision to bring her children, she should be the only one inconvenienced in that situation.

I just don't get why you and those similar to you choose the judgy route and not the empathy route. She needed the info just as much as you did. Nobody brings their kids to these things because they want to bore their kids and possibly inconvenience everyone else, they do it because they have to for some reason or other. You don't know what went into her decision to bring them, so why judge the decision? Just because you were able to make a different one?

And then, in the end, you helped her. It took a village to raise her kids that day, and it ended well for everyone. So why not be proud of yourself that you helped someone who was in a spot in a way that had absolutely no cost to you and was good for the community you're both a part of? Why instead choose to judge and see yourself superior to her, just because you had the resources ot make another choice? Don't you get how your response makes YOU the rude one here, defined as "inconsiderate of others"? And you are all the ruder because YOU had a choice about whether to judge this person--much more of a choice than she likely had about bringing her kids to such an important meeting.

[Anonymous]

Everyone keeps saying the moms, but the dads do it too. There is some TERRIBLE behavior at my son's EC activity. The dad just ignores it, if he even shows up.

[Anonymous]

Ugh.