Poll: What do you miss the most about single life?

[Anonymous]

Oh gosh...never checking in with anyone. Not like it's hard, and I don't mind, but if you're asking, yes, I would love it if my husband went off to some place w no cell service and stopped texting me for a week about what I was up to or where each of us where or what we had for lunch.

Also the checking in, I would love it if he couldn't see what I bought. "What did you order at starbucks this morning?" I know he's trying to make conversation but he's asking bc he's paying bills and look at the transactions...

Quiet. I don't like TV and it's always on. I wish I could have an entire evening of no TV. I miss the quiet and the lack of questions.

God I sound like a grouch, he's really a great husband.

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Anonymous wrote:Oh gosh...never checking in with anyone. Not like it's hard, and I don't mind, but if you're asking, yes, I would love it if my husband went off to some place w no cell service and stopped texting me for a week about what I was up to or where each of us where or what we had for lunch.

Also the checking in, I would love it if he couldn't see what I bought. "What did you order at starbucks this morning?" I know he's trying to make conversation but he's asking bc he's paying bills and look at the transactions...

Quiet. I don't like TV and it's always on. I wish I could have an entire evening of no TV. I miss the quiet and the lack of questions.

God I sound like a grouch, he's really a great husband.

Don't use a debit card?

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Anonymous wrote:Poaching bobcats without anyone checking for my whereabouts.

how did nobody laugh at this???

thanks- I was proud of that post then disappointed at the lack of responses.

I laughed out loud!

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Anonymous wrote:I'm happily married and do all of the thing that you people say you can't. What's with the limits? Does your spouse place them on you or do you place them on yourself?

Same here, but I married an awesome life partner.

You make plans on how to spend your time and money without consulting your partner or taking his or her wants and needs into consideration?

Who said that?

You can do everything listed in 12:12 on a Saturday with absolutely no discussion or coordination with your spouse?

Yes. I don't have to consult with my husband if I do these things. If I'm going to leave the house, I tell him. Otherwise, no.
I choose what I want to do with myself and he chooses what he wants to for him.
We don't put limitations on each other. We know what our relationship is and how we want it to be.

[Anonymous]

Leaving work whenever the f* I want to, without worrying about the schedule for picking up kids and making dinner.

Traveling without having to coordinate with anyone else.

Hot sex with a new partner. I really miss the thrill of discovering a mutual attraction with someone new.

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Anonymous wrote:I'm happily married and do all of the thing that you people say you can't. What's with the limits? Does your spouse place them on you or do you place them on yourself?

Kids came shortly after marriage for me so that pretty much put an end to bar hopping, sleeping in, taking off on spur of the moment road trips and fixing (or not fixing) whatever I felt like for meals. I love my family, wouldn't trade them for the world but my life is absolutely very different from when I was single and not answering to anyone or responsible for anyone but myself.

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Anonymous wrote:I'm happily married and do all of the thing that you people say you can't. What's with the limits? Does your spouse place them on you or do you place them on yourself?

Kids came shortly after marriage for me so that pretty much put an end to bar hopping, sleeping in, taking off on spur of the moment road trips and fixing (or not fixing) whatever I felt like for meals. I love my family, wouldn't trade them for the world but my life is absolutely very different from when I was single and not answering to anyone or responsible for anyone but myself.

This is exactly why we've decided against having children.

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Anonymous wrote:I'm happily married and do all of the thing that you people say you can't. What's with the limits? Does your spouse place them on you or do you place them on yourself?

Same here, but I married an awesome life partner.

You make plans on how to spend your time and money without consulting your partner or taking his or her wants and needs into consideration?

Who said that?

You can do everything listed in 12:12 on a Saturday with absolutely no discussion or coordination with your spouse?

Yes. I don't have to consult with my husband if I do these things. If I'm going to leave the house, I tell him. Otherwise, no.
I choose what I want to do with myself and he chooses what he wants to for him.
We don't put limitations on each other. We know what our relationship is and how we want it to be.

I'm sure that you tell him where you are and when you'll be home. If you're running late you call to let him know. That's just basic common courtesy and all apart of being married and in love with each other. When you were single (unattached) you probably didn't have to answer to anyone, you were free to go wherever, whenever and didn't have to tell anyone else about your plans.

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Anonymous wrote:I'm happily married and do all of the thing that you people say you can't. What's with the limits? Does your spouse place them on you or do you place them on yourself?

Kids came shortly after marriage for me so that pretty much put an end to bar hopping, sleeping in, taking off on spur of the moment road trips and fixing (or not fixing) whatever I felt like for meals. I love my family, wouldn't trade them for the world but my life is absolutely very different from when I was single and not answering to anyone or responsible for anyone but myself.

This is exactly why we've decided against having children.

This is exactly why we had a decade together - just us - before we had our children. We were ready to be parents when the kids came along .

[Anonymous]

Thanks to poaching bobcats poster. Made me laugh hard.

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Anonymous wrote:I'm happily married and do all of the thing that you people say you can't. What's with the limits? Does your spouse place them on you or do you place them on yourself?

Same here, but I married an awesome life partner.

You make plans on how to spend your time and money without consulting your partner or taking his or her wants and needs into consideration?

Who said that?

You can do everything listed in 12:12 on a Saturday with absolutely no discussion or coordination with your spouse?

Yes. I don't have to consult with my husband if I do these things. If I'm going to leave the house, I tell him. Otherwise, no.
I choose what I want to do with myself and he chooses what he wants to for him.
We don't put limitations on each other. We know what our relationship is and how we want it to be.

I'm sure that you tell him where you are and when you'll be home. If you're running late you call to let him know. That's just basic common courtesy and all apart of being married and in love with each other. When you were single (unattached) you probably didn't have to answer to anyone, you were free to go wherever, whenever and didn't have to tell anyone else about your plans.

True, but a quick text telling DH that I'm going to happy hour is hardly something to be upset about.

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Anonymous wrote:I'm happily married and do all of the thing that you people say you can't. What's with the limits? Does your spouse place them on you or do you place them on yourself?

Same here, but I married an awesome life partner.

You make plans on how to spend your time and money without consulting your partner or taking his or her wants and needs into consideration?

Who said that?

You can do everything listed in 12:12 on a Saturday with absolutely no discussion or coordination with your spouse?

Yes. I don't have to consult with my husband if I do these things. If I'm going to leave the house, I tell him. Otherwise, no.
I choose what I want to do with myself and he chooses what he wants to for him.
We don't put limitations on each other. We know what our relationship is and how we want it to be.

I'm sure that you tell him where you are and when you'll be home. If you're running late you call to let him know. That's just basic common courtesy and all apart of being married and in love with each other. When you were single (unattached) you probably didn't have to answer to anyone, you were free to go wherever, whenever and didn't have to tell anyone else about your plans.

True, but a quick text telling DH that I'm going to happy hour is hardly something to be upset about.

No but you are aware throughout the evening that he is waiting for you to be home at a certain time and if you start running past that time you probably text him again to let him know that you're running late. And at a certain point you are probably aware that he will not be too happy with you if you stay gone much longer...

When you're single you just do what you feel like doing. If you feel like staying out until 1 am, you stay out. No need to explain (or text) anyone.

[Anonymous]

I simply miss new sex with new people. Also, I miss being able to rationalize not using a condom. Now that I'm married and there's someone else to consider, stepping out will be found out if I bring home an std or get someone pregnant.

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Anonymous wrote:I'm happily married and do all of the thing that you people say you can't. What's with the limits? Does your spouse place them on you or do you place them on yourself?

Same here, but I married an awesome life partner.

You make plans on how to spend your time and money without consulting your partner or taking his or her wants and needs into consideration?

Who said that?

You can do everything listed in 12:12 on a Saturday with absolutely no discussion or coordination with your spouse?

Yes. I don't have to consult with my husband if I do these things. If I'm going to leave the house, I tell him. Otherwise, no.
I choose what I want to do with myself and he chooses what he wants to for him.
We don't put limitations on each other. We know what our relationship is and how we want it to be.

I'm sure that you tell him where you are and when you'll be home. If you're running late you call to let him know. That's just basic common courtesy and all apart of being married and in love with each other. When you were single (unattached) you probably didn't have to answer to anyone, you were free to go wherever, whenever and didn't have to tell anyone else about your plans.

True, but a quick text telling DH that I'm going to happy hour is hardly something to be upset about.

No but you are aware throughout the evening that he is waiting for you to be home at a certain time and if you start running past that time you probably text him again to let him know that you're running late. And at a certain point you are probably aware that he will not be too happy with you if you stay gone much longer...

When you're single you just do what you feel like doing. If you feel like staying out until 1 am, you stay out. No need to explain (or text) anyone.

That's not the way my marriage works.

[Anonymous]

Laying on the couch for hours and binging on TV and wine.