MIL zips husbands zipper right in front of me

[Anonymous]

Hubby and I stopped SIL's classroom after school one day to sign some papers. As her co-workers was standing in the room, SIL tucked my DH's shirt in his pants as he bent over to sign the papers. I regret not saying something to embarrass her like "a little lower and that would be incest."

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Hubby and I stopped SIL's classroom after school one day to sign some papers. As her co-workers was standing in the room, SIL tucked my DH's shirt in his pants as he bent over to sign the papers. I regret not saying something to embarrass her like "a little lower and that would be incest."

Wow! You have a dirty and nasty mind. You want to insult and embarrass your SIL or your DH? You are casting aspersions on the relationship between a brother and a sister? What brought that on? Did you get sexually abused by your male relatives as a child? Because that would be the only scenario that would justify such a thought.

[Anonymous]

This is not a silly little thing. This is a grown man. It is incredibly inappropriate for his mother to zip his fly. How bizarre some of you are. You clearly don't understand healthy boundaries.

I vote emotional incest. His mother probably still wishes he was five. It is emasculating and infantilizing.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:After she zipped him you should've 'arranged' him. That would've shown her who's really boss

LOL!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This is not a silly little thing. This is a grown man. It is incredibly inappropriate for his mother to zip his fly. How bizarre some of you are. You clearly don't understand healthy boundaries.

I vote emotional incest. His mother probably still wishes he was five. It is emasculating and infantilizing.

I agree. There's some degree of grossly inappropriate behavior, to put it mildly.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Hubby and I stopped SIL's classroom after school one day to sign some papers. As her co-workers was standing in the room, SIL tucked my DH's shirt in his pants as he bent over to sign the papers. I regret not saying something to embarrass her like "a little lower and that would be incest."

Wow! You have a dirty and nasty mind. You want to insult and embarrass your SIL or your DH? You are casting aspersions on the relationship between a brother and a sister? What brought that on? Did you get sexually abused by your male relatives as a child? Because that would be the only scenario that would justify such a thought.

+1 Clearly some cold fish families here.

[Anonymous]

I am very warm and affectionate. It's just weird to zip your adult sons pants. It would be weird if I did that to my dad, my dad did that to me, or even if my mom zipped my pants. A simple xyz goes a long way. And for those who say the act was reflexive, really? May be for a ten year old boy but not for a grown man....it has been quite some time since this is something she would have done. The MIL sounds like a nightmare because she is.

[Anonymous]

I understand the situation with the SIL and hubby. The DW chose the option most offensive to put SIL in her place. DH probably would have added a little distance with his sister.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It's his mother, right? She swooped in as she would have done when he was a kid, that's all.

Weird and creepy!

No this really happened--she is a control freak which is why I took issue with her doing it right in front of me. She is very territorial of her son so I guess I felt like she was doing it to sow me she is still the boss and in control. When I asked my husband about it he said he didn't even think of reacting but yes he thought it was weird. She is an attractive women who dresses at times too young for her age and who is having a very hard time with aging. Glad to know that I wasn't just being hard on her. My husband tends to be defensive and deflect blame or weirdness on to me. Guess you all can gather that I don't like mu mother in law very much! We have three children and she refuses to call me to see how they are just calls DH. She so passive aggressive. It's strange because when we are together we actually have a pretty pleasant time--not with standing the investable underhanded compliment or the slight that I only realize after the fact.

1. yes her actions were weird. But the bigger issue is your husband's response. That's the big WTF! Why was he ok with this? Why didn't he say anything?

2. DH is her son why the hell would she call you when she can I don't know call her child?

[Anonymous]

Well, at least she didn't unzip him LOL

Chill, OP. OK, it's weird. Like so many things in life. Lighten up.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This is not a silly little thing. This is a grown man. It is incredibly inappropriate for his mother to zip his fly. How bizarre some of you are. You clearly don't understand healthy boundaries.

I vote emotional incest. His mother probably still wishes he was five. It is emasculating and infantilizing.

Are you in therapy? You should be!

[Anonymous]

The Buick is out of the barn!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Well, at least she didn't unzip him LOL

Chill, OP. OK, it's weird. Like so many things in life. Lighten up.

So she did it once or she does it all the time? If this is the one and only time you've witnessed this, I would say you are overreacting.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I find it weird that she invaded his personal space and manually zipped up his pants and that she did it while I his wife of 10 years was staring right there. Thoughts? I'd this weird? Husband did not react.

Did everyone have a chuckle then? Was this in public? Why didn't she just say Go do your zipper?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If your DH's zipper was unzipped and he was unaware, she probably did on reflex instead of telling him to zip his pants.

Am I the only one to think this is pretty funny?

+1
and i would have laughed and said "you know that was wayyyyy weird, right?"