Mom "swearing" around child

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:No, I don't want to cut off contact. I didn't want to get those kind of replies.

And no, I don't think it's being uptight because we don't want our 15 month old repeating that.

You idiot. What kind of responses did you think you'd get here, LOL. Seriously? Cut off contact for OMG out of your mother. You've got MUCH bigger battles ahead of you.

At least I don't call people names.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I realize this is something that our family is picky about, but it's something we feel strongly about. My mother has no problems with the phrases "Oh, my God" or "Jesus Christ!" and such. DH and I are uncomfortable with those and do not want DS picking them up. When I ask her to please refrain around him, well, you can guess her response. "Jesus Christ, stop being so uptight!" Any suggestions for us? Besides cutting off contact?

I don't have a problem with "Oh my God". For some irrational reason, "Jesus Christ!" sounds worse to me.

You can't control your mother, she's an adult. You can, however, control your child. If he says those phrases, you can remind him: "We don't say that in our family. You can say [insert acceptable alternative] instead. Let's try: say [whatever is acceptable to you]".

Your child shall of course object that Grandma does say these things. Tell him: "It does not matter if Grandma does. Your father and I make the rule for this house. You can say [acceptable alternative] or you can [consequence you would use for disobedience]".

[Anonymous]

I agree with what PP said. Your mom raised you, and we assume she said Oh my God now and then. Yet here you are, alive and well, and quite squeamish about language.

You can't control the world. You teach your kids what is appropriate behavior for them, as kids and in different settings.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I realize this is something that our family is picky about, but it's something we feel strongly about. My mother has no problems with the phrases "Oh, my God" or "Jesus Christ!" and such. DH and I are uncomfortable with those and do not want DS picking them up. When I ask her to please refrain around him, well, you can guess her response. "Jesus Christ, stop being so uptight!" Any suggestions for us? Besides cutting off contact?

Cutting off contact, OP? For real? Your kids should be able to differentiate that sometimes adults are not perfect, and some thing are acceptable for grandma but not you.

For example, my kids' call their best friends' parents by their first names. We don't do that here, in our house. So? No big deal.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I realize this is something that our family is picky about, but it's something we feel strongly about. My mother has no problems with the phrases "Oh, my God" or "Jesus Christ!" and such. DH and I are uncomfortable with those and do not want DS picking them up. When I ask her to please refrain around him, well, you can guess her response. "Jesus Christ, stop being so uptight!" Any suggestions for us? Besides cutting off contact?

Cutting off contact, OP? For real? Your kids should be able to differentiate that sometimes adults are not perfect, and some thing are acceptable for grandma but not you.

Clearly you didn't read the thread.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My parents are like this as well OP. Although my say all of the crap words I don't want my kids saying. It is very annoying. Here's what I did. The one time she was over her and she kept swearing I looked at my DC and said those are adult words that you are not allowed to say. If you do, you will go into time out. I did this right in front of her. She now tries to watch her mouth in front of my kids. Since your mom is not going to stop, just parent your kids if they start repeating the words. (my mom hates seeing my kids in time out, they usually cry when they are in there)

My kids would love it if I highlighted the words they are not supposed to use, the words that will get a rise out of me. Would definitely make them pay more attention.

[Anonymous]

"Those are grownup words. They're not for kids."

To your kid, NOT your mom.

The end.

[Anonymous]

I curse around my children and yes they have picked it up. My daughter will tell me that her brother is fucking around. My son will say the word shit when something exciting happens on his favorite cartoon. They use these words correctly and ONLY in my company. They know that these are powerful words and that they will get punished by their teachers or any other adult who hears them.

What I won't tolerate is "shut up," which I find quite vulgar. The other stuff is just colorful.

We are good Catholics and understand an exasperated "Jesus Christ, man" as a prayer for strength, not blasphemy.

Flame away.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My SIL didn't want that kind of talk around her kids. I made a point to make sure my children and husband didn't use that language in their house.

However, she also didn't like the word "stupid" used, in any context. That one I just ignored. You have to draw the line somewhere

Its funny to me because my mom's ONE big thing was to never, ever use the words stupid, dumb etc. when we were kids. Even if we were talking about behavior and not a person, it just made her angry because she thinks its really damaging. Not sure how right she is but it interesting that I could probably say "shit" in her presence by the time I was in HS but not "you are being stupid" to my sister!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

I curse around my children and yes they have picked it up. My daughter will tell me that her brother is fucking around. My son will say the word shit when something exciting happens on his favorite cartoon. They use these words correctly and ONLY in my company. They know that these are powerful words and that they will get punished by their teachers or any other adult who hears them.

What I won't tolerate is "shut up," which I find quite vulgar. The other stuff is just colorful.

We are good Catholics and understand an exasperated "Jesus Christ, man" as a prayer for strength, not blasphemy.

Flame away.

I agree. "Shut up" is vulgar and disrespectful.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:


We are good Catholics and understand an exasperated "Jesus Christ, man" as a prayer for strength, not blasphemy.

Except "Jesus Christ, you're a fucking moron!" isn't a prayer for strength.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Id limit contact. Your mom is crass and arrogant.

I'm an atheist. But you don't talk that way.

She may be crass but how is she arrogant? You and OP are nuts.