Mom "swearing" around child

[Anonymous]

My MIL does this too. She says things like "Oh my Lord" all the time too. She is Catholic and apparently they think it is just fine. Whatever. I just ignore it and tell my kids not to say it. I don't correct her and correct my kids if they correct her; I tell that it is disrespectful to correct their grandparents even if they do something that kids aren't allowed to do.

Kids have to learn boundaries and one of them is that you can't do everything everyone else does. Even Grandma.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My MIL does this too. She says things like "Oh my Lord" all the time too. She is Catholic and apparently they think it is just fine. Whatever. I just ignore it and tell my kids not to say it. I don't correct her and correct my kids if they correct her; I tell that it is disrespectful to correct their grandparents even if they do something that kids aren't allowed to do.

Kids have to learn boundaries and one of them is that you can't do everything everyone else does. Even Grandma.

I don't think "oh my Lord" is blasphemy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I realize this is something that our family is picky about, but it's something we feel strongly about. My mother has no problems with the phrases "Oh, my God" or "Jesus Christ!" and such. DH and I are uncomfortable with those and do not want DS picking them up. When I ask her to please refrain around him, well, you can guess her response. "Jesus Christ, stop being so uptight!" Any suggestions for us? Besides cutting off contact?

holy shit! you consider THAT bad language?! lol, good luck to you. enjoy homeschooling.

[Anonymous]

I thought you meant more in line of "F***** A*****"

This is TAME.

[Anonymous]

I'm with you, OP. We don't talk like that in our house. I'm not sure what the solution is, but it would bother me as well. My children are college and high school age. I'm sure they say all kinds of things when they are with their friends. They know better than to talk like around me.

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Anonymous wrote:My MIL does this too. She says things like "Oh my Lord" all the time too. She is Catholic and apparently they think it is just fine. Whatever. I just ignore it and tell my kids not to say it. I don't correct her and correct my kids if they correct her; I tell that it is disrespectful to correct their grandparents even if they do something that kids aren't allowed to do.

Kids have to learn boundaries and one of them is that you can't do everything everyone else does. Even Grandma.

I don't think "oh my Lord" is blasphemy.

Well I do. She says "Oh my God" and "Jesus Christ" too. all for the same exclamation kinds of things. It's annoying and I consider it inappropriate for a kid to say.

[Anonymous]

PP here -- and for those of you who think this is tame, I actually agree. I am a very tame person. And so are my kids. And I like it that way, and intend on keeping it that way!

[Anonymous]

Your kids don't go to school ? Wait until the little comes home saying someone tried to put a dick in it's ear while at the family gathering.

Then repeats it over and over and over ... The joys of motherhood.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I thought you meant more in line of "F***** A*****"

This is TAME.

My title is "swearing".

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:PP here -- and for those of you who think this is tame, I actually agree. I am a very tame person. And so are my kids. And I like it that way, and intend on keeping it that way!

Same here. And I actually feel better about worse profanity than I do about blasphemy. DH in particular has cleaned up his mouth a LOT.

[Anonymous]

OP, I'm surprised everyone is so okay with this. I'm not uptight and swear like a sailor most of the time, but watch my mouth around my kids and at work. I especially avoid saying "Jesus Christ" because I know that offends some people and I don't want my kids to repeat it. "Damnit" is my Achilles heel for bad words, and my DC once repeated it over and over while I wheeled her around the grocery store in the cart. It was very embarrassing. I can understand why you don't want your 15 month old repeating that stuff.

Is it going to cause lasting damage to your child? Of course not, but your mom should respect your wishes in your home, especially if you and your DH are religious. What about setting up a swear jar? Tell her that if she's going to speak like that around your house, she can add to the swear jar and you'll put that money in DC's 529.

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Anonymous wrote:My MIL does this too. She says things like "Oh my Lord" all the time too. She is Catholic and apparently they think it is just fine. Whatever. I just ignore it and tell my kids not to say it. I don't correct her and correct my kids if they correct her; I tell that it is disrespectful to correct their grandparents even if they do something that kids aren't allowed to do.

Kids have to learn boundaries and one of them is that you can't do everything everyone else does. Even Grandma.

I don't think "oh my Lord" is blasphemy.

Well I do. She says "Oh my God" and "Jesus Christ" too. all for the same exclamation kinds of things. It's annoying and I consider it inappropriate for a kid to say.

FWIW, historically, saying, "Jesus Christ!" or "Jesus, Mary, and Joseph!" in times of frustration and sorrow is considered a prayer, not blasphemy at all. In fact, in times when prayers were assigned specific values for indulgences from time in Purgatory, you'd actually get days of indulgences for every time you uttered them. I have an entire chapter of a prayer book listing "Indulgenced Ejaculations", and I believe "Jesus Christ!" is assigned 2 days off. I am not kidding. This may be something your MIL is completely unaware of, as it was fairly common knowledge among Catholics a few generations ago, not one generation back. My book is from the 1930's.

I urge you to consider whether your God is really strong enough to take the "insult" here, when none whatsoever is intended, and in fact, the cultural etymology of the utterance is reaching out to God for support and help during times of surprise or difficulty.

also, unclench.

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Anonymous wrote:My parents are like this as well OP. Although my say all of the crap words I don't want my kids saying. It is very annoying. Here's what I did. The one time she was over her and she kept swearing I looked at my DC and said those are adult words that you are not allowed to say. If you do, you will go into time out. I did this right in front of her. She now tries to watch her mouth in front of my kids. Since your mom is not going to stop, just parent your kids if they start repeating the words. (my mom hates seeing my kids in time out, they usually cry when they are in there)

Winner, winner! Chicken dinner!

Some families have a code word to alert kids to unacceptable language from others.

We do the same.

What's your code? How does that work?

I don't know why people are being so hard on OP. She doesn't want her child to hear words she considers offensive when they're at the age where who knows what they'll pick up. That seems fair. I never swore in front of my son until one day I said shit and guess what word my 15-month-old repeated all morning? Yep.

She mentioned cutting off contact, that is not a proportional response to something that many people would not consider swearing.

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Anonymous wrote:My parents are like this as well OP. Although my say all of the crap words I don't want my kids saying. It is very annoying. Here's what I did. The one time she was over her and she kept swearing I looked at my DC and said those are adult words that you are not allowed to say. If you do, you will go into time out. I did this right in front of her. She now tries to watch her mouth in front of my kids. Since your mom is not going to stop, just parent your kids if they start repeating the words. (my mom hates seeing my kids in time out, they usually cry when they are in there)

Winner, winner! Chicken dinner!

Some families have a code word to alert kids to unacceptable language from others.

We do the same.

What's your code? How does that work?

I don't know why people are being so hard on OP. She doesn't want her child to hear words she considers offensive when they're at the age where who knows what they'll pick up. That seems fair. I never swore in front of my son until one day I said shit and guess what word my 15-month-old repeated all morning? Yep.

She mentioned cutting off contact, that is not a proportional response to something that many people would not consider swearing.

Again, I gave that as an example of advice I didn't want to hear, because obviously that would be insane.

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Anonymous wrote:No, I don't want to cut off contact. I didn't want to get those kind of replies.

And no, I don't think it's being uptight because we don't want our 15 month old repeating that.

You idiot. What kind of responses did you think you'd get here, LOL. Seriously? Cut off contact for OMG out of your mother. You've got MUCH bigger battles ahead of you.