Would you live apart from your spouse for the summer (minus weekends)?

[Anonymous]

We did it before for work reasons, but kids weren't in the picture. I don't think either of us would want to be solely responsible for three kids.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:DH here. No way. The best part of my day is coming home. Two or 3 weeks would be OK. Anymore and I would really miss my boys and wife.

I love you. Your wife and kids are lucky!

There's no way my DH would agree either--he'd want to be the one with the kids at the beach!

Though I know he would miss me too.

[Anonymous]

such a dilemma - sounds like heaven for me and the kids!! DH travels all the time though and I work full-time so this isn't a huge stretch from our 'normal'

[Anonymous]

If wife is ok with it - because she's the one doing the heavy lifting, parenting-wise - then go for it.

I look at it as kind of like a deployment. My ex gets deployed sometimes for 3-4 months. During that time he doesn't get to see us at all. It's tough, but we manage. We do get into a routine pretty quickly, we have more babysitters on call for when I need a break, but mostly it goes pretty smoothly.

[Anonymous]

OP - I say do it, if you're comfortable. You won't not see your spouse for the entire time, which could be concerning for some married folks. You are just talking about not seeing each other day to day, but at the same time having new adventures, having a new normal for a while and come fall, probably have a whole new take for your school-year life. I think it's a growth opportunity for the whole family.

[Anonymous]

^^And Bravo for listening to your kid's needs around re-charging and not enjoying being over scheduled!!

[Anonymous]

If mom is fine with it and affording that time at the beach is no problem....hell yea.

[Anonymous]

only if we had an easy set up at the beach. I wouldn't want to lug all of the beach gear too far all by myself every single day. so maybe if it was beachfront.

better yet, I'd invite some family to join us at various points over the summer to get a break.

[Anonymous]

I have to ask the obvious....do those of you posting in favor of this not have sex during the week with your spouses? No way would I give up the possibility of that for a whole summer.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP - I say do it, if you're comfortable. You won't not see your spouse for the entire time, which could be concerning for some married folks. You are just talking about not seeing each other day to day, but at the same time having new adventures, having a new normal for a while and come fall, probably have a whole new take for your school-year life. I think it's a growth opportunity for the whole family.

How is this a growth opportunity for DH?

[Anonymous]

this is standard in NY. But when DH hops off the Hampton Jitney on Sunday nights, he's off to his gf

[Anonymous]

dh's parents did this, although the beach house was only 45min to an hour away from their primary home. his parents divorced, there were other women, and the separation but for weekends was not healthy.